Do you want to have kids? Why and Why Not?

@claire03 (1444)
United States
August 15, 2007 8:16am CST
i just want to know how many people wants to really have kids thats why i'm asking this question. Well, i just thought that some people are just ok not to have their own kids. Maybe because they are too old already to have kids or just plain reason that they really don't wanna have kids because they don't like to have one? You know i really like kids and we're already planning to have kids in the near future. I don't really mind if it would be a girl or a boy as long as it's healthy. Whatever God would give us, we'll happily accept it. Give me some reason if why you want or don't want to have kids. I just would like to have more ideas about this.
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@izathewzia (5141)
• Philippines
2 Nov 07
When I was still single I am dreaming of having my own family- a husband and our very own children. I grew up in a very problematic and not so happy family. So, i said to myself then I want a family of my own different from what I used to have. Luckily, I now have my own. And yes, having children is the most precious and memorable experience a person could ever have. It makes me a better and stronger person.
@Modestah (11192)
• United States
26 Jan 08
Claire, I really love having children... I love being pregnant, I love the sickness too. I love the babies and the children and now the young adults... I would love to have a dozen or so more, should it be God's Will. I hear often, doesn't matter, so long as it is healthy. But, Claire, I think you would be just as in love with and happy with a child who is not healthy.
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• United States
18 Jan 08
I have 2 kids and they are the best things in my life. I am so thankful for these little people to be with me. I feel like I really found out who I was when I had kids. Like my whole life fell into place. I know that being a mom was the right decision for me.
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• Romania
18 Dec 07
I love kids and I've seen the power of being a parent. I would like to have (in the future when I'm older) 2 kids, the older a son the youngest a daughter but as you said whatever God would give me I will accept it with open harms, but at least two children i want to have and I would at least one to be girl because when I was little I've made a promise to my mother that if I'll have a daughter I would name after her name.
• United States
18 Dec 07
I don't want any. I'm too selfish to give up things I want or need everytime my kid needs a new pair of shoes or needs to go to the doctor's office. I'm not quitting my job to raise a child nor am I taking some 9-5 boring job. I'm not too old to have kids, KI just don't want them. If you do, fine. But I'm not weird or unwell just because it's my choice.
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@pastorkayte (2255)
• United States
6 Dec 07
I dont want to have anymore children because I already have seven, but I am happy with the ones I have and I just want to have grandchildren.
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@SHAMRACK (8525)
• India
6 Dec 07
Hi, I do like to have kids lots of them only my financial capacity has restrictions and also the consent from the person whom I have those kids or adopt those kids. We all were kids before if nobody like us just think of our situations. I like kids and love them and like to be with them. They are more innocent with pure love.
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• United States
22 Nov 07
Well I already have kids. I have a daughter 16 years old and a son 3. Some people say why?? did you wait so long? I did not wait so long this was God plan ask him. Well I got my girl and my boy I'm done I got my tubes tied on November 13,2007. At least I have a babysitter when I need one.
@youless (97682)
• Guangzhou, China
22 Nov 07
When I was single, I didn't want to have a child because I was afraid of the pain for delivering the baby. When I was married, the baby came unexpectedly. And I had to accept it. Now I feel happy because having a child seems to be perfect for a family. Although sometimes the child will give you some headache, but meanwhile he also brings you happiness. And I work hard for your child and family.
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@muralimn (535)
• United Arab Emirates
22 Nov 07
I already have a son and I wish I have a daughter too in near future. I want 2 kids, 1 boy and 1 girl.
