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Wow you had a rough time. I almost had a c-section the morning of the second day - he didn't like the pitocion and his heart rate had dropped alarmingly - staff I'd never met and my nurse and midwife rushed in and turned all the lights on and someone read me what could happen in a c-section and had me sign a waiver. I was crying - I just wanted him to be safe! Funny how you may fear for your life before your pregnant - you may die in pregnancy - in the thick of it its your baby's life you fear for. Your husband is an absolute angel. You both deserved spoiling on Mother's day and Father's day! I thought maybe it was a mom trait - because I could never have imagined doing it before, I felt like I didn't have great eneergy and I needed a lot of sleep - then wham! -I'm a mom and able to draw on these reserves I never thought I had - actually I really think I didn't have them! I hope the time with your child has helped soften some of the memories of your rough time. I know my time with Robert has. Have a fortuitous day - and hey thanks for participating. I love hearing stories of families who pull together.

I really agree with what you said about worrying about yourself beforehand, but in the thick of things only being worried about your baby. When they first started having me push I was in a lot of pain and screaming "I can't do this!" but after a couple of hours when I wasn't getting anywhere all I was thinking was "Is my baby okay? Is he going to make it? Why isn't he coming?" and I was actually really relieved when the doctor told me I needed a C-section because I just wanted to see my baby and for him to be okay. In the 15 months since I've had my son... it's amazing how many things I never thought about before that I think about. Every little thing he does is amazing. Every step he takes and every thing he learns is such a great accomplishment, and I can't imagine my life without him now. It's so funny because I was one of those people who said they never wanted to have kids, and I just look at him and can't imagine what I'd do without my little Dustin. =p I think I am pretty darn lucky to have such a great husband and such a great son. You know, I was thinking about it after I posted, part of the reason my husband had less problems taking care of my son is because he took care of smaller kids all the time when he was growing up in foster care. So he actually had a lot of experience already before he became a parent.

You are very lucky, sometimes out of bad circumstances some good happened. Besides the fact that neither of you will abuse your kids with what you've seen and experienced, your husband got experience and expertise dealing with children.

Do you know, many times, like today, I still nap with the baby? My mom lived in a different era, and with my sister was up all night with colic - as was mom and all day. So things weren't shipshape. Her husband would get infuriated at things that were not done. I hope times have changed for most of us. My husband contracts to the military, to Customs/Homeland Security, so he works nights and sleeps during the day and does TDY's so those times its a bit like being a single mom! I tend to agree about female makeup - because even when he worked days, as I said, he would go to work and fall asleep on the job - dangerous when working around planes! Hey thanks for participating.

Mystic - you wre truly like a single mom - even if he wanted to be there. My husband now does do a lot of gaming, homework and computer research when he's home and helps with the baby when I need to eat or take a break. But he helps in other ways, If I'm nursing, he brings me food or water.... (sounds like I was in jail, but its like that when you're a milk ATM), he vaccuums and does the shopping. Its just that its me who takes care of the baby morning noon and night. You have cute kids! Have fun and thanks for participating!