Is it important that your partner and friends get along?
By Malyck
@Malyck (3425)
Australia
August 17, 2007 8:14am CST
I am just wanting to know if people think it is important that your partner and your friends get along?
Do you still maintain other friendships when you are in a relationship?
Are you friends with your partner's friends, and if not, why?
Do you make friends as a couple, or only have friends from before you were in a relationship?
In my case, my boy friend and I share many of the same friends, but also have our independent friendships and interests.
I think it is important that they can get along, and carry a discussion because they are obviously both people that mean a great deal to me, and it makes it much easier to manage your time if they do not resent or dislike one another.
Although it's great to have everyone get along, or atleast be able to be in the same room as one another, I have to be able to spend time with my friends without my partner as well, as he must with his friends.
I completely believe in balance on both ends of the scale.
Also, I love going out with my partner and meeting other people (individuals, couples, groups) and making friends together, broadening our social horizons.
=D
What are your opinions on this?
Thanks, Malyck.
6 responses
@bucketkid (237)
• Australia
17 Aug 07
I'm not in a relationship at the moment, but i definitely think that it's important that they get along.
I love to have big get togethers and be able to have my partner or best friend there without any concern.
@Madona1 (2096)
• Gibraltar
17 Aug 07
Of course, it is important that my partner and friends get along so that we can still go out together to have fun and help each other. In this life, it is not only relationship, but also friendship. The more friends we have, the happier life we will have.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
26 Nov 07
I truly wished I had of listened to my best friend at the time, when I met up and was getting to know my ex, my best friend at the time told me that it wasn't wise to get involved, he just didn't like my ex, he saw things in my ex that I couldn't see, well love does that doesn't it. Anyhow my friend couldn't get along with my ex and whenever I went out with my friend, it was always without my ex, I was stupid I began spending more time with my ex and suddenly the time I spent with my friend was gone. The relationship turned out to be an abusive one, I lost both my friend and ex. So I always make sure that my friends are put first before a new partner.
@meemingNEW (2226)
• Philippines
17 Aug 07
Yes. It is really important when my partner and my friends get along. Since I am part of a group, I have friends who I mostly do things with. Like in school, we sit beside each other, talk about anything, go to lunch, etc.. And when my boyfriend came along, it was not an easy thing or situation to be in.. when you get someone in the group.. Not really in the group but let him feel part of it and let my friends accept him.
It is important for me because when I go along with my friends, my boyfriend can easily go with us too.. With no such problems since my boyfriend and friends get along. With that, my boyfriend doesn't feel out of place when I'm with him and with my friends too. :_)
@ahgong (10064)
• Singapore
13 Nov 07
I think that it is very important that your partner is able to get a long with your friends.
I share the same believes with you. Cos once you are in a relationship, you are very likely to want to spent more time with your partner than with your friends. And one of the way to still keep in touch with your friends is to introduce your partner to your friends so that the both of you are still able to go out on a social group outing together.
I have personally experienced it before. My buddy of many years, after meeting up with his partner, started to socialize less with the gang simply because his partner couldn't get along with the rest of us. Even though we still keep in contact with each other, we are meeting less often due to his partner (I suspect).
Now that we have all graduated and started our own families, we meet even less often now.
For me, I am lucky. My wife and my friends can get along very well. So we still get together pretty often on social gatherings like karaoke session. Likewise, I can get along with all her friends as well and we are still keeping most of the buddies that we have before we met.
