Have you ever been so mad at your husband...
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
United States
August 17, 2007 6:54pm CST
I'm having one of those weeks where I'm just so mad at my husband that I don't even want to talk to him!
This week our truck decided that it didn't want to work. And, now my husband can't figure out what's wrong with it. We're pretty sure it's nothing more serious than the battery having run down or needing a new battery. About four days ago, he left his lights on over night and then the next day the truck wouldn't crank up. Doesn't take rocket science to figure out where the problem lies. Still for some reason, it's been a real struggle getting the truck to a repair shop. There's been one distraction after another for three days and I'm pretty much fed up with it!
My theory is that you should just go ahead and get something fixed if it's broken. It's causing lots of stress between me and him, mostly coming from his direction. He's been so on-edge these past few days and sometimes I feel like I don't want to talk to him for a week. Of course, then somehow magically he says the right words and I'm not upset with him anymore. He knows me pretty well. I guess we'll just call a service station tomorrow and have someone tow the truck somewhere to get it fixed. Problem solved!
So have you ever had a day like that, where you get so upset at your spouse for some reason that you just don't feel like ever talking to them again? How do you get out of the mood? Do you feel better when they apologize or just literally not speak to them for a week? Please tell me I'm not alone with this feeling!
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@marymarj2002 (1769)
• Philippines
18 Aug 07
This past few days I am very mad at my husband. We just have a very big fight. I don't know if where will our relationship will end. I want him out of my life now.
I really hate him because he always prioritize his family in terms of money. He send his brother to school and then sometimes he would not give the exact budget for the family because he will give it. And then he told me that I did not want him to send his brother to school. For me that is not what I want, I just want him to let our family be the top priority of his budget. It is okay to give as long as we have money of our own especially that we have a son. Second is that he hit me if he is angry and he always blame me because I trigger him to because I will not listen to him. And then he will always tolerate his mother's contant rude text messages to me. Because his mother one time go into our house while we are on vacation and then he go inside our room and read my diary. And she read there that I hate them for not understanding us and they want us to sacrifice for his sons education when they can somehow help us with the expenses of his education.
I want to have a legal separation with my husband. I think there is no room for me to grow in this kind of relationship. And I don't want to die of heart attack because of their contanst hurting of me.
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
18 Aug 07
Oh, hell no! He can't hit you and get away with it! Is he stupid? What if you were pregnant and he hit you? Men who beat up on their spouses don't discriminate as to the woman's condition.
My grandmother was in a similar situation years and years ago. And, her life was miserable. Her husband drank way too much and then would hit her or worse. She had to leave him. No way any woman deserves that. No way at all. You are not to blame so please don't let that jerk tell you any different. He has anger issues and he needs to get help. And, it's not your job to pacify him.
I hate men that pick on women and then blame them. I hope things work out for you.
@theprogamer (10532)
• United States
18 Aug 07
he is completely out of line doing that. I would advice you to be very careful in a situation like this. If the guy is hitting you because of his own ineptitude he's not worth staying around. could you imagine what he could put your children through. No matter what you choose, be careful. Here's to the best mary.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
18 Aug 07
My husband can't handle my silent treatment and prefers to sort it out immediately. Often I have to come away from the situation, let my frustration out elsewhere i.e. cleaning, going for a walk or exercising (time out from him) before I calm down and talk things over. We don't like to be angry with each other for long so we tend to sort things out quite quickly if the issue is small. The bigger ones, well thats a different story LOL
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
19 Aug 07
That sounds about like us! We don't hold grudges for very long. But, sometimes on the spur of the moment, I will swear off talking to him for at least a week. But, the situation is usually resolved very quickly and then I wonder what I was making the big fuss about.
@lingli_78 (12821)
• Australia
18 Aug 07
i have actually... many times... i feel like i don't want to talk to him as well but i just don't have the heart... so i usually just been able to keep quiet with him for one night and that's about it... the next day, we reconcile again...
@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
18 Aug 07
lol--- I'm sorry- and yes- but I can't even go for an hour without talking- My sig. other will say HB (honey bear)-- come on tell me whats wrong- lol and hug me til I laugh! but believe me I get mad at him and try to not talk to him!
@carlaabt (3504)
• United States
18 Aug 07
I get pretty mad at my husband at least once a week. Usually I just ignore him for a while, and then I feel better. He also usually does nice things for me when I'm mad to, so I have to get over it fast. He will cook or do some cleaning or something. He absolutely hates it when I'm mad at him. When he's mad at me, it only lasts for a few minutes, so he doesn't get how I can hold a grudge, and he does everything in his power to get me to get over it.
Besides when I was pregnant, I don't think I've ever been mad at my husband for more than about an hour. It's just too hard to stay mad at him longer than that.
@taylorblue (1286)
• Canada
18 Aug 07
I always get mad at my husband. I think I have been mad at him so many times in the last week. What we do is just give each other time to cool down and then talk when we are calm. And I never go to bed mad. Ok actually I did that once because I couldn't bear to talk to him one more minute. If you didn't have the bad times with the good times there would be no love!
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
18 Aug 07
So true! And, then someone would get bored and have to take up a hobby! LOL!
@Lxandra79 (1535)
• United States
18 Aug 07
I dont have a husband, but I do have a boyfriend...Im scorpio and I have a very bad jealousy problem and trusting him...also when he says random stuff...that pisses me off!
but in ur case...I want to be a mechanic..and well I think it is the battery 2.
Or its the oil-u probably need oil or change ur oil.
O yea and put culant in ur truck.
@Bujoyseth (1684)
• Philippines
18 Aug 07
yes, i do.. actually, everybody gets mad of their husbnad sometimes. it's normal in being married.. we can't avoid being mad sometimes to our husband.. it's sort of, it's one of the ingredients of a married life.. but of course it would be much better if after those madness we feel for our husband is the sweetness that took place right ofter each madness... as for me, after being mad to my husband, i always see to it that a day won't pass without talking to him, and then the next day, i'll be okay... for every problem that takes place between a husband and wife is solve by a good talking... communication is always the best for it..
@theprogamer (10532)
• United States
18 Aug 07
I've seen plenty of couples end up like this. Its because of the minor stresses and go wrongs, but not just because they exist, its because of what they eventually lead to. (Car not working, can't go to work or you are confined to one car. Repairs are needed. How are they gonna get done, when are they gonna get done, how much will it cost, can we afford that.) Like that.
If its just a new battery, I'm surprised hes not getting a new battery from the truck and installing it himself. I've done it before for a mid-size and a large-size van, its not that complicated... Ah well, I'll just get more stress straining over such a situation.
Queenie, just do your best to keep your cool. Look at the situation rationally and you may find the negative emotions subsiding. Its alright if they intensify, just watch when it happens and what causes it, and if you can drop the situation entirely. Cheers. Here's to a turnaround for you :)
