what you do when your partner told you to get marry again after his/her dead?

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@prily9 (568)
Indonesia
August 20, 2007 3:57am CST
my husband has bone cancer, 3 days ago when the pain attacked him he went unconcious after that he told me if he dies I'll let you to marry again as long as your next husband care with our children. then when you get marry again you won't feel guilty. well at first I mad at him then I cried. I know he had cancer and I prepared myself for that but to get marry again never cross in my mind. I just told him if you love me you won't give up. and I have only one husband and I don't want somebody else to take your place. what will you do if your husband or wife told you to get marry again after he/she dies?
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@daman371 (13)
• United States
20 Aug 07
Well I have thought that there is nobody else out there for me and I couldn't remarry. I think I would have to end my life even though it isn't what my loved one would want.
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@prily9 (568)
• Indonesia
21 Aug 07
I can not be like you to end my life.... thanks
• United States
21 Aug 07
Yeah it's probably very drastic and crazy.
@pinnibabu (135)
20 Aug 07
I personally felt bad after reading your discussion. I just hope your husband gets well soon. He must surely be a fantastic person. He really cares for you and your children. Thats the reason he wants you'll to be happy forever. I personally would not take it if my hubby tells me the same. I would burst into tears. And in case something really happens i would never get married again. No one can take my hubby's place.
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@prily9 (568)
• Indonesia
21 Aug 07
I guess I will be same like you. even he told me to get marry again. nobody can take his place.
• India
20 Aug 07
WOW he is such a wonderful man and you are lucky to have lived with him all these years and i wish God gives him more years to live with you and he fights the cancer till the end but he has accepted his condition peacefully thats the reason he has thought about your life after he has gone. Right now b'cos of all the trauma and pain you might feel its impossible to think of marrying again but like they say time heals every wound so maybe years down you will feel you are ready to marry again and by saying you can he has taken away the guilt from your life, he is really an amazing man, god bless him and i will pray for him and you take care a happy mylotting :)
@prily9 (568)
• Indonesia
21 Aug 07
thanks for your pray, I appreciate that. My husband not perfect but he is perfect for me. and I will stay beside of him until the end.
@rubygrace (646)
• Philippines
20 Aug 07
With God all things are possible with him,God is good prily9, Ask and it shall be given you,seek and ye shall find,knock and it shall be opened unto you.For everyman that recieveth and hr that seeketh findeth, and to him that knocketh it shall be open,Prily you have to do is knock i know will God open a door for you,he will grand your prayers, And i will include your husband in my prayer.....just keep on praying God is good all the time.
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@prily9 (568)
• Indonesia
21 Aug 07
thanks for your pray. I really need that
@lisa_wxy (393)
• China
20 Aug 07
oh,well,i feel sorrow for your husband. i wish he can pull through. and through your description,i think your husband is very sweet hearted. thougth he was going through such pains,he still thought about the future of your children and you.he cared about you more than himself. how lucky you are! support him,encourage him!maybe there is miracle on the way.
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@prily9 (568)
• Indonesia
21 Aug 07
I always support him. right know I try to find herbal medicine for him. thanks
• United States
20 Aug 07
I love my husband with all my heart but if he were to give me the ok on getting remarried i would probabaly do so but it would depend on how old i was also
@prily9 (568)
• Indonesia
21 Aug 07
we were married when I was 20. right now I'm 29 and he is 32. I know by the time goes by maybe we find somebody else. but I think I don't want to marry again...
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
20 Aug 07
For your husband to have said that to you just proves what a wonderful man he is, completely unselfish, he really cares about you and your children, a lot of men would not think like that, your husband is a wonderful man, hugs to you both...
@prily9 (568)
• Indonesia
20 Aug 07
he is a wonderful man. I just hope hw won't give up with his cancer. thanks