When someone is rude to you in public does it hurt your feelings?

When someone is rude to me, I wish them ill. I am a very vengeful person so if there is a way i can get back at a rude person, I will do it.

Depends on how that stranger acts in front of me. If he is really rude, then I would definitely give him back the same amount of rudeness because it's just not fair that he is making me thinking over the issue and being mad about it all by myself. If I am not saying anything back, at least I don't think about the stuff. I might be mad for a second or two. But when I come to think that he is nothing in my life, then I would just ignore the whole issue.

Ughh..i cant stand those kind of people..the negativity just eats at me...somedays i will be even nicer with a huge grin..hopin i can change theer ways..and other times..i will tell them what i think of there actions..and give my own..lol..i undertsand people have bad days..but so do i and i dont take it out on the world and neither should they..maybe they all need to meditate more often..lol..

This reminded me of one thing: It can be very rude specially if it is done in an email, wherein almost everyone in your office reads it. This was done by one of our boss here in our office. He emailed something which included a copy of one of the complaints from our clients where my name was involved. I retaliated by responding to all with my version of the said complain. I think emails like this are public ones since almost everybody reads it. After my email, I know most of them understand my side. They can't blame me for whatever questions raised out of that mail. God bless!

Hi, If you are in the service industry one should really not fret on the things that happens because one, it is never your fault. I had a chance to work in a call center industry handling sprint accounts, during our training we were advised not to take complaints personally because its the customers frustration and they bent it on nearest person that comes along their way. In my short stints with the company, I had the chance to talk with different people. There were the rude one's, the understanding people and the simple tongue lashing types. Sometimes to pacify customer complaints you have to show that you sympathize with them its all in the voice, numerous times I have been successful in control clients that are so frustrated with the company all because I told them that I understand and sympathize with what they are going through. But its not just saying that its relaying the sympathies thru your voice. In your case maybe you can try and listen to yourself why people gets irritated with you for no reason at all. First, are you abrupt? Are you a welcoming person? Do you smile a lot? Do you have a chip on your shoulder attitude? What expression do you project? If you are in the service industry you should be ready to show compassion and understanding with your customer, you cannot be one question one answer type of person, most especially work on the voice it has to show sincerity. Hope this helps you.

I work in customer service too and I deal with this sort of thing from time to time. I'm sensitive and so yes, it always bothers me at first. Ive gotten tougher over time but still someone will catch me off guard at times. It does stay on my mind for a bit even when it isn't really bothering me...just wondering if maybe I did something to bring it on. Some people are just negative or thoughtless. I think that working in the public has helped me not to take these situations to heart too often.

It used to make me mad but these days, I deal with the public so much that it does not bother me at all. I serve low income families at the local food pantry. I see what a rough time they have. I see the kids crying and the mother telling them that she will now have food to feed them. I see the mother who thought she had to decide between medicine or food. I understand why their circumstances infuence their attitude. I think they can over come it but I understand.

I really need to work on having thicker skin, because my feelings get hurt way too easily!

It depends on how rude the person when talking to me in public. If it really makes me angry. I will just talk slowly and solve the problem using the professional way. I just hate to shout or insult them in front of other people even though that it is his or her fault. Doesn't mean that when the person treat you bad and you must treat them bad too. It just not my way to insult people openly.

No because those who reveal their ignorance are simply making a statement to the world about who THEY are. We live in a society where time and energy is stretched to the max...so common courtesies appear to be going out the window. When people are rude...in my mind it is their issue to deal with..not mine. They only have the power to hurt me if I ALLOW it. Raia

Hi beautyqueen26! I guess your work is very difficult especially when you get to entertain irate customers. As for me, I had my share before when I went in a business where I have to deal with unsatisfied clients or people who can't really be satisfied whatever you have offered them. I really just ignore them because it stressed me out big time. If they don't like the service, I always tell them they can always get their money and look for another one who in their opinion will give them what they want. No need to go to an argument that will just both make us stressed out. But there are times that they really get into my nerves and I sometimes take that feeling home until I go to bed. However I always try to be more understanding now but well, of course I still put my foot down when they become so arrogant and rude. Take care and have a nice day!

