I'm just me...(a flawed individual) Who are you?

Another great well thought out response michaeladona. Only, I was in the weight loss industry for years and most of my clients had done just that. Put themselves down. Told themselves how bad they were if they made a poor choice. I let them know that they may have made an unhealthy choice but look at all the good things. I would point out the positive and guess what - they all lost the weight they wanted to. The other counselors would put clients down and tell them they were bad that they had bad food - just as the clients had been doing to themselves for years. They rarely lost weight. I think, we shouldn't say weakness or mistakes - but challenge. Think of things as a challenge. I'm naturally disorginized - not a weakness but a challenge to overcome. I know now I need an organizer, lists (have't done lists since pregnant) and a place for everything! I even have my writing alphabatized. Then its easier to be organizied. I used to lose my keys and purse and such - another challenge! I made a remembering table by the door with a basket and each time I came in the door I made it a habit to always put my keys and purse in it. I loe what you say about blaming ourselves is like burning our hard earned house. We should always respect ourselves and never put ourselves down. Again, thanks for the contribution to mylot! Oh and in answer to the original question - my husband is the quiet sort - he never says a bad thing- he doesn't like conflict. I know what he doesn't like - and try to avoid those things. With laid back people like us in a relatinship, its important not to take advantage of the other. Usually there is one dominant and one submissive but...

I realy think we all do on here for we really have to go by how we talk to one another and we seem to just know each others weeknesses and strengths

lol That's one way of saying it! But yeah, we all have our imperfections and we need to be less criticial of eachother and appreciate eachother for all our stregnths and weaknesses. I guess that's what I was trying to say.

Sometimes opposites can be a compliment to one another. YOu can work together as a team using your different stregnths. Sometimes opposites just clash. I guess it's up to the individuals to decide how to appreciate eachother and make things work. Thanks for your response.

I hear what your saying. Unfortunately, sometimes when you do that, then (at least in my case) it turns into a contest of pointing out eachothers flaws. Thats why I pretty much gave up on that tactic. Notice I said "pretty much" lol.

Somehow I learned to care a little bit less. It's not a good idea for everyone though. I just figure that some people will never be satistfied, so it's not worth it to try so hard for them.