Were you ever teased when growing up?

Canada
August 21, 2007 4:43pm CST
All through my child hood in my home town I was teased called names and people would always make reference to my weight or what have you... I do have a few good child hood friends I still have contact with but they are slim and very few it seems..I decided to move out of that town cuz it seemed that my son was being teased by the children of the parents who teased me growing up..How did you or would you deal with a situation like that... I've told my son the lesson it took me along time to learn I told him hon it's not you the people teasing you have a low self esteem if they have to make you feel bad to feel good about themselves..My son has some really close friends where we live now and I like that...I found that when I went to a private school... Being teased hurt my self esteem some but I know I'm a good person and didn't want my son going through the same problems as I did..
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@AmbiePam (51157)
• United States
21 Aug 07
Oh yes, I did get teased. For being a Christian, for being tall, for being fat (it's funny because I wasn't even onverweight back then), and for being smart. The only one that bothered me was the fat one. I mean, I didn't like being tall THEN, but now I'm glad.
• Canada
21 Aug 07
I liked my height for the reason I felt it porportioned my weight..It really bothered me when people made nasty comments towards my weight...They called me baluga whale and said nasty sounds as I would walk..Also I got called fish lips cuz I have buck front teeth and big lips..
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@AmbiePam (51157)
• United States
21 Aug 07
Good grief! Someone needed to kick those little heathens rear ends!
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• Philippines
22 Aug 07
good for you then. when i was a kid they teased me because i'm too short. until now i think i didn't increase even an inch. how i wish that i could be taller but that would not happened. Anyway i don't care what they think about me. Because i believe in my self.
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
21 Aug 07
Yes I was teased all through my Childhood because I was so quiet and I hated it this added to my insecurity among a lot of other things
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• Canada
21 Aug 07
it sure seems to doesn't it...I have noticed with me that if I heard it all the time I would eventually start questioning things and believing it myself...but I also believe it has made me a stronger person.
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@raychill (6530)
• United States
21 Aug 07
If there is a soul on earth that wasn't teased growing up, they're sure lucky. I think it's just a part of growing up to be teased...as much as it sucks. Because if you go through life never being teased what happens when it finally happens as an adult? You'd break down because you wouldn't know what to do (i mean, i don't know i just figure that's what would happen) because you've never dealt with it before. I had a larger chest than any other girl in my middle school so I was always made fun of for "stuffing my bra" which was so untrue. So I'd wear HUGE t-shirts to hide my chest. After much teasing for that and other things I discovered an escape. For me, it was music...and I just got lost in the music and I just learned to like what I like and be who I am without ever caring. Heck I still get talked about for having a large chest and I don't hide it anymore... usually I just pick on it too!
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• Canada
22 Aug 07
I think that would happen as well if you aren't teased as a child you wouldn't really know how to react to it as an adult it would be new and very hurtful I can see how that would possibly happen...I have a big chest too hun cuz I'm overweight and I developed before others my age as well and can totally relate to that..
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@raychill (6530)
• United States
22 Aug 07
Yeah, fortunately I'm not overweight..I'm average. But yeah as much as being picked on sucks, I think in some ways a little teasing is good for you and it's kind of just a part of growing up. So long as the teasing isn't so bad that it makes you shoot down your school or your parents or yourself.
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• Canada
23 Aug 07
I agree hun that is taking it way to far I think...But also people should be aware if the person being teased is hurting and not having fun then it's not fun and games anymore.
@a_ce_e (1427)
• Philippines
22 Aug 07
I experienced being teased during my childhood, my aunt always tells me that i am ugly. I have a very low self-esteem when i was kid, i thought it was true, i envy my classmates and playmates who have some guys attracted to them. But when i grew up, i realized that my aunt is just trying to tease me realizing that i am prettier than her daughter lol!. I think she feels so insecure on me, because i am whiter than her daughter.
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• Canada
22 Aug 07
I felt the same way when friends of mine were taking the good looking guys and I didn't even get a blink but a hurtful name thrown at me from guys I had crushes on..But I met a wonderful man we split up for over 7 years but it's like that old saying goes if they were yours to begin with they will be back and we have been back together now for almost 3 years and married for a year...We have had alot of trials and tribulations but have come through on top.
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@sid556 (30989)
• United States
22 Aug 07
I was such a geek. I was tall and very underweight and parents made me wear weird clothes...no makeup etc. I was very very shy. somehow, I did manage to make friends. Yes, the teasing hurts...hurts alot. I used to come home from school and just break down crying. Yes, it hurts even more now to watch when your kids get picked on knowing how it feels. I now hold no hard feelings for those that picked on me. I think i learned alot of how not to be from them. It seems its everywhere. There is always a group of kids that will pick on others for anything and everything.
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• Canada
22 Aug 07
I totally agree with that and it seems that it's like that all over that someone is always left out of the loop so to say...I don't hold any hard feelings for the kids that did it to me because I believe I'm a better person because of it and that I made it through...It broke my heart when it happened to my son but I did the best that I could to help him through it..
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@lingli_78 (12836)
• Australia
22 Aug 07
yes i also being teased by my friends when i am still in school... they call me various mean names... fortunately, my parents are very supportive so it doesn't really affect me very much... but it still hurts and i wish that they won't do it to me... good on you for being able to move to another place and rescue your son from undergoing the same experience as you... well done...
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• Canada
22 Aug 07
thanks for that I couldn't bare to see my son go through the same hurt and teasing that I did as a child it's not fair and it really hurts a child and in some cases scar them for life...But We are happy where we live now hugzzzz and thanks for your response.
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@donglory (677)
• Ghana
22 Aug 07
teasing is a normal thing and i like it. one thing about it is you get hurt when u r been tease but when u r teasing u get happy. But one rule is that u must be tolerant
• Canada
22 Aug 07
that is one way of looking at it..I think teasing and having fun is okay if someone is having fun too and is not being hurt by what is said..I've been there where I could take it and joke back but sometimes I think it goes too far...
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@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
22 Aug 07
I was teased growing up. It was horrible and made me sad. It is really hard to see the same things happen to kids today. Even though I do not want my childern to be bullies sometimes I feel it would be easier than being thought of as someone people can push around. My daughter is going into grade 7 which was the worst time for me growing up with trying to fit in and belong and I hope that she can handle it and I will support her any way I can.
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• Canada
22 Aug 07
yes it is hard to see and sometimes it might be better but in the same aspect it would be hard for me to hurt someone else..I hope that it doesn't happen to your daughter just try to be there for her if it does and help her get through and tell her what you learned to help you get through that is about all I could do for my son before we moved...
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• Philippines
22 Aug 07
Being tease is a part of growin, we were teased and we teased others as well. every one passed thier childhood teasing as well, it is really part of childhpood and growing up. we cannot do anything about it, though i told my daughter no to do that. I heard her classmates tease her, it is really hurting for a mother that her child is being teased. thank God my daughter did notunderstand what was said to her. teased will affect us if we reacted to them negatively. wen i was a child, i don't bother with those teasing, it hurts but i did not allow it to affect me. i juz don't get close to children who did that...and so life goes on..
• Canada
22 Aug 07
yes I know exactly how you feel and what you mean when my son came home upset about being teased it would break my heart that I made the decision to get him out of there as soon as i could.
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• United States
22 Aug 07
I got picked quite a bit.I even got into a fight with a boy because he wouldn't quit picking on me.It's true that kids can be cruel but if it's not stopped early it can continue into adulthood.
• Canada
22 Aug 07
yes and it's like the person who is teasing is also judging a book by its cover and not taking a chance to find out that we are really nice..But I believe I'm a stronger person because I was teased