AT that very moment he showed his rudeness my feelings will be hurt. With the kind of work I have now, meeting most problematic employees I am so much in the front line of most of their conflicts be it official and personal. I usually talk things the easy way but when the conflicts is so much I usually get affected also. My voice is quite loud and so when I usually talk, as if I am always angry (the place where I was born people usually speak on top of their voice, so I also have the same loud voice. I can control my emotions, but really sometimes, I cannot. But my being angry and vocal sometimes, can easily mellowed down, as if nothing happaned, but if the same thing happened to the same person I easily remember the past experiences. And if someone hurted me, sometimes I want to get back at him but after my feelings subside, my idea to get back at him just went pfff.

When things like that happen I try to remind myself that that person could ordinarily be very nice but may be having an aweful day, as everyone does sometimes. That person may be in a rush to get home to relive his wife of the kids so she can go out to her night job and make money to make ends meat and be able to pay their bill on time. I'd like to think that since it doesn't cost anyone anything to be nice and pleasant that anyone rude or inconsiderate has a very valid reason which if I was in their position might act the same way. But then again, I'm an optimist.

i understand how you feel i have suffered from low self esstime on and off thro my life and some time it gets to me more then others. i use to sit and think the situation over and how i could have acted differently but the one thing that i have learned that makes me feel better is this - sucks to be them. imagine how bad they must feel about them selves if they have to walk around being rude and judgmental about others. how low there self opinion must be that they have to drag others down to feel good about them selves. this however does not excuse rudeness but you cant help the actions of others only how you let there actions effect you so don't let it get to you, chances are they are feeling bad (for whatever reasons) too.

I can't help but if someone is rude to me in public I will get hurt and will get angry. I have encountered so many people who shouts you or even make you shy in front of public. You will look stupid and dumb. Especially in our country. Almost all government employees in offices. They don't have respect for their costumers or clients, patients. Here in the Philippines that is the problem. That is always my observation for government employee. If you don't know they will make you dumb some even shout at you. Oh, poor service.

It all depends on what was said to me and how it was said. I often say something back if they get really rude at me. I had one girl serve me at a takeout and she was grumpy as. She was mumbling her questions and not once smiled. I said to her, "you know a smile goes a long way even if you are having a bad day LOL" she looked at me as if I was some freakazoid or something!! that really irritated me because I did not enjoy my lunch after that. I know its hard to smile everyday especially if things are not going well in your own life, but your out there in the public eye, serving customers and you have to force yourself to be nice and friendly.

see yesterday there was this guy who cam to a medicine shop for tabs.he could not get the right one and the shop owner tied to apcify him but still he abused him.then another guy standig next to him also tried to explain but the fellow went on abusing this guy also.he felt so embarassed that he was abused that this guy felt very upset in front of every one.so still he kept his cool and went on to buy.he never went away from there.he took it in the right spirit.so ithink if you are a smart alec then its ok otherwise you had it.

when someone is rude to me especially with no apparent reason... I will get back to that person in no time... I, in my entire life never let other people do that to me without letting feel more ashamed than I did....

Oh yes of course it upsets me when someone is rude to me but I don't let that rude-ness just grow! I let that rude person know just exactly how I feel. I am not nasty or horrible to them though, just brutally honest. I think it is important to speak your word and get your feeling right out there, don't let feelings of despair brood inside you! I think in fact once you have been brutally honest with how their comment made you feel you should in fact give them a compliment. I know that sounds strange but it works - always remember that old saying 'two wrongs don't make a right!'. Make them uncomfortable (in a different way) by saying nice things to them. Then after this situation is over wash away that negative feeling with good self-talk. Make yourself feel good by knowing that YOU have done the right thing by you even if the other person hasn't. Let them have karma come back on them for that is not your job - your job is to be the happiest best person you can be. So go live life happily and really who cares what others think - really it is all about what you know!

No.. don't worry about other people.. Don't let them get to you.. you get angry at first but hey its their problem if they are going to be rude to you.. theres nothing you can do.. all i can say is don't take everything personal. Theres many rude people out there.. remember you are better then those people.. just ignore them.