do you think there should be a time you just are divorced without paying for it/

@agnescav (566)
United States
August 16, 2007 7:19pm CST
in September, I will have been separated for seven years. My youngest child is 20 and quite on her own in the Marine Corps. Every single time, I even think about filing for divorce, something happens that makes me mad and I don't do it. Last week, I looked online at easy divorce sites. One of my daughters called and told me her father called her thirteen times in one night and left nasty messages about her not calling him back. And how he is going to sue me for 1200 dollars. Last year, I actually started to budget a little to file for divorce. I got a letter from my mother, apparently they are quite chummy, saying he wished I would file for divorce. I figured if he wants a divorce, let him pay for it. Really, we have not had anything to do with each other for a long time and I don't think I should even have to consider myself married to him!
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@cblackink (969)
• United States
23 Aug 07
I think that if you can provide proof that you haven't lived with your ex for a certain number of years, then yes, it absolutely should be free.
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@agnescav (566)
• United States
23 Aug 07
That would be so nice and easy!
@donglory (677)
• Ghana
17 Aug 07
the decision is yours don't let any one decide for you and remember decisions you make today can affect your tomorrow
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@agnescav (566)
• United States
21 Aug 07
I just don't want anything to do with him and I don't want to give him the satisfaction of paying for it myself. Besides, if i file for divorce,he will know where i live. Then he will sue me for 1200 dollars and i don't want to miss a day at work for such nonsense.
@Rollo1 (16650)
• Boston, Massachusetts
17 Aug 07
If he doesn't contest it, and you have no property to divide or young children, you could use the same attorney and draw up the conditions yourselves. That can save a lot of money and you both pay equally. Unfortunately for you, it doesn't sound as if he's terribly reasonable. However, it might be worth a shot to ask him if he wants to go half and half on the divorce. Explain to him that it will be cheaper than if either of you files separately. Good luck to you. After all this time, you deserve to be free, if only for your peace of mind.
@agnescav (566)
• United States
17 Aug 07
I haven't talked to the man in seven years except once to say get away from me! i'm not about to start now. He made a mistake and now I know where he lives. So I can actually have the papers served to him, which makes it a little cheaper.
@LINDAL (1)
2 Feb 08
agnescav i agree. i had been married for 27 yrs and i am being penalized for back taxes when we were together from the irs. i have been now seperated for three years and have yet to see an income tax check because the irs takes it. is this fair to me? he left me... linda l