why do you think about a friens not met to want to borrow the money from you ?
August 16, 2007 11:19pm CST
i have a friend who has chated for a long time but not met, He suddenly fut forward to me and borrowed the money yesterday.how can i do ?and u?
18 Aug 07
For one, I wouldn't consider loaning money to someone I haven't met in real life. If this person can borrow once from you, he/she will keep on borrowing again and again. Besides, are you sure you'll be able to get your money back? I had a friend whom I met at my work place. After I left the company, I still kept in touch with her through email, letters and sms. And she never replied back. A few year later, she suddenly sent me an sms wanting to borrow S$500+. It's like, people only remember me when they need money (and a huge sum..). Naturally, I deleted the sms after reading it. Moreover, why should I loan money to someone who doesn't reply my email, letters and sms in the first place, much less someone whom I may never get to meet face-to-face? Just send back a reply stating that you're tight on money/allowance, or you had just loaned a sum of money to someone else before him/her and you can't loaned anymore out coz you've got no money to survive on till your next paycheck or allowance.
19 Aug 07
yes ... you are right. we need to say "NO" when a call from a person who want to borrow money from you only, he/she will forget to remember the money when you need some help. or/and give you a promise again. but i donot kow why he can have mentioned all the time that borrrow the money from me?
19 Aug 07
Yeah, I don't like those kind of people who don't keep in touch, then one day show their faces because they needed this and that. They are taking advantage of your politeness towards them, thinking that they can spin you around their hands. I personally wouldn't let that person have a piece of my wealth (if I had any) hehe! ^^v
17 Aug 07
It will take a lot of time before I trust somebody. Trust is earned. I mean, I used to give my trust to someone, especially if I knew him/her for quite a long time. But then, one friend of mine abused it. So now, I'm careful. Even your own relative can bite your a$$. It's all up to you if you want to take that risk. If money isn't all that important to you, and helping your friend is much more important, then you can choose the former.^^v goodluck
18 Aug 07
tks,i think the wholehearted friend is more important than the money. but you know, we not met before. I do not even know what job he engaged in. I am very unwilling to see the factor of money will let friend have estrangement.will such a friend continue associating?