when you also have some problem ,you help friend or ignore him ?
August 18, 2007 12:09pm CST
when i have some problem ,i wonder what can i do as my friend asked my help .i can help him but have that many things to do . what you say ?do you have faced that thing ? how did you deal with ?
18 Aug 07
Hi, of course you must help out your friend if they are in some trouble or doubt and more so if they have asked for your help. But its also important that you finsih your work first,solve your problem first, so that your mind is free from any tension of completing your own work, as then only you can help them out. But you can let him know that you are ending your work , and resloving your own problems and will be back to help him soon, so that he has some solace and does not wonder why you are taking so long. we should always , ideally try to put others before us, but somehow that doesnt work, as even if we do try to help out, our minds pre-occupied with our own problems, so solve them out first, and then help out your friend. At times you can try to help them first, and you will realise that as compared to their problem, your problem seemed so minute.
18 Aug 07
ha..ha..ha....still cannot sleep my dear friend? insomnia? OK in answering to your question, take your things first or give priority. We must help ourselves before we help others. Does not mean that we don't help them we are not kind enough. Look at advantageous, if there is win-win situation that will be alright.
26 Sep 07
If my freind have a problem I always help her as far as i could help her problem, but if i have a problem then i tell her my problem she is the one ignore me and dump me.She did not help me, thats why from now on i ignore her too as what she did to me.
26 Sep 07
If we have our own problems, it does not mean that we can no longer do anything. People always have problems. It depends upon what help is necessary. If we can extend any help, why not do it. But if we cannot, we are not obliged to help. But it's nice to help others, though how little may it be.