Can you forgive someone who has done a big damage to you?
By subha12
@subha12 (18441)
India
August 20, 2007 3:05am CST
Please share your honest opinion. I will not be able to forgive him my whole life as he ruined my peace. He has used me for his own advantages and when he needed. When he has to go away, he just abused me. I know people will tell me to try to forgive him. But I know I'll move on in my life but will continue to hate him my whole life.
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5 responses
@anonymili (3138)
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20 Aug 07
Gosh I typed a really long response and somehow I got logged out of myLot! Let me try to remember what I typed!
I was basically saying that life is too short to live it full of hatred for one stupid guy. I wasted 15 years on one guy and had I carried on resenting him I would never have been open to meeting and falling in love with someone else who I married 3 years ago. My life would have been still miserable and I would have been alone stewing in my own resentment and hatred whilst my ex had moved on with his life. YOU are worth far more than that jerk - remember that. You have the ability to love and laugh, you can see, you can hear, you can walk and talk, can't you? How many people don't have these abilities? And they can live life happily as best they can. What's a little heartbreak compared to being unable to see or talk or hear or walk? If I was able to move on after 15 years SO CAN YOU. Good luck and God bless. xx
@Malyck (3425)
• Australia
20 Aug 07
I was sexually assaulted four years ago by someone who I had once considered a friend.
Although I don't think I will ever forgive him for what he did, I have reached peace and no longer feel vengeful towards him.
I have moved on, and rather than hate, I now pity him for his own weakness and unhappiness.
@nunnsenseable (209)
• United States
31 Aug 07
I am a survivor of abuse so I personally know forgiveness is possible. But to move on is up to you and what you want for your future. I believe if you don't forgive, again this is due to personal experience, it can lead in directions you would never believe possible. Revenge is easier to think about but you have to be stronger. Time heals all.
@Yestheypayme2dothis (7874)
• United States
23 Aug 07
I am not sure what this person did to ruin your peace. However, if you allow what he did to you to take your peace away, then you will be the one to hurt not him. If you do not forgive him and hate him for the rest of your life and do not move on. He will not be the one to hurt....you will. You win when you move on and find goodness in life...until then you will feel pain and uncertainty.
@prettygirl_80650 (306)
• United States
20 Aug 07
i believe in the saying you can forgive but you can never forget. the people who have wronged me in the past i dont choose to contact any more BUT i have forgiven them only because i believe if you carry around the knowledge that you wont forgive them you will have a heavy heart and close doors to people like him/her even though they have done nothing wrong