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@jazgottt (1181)
• Poland
2 Nov 07
hi claire. I am the one who likes children, but I don't want to have my own children. My boyfriend has the same point of view. We are not too old or something. We just don't have a need to have children. It is always possible, in about 1% or less;), that we will change our mind in the future. Never say never:). There is one situation when we could became parents - you know, anticonception sometimes fails... but it happens rarely. Having kids is not the worst thing on earth for me. I simply don't have a need to become a parent. I have been thinking about it for quite a long time. I don't change my mind often, so I probably won't become a parent in the future. Take care. jazgottt
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@vokey9472 (1488)
• United States
2 Nov 07
I never wanted kids. My whole life I planned my future without children. Then I found out I was pregnant. I wasn't even going to tell my hubby, I was just going to "take care of it". But for some reason I just couldn't do it. So I told my hubby. 7 months later we welcomed our son into the world. I love that little boy so much it makes me physically ache, I get so overwhelmed by it. I had plenty of reason for not wanting a child. I knew that I was selfish with my time and money. I knew that I didn't want the responisbility that having a child entails. I knew that I wanted the freedom to move about at will. I didn't want to have to deal with medical issues if my child was disabled in any way. I just plain didn't want kids. I also knew that my personality and temper wasn't really the type to be a great mom to anyone. Then I had a child and found out just how wrong I was about myself. Giving up my time and money for my child is a given. I do without stuff so he can have the best that I can afford. It never even occurs to me to not do this. I do not mind not being able to go out and take a trip just because I feel like it, I LOVE spending time with my son. Turns out my temper wasn't as bad as I thought. And my personality, suprisingly enough, I LOVE being silly and doing kid friendly stuff. Turns out I am not half bad as a mommy. I want more kids. I would love to have 3 more kids. I want to have another baby and then I want to adopt some kids. There are so many kids out there who need forever homes. I would even take foster kids. They would always have a home with me. I wouldn't even care how old they were or what ethnic background. I just want to love them. So, you can go from not wanting any kids to wanting a ton of them. I did.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
1 Nov 07
I have two adopted sons, and I had a birth daughter that I gave up because I was not married at the time. I think that age does not matter when you want kids. It is a bad assumption that people do not want children because they are too old. Age is just a number. I do want more children, in fact, if God suddenly let me get pregnant at my age, I would be happy. I love having children around me, when we adopted our sons, and hoping for some more, that was when I was truly happy.
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@lisa_wxy (393)
• China
26 Sep 07
i don't want kids at least in the coming two years.it is not becuase i don't like kids,but also becuase i don't think i am ready for kids.in our country,there is an deep thought in people's mind that kids are the hope of parents.if they have kids,their attention begin to focus on their growth,development.the kids are the core of the entire family.i think it is unfair for parents,they lead a frugal life,but they give their kids whatever they want as much as they can.on the contray,their kids don't make the same way,they take it for granted.they seldom think of their parents' hard work when they spend their money casually.i don't want it will be a reality i have to confront.so if i have kids, i really should pay more attention to these things. i prefer a boy,if possible.my sister have a beautiful and cute daughter.so if i have a boy,it would be perfect for my entire family.
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• Philippines
26 Sep 07
i have 2 kids aready and i really love it of course,when i was young "teenager" i really wanted to have a lot of baby,i love babies so much..my 2 kids really give me true happeness ,they inspire me to work hard and to live good.my 2 kids is the most important to me....
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• United States
25 Sep 07
Well, I do but I dont! lol I have lived so long without a mishap of me getting pregnant, and I feel acustomed to my lifestlye. I often think about being pregnant, and how it would be and I just dont comfortably see this event in my life. I think I would be a good mother, but Im not sure how I would adjust to packing up a baby each time I needed to run to the store for ONE thing. That would so be a HUGE responsibility. Then on the other hand, I have a great man in my life that I just KNOW would be one hell of a father, even though he thinks differently. I know this man would be a provider because hes doing it now with no complaints. I know he would not abandon me if I came up pregnant. And I will entertain the thought for awhile and get all sentimental and teary eyed thinking about it. Imagine how he would look, cos yes I would have a boy...lol...I would imagine how it would feel to hold him close and know this is something you and a man you truly love created. Its so unique and prescious and quite a miracle in life. That all passes though, lol. Parenting is a huge responsibility that Im just not sure I want to tackle. Bay xx
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@gradyslady (4055)
• United States
25 Sep 07
Yes I do. I want a big family, because I come from one. I'm really good with kids too.
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@mistissa (1348)
• Netherlands
15 Aug 07
It is kind of hard for me to say yes or no. Because I already am a mother of 3, I would not want to change it in the world.
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• United States
24 Apr 08
I know i have kids but I just wanted to say that I think about this all the time and wonder about if I had gone the no kids route and right now i think I would of been ok but still after having kids really helped me know what i was passionate about and just really opened my life up to a love i never experienced before and thats something I would be missing out on and never even known it, its like that for me--i opt to keep things like they are, loving it.
@ratyz5 (7829)
• Philippines
23 Apr 08
I guess aside from they would be basis of proof that couples do love each other to the extent of making a new life out of the bond they have, having children for me would also imply that we are able to raise them which would establish that we are prepared to become a family. At the moment, I really don't like to have one even if I am married, which I ain't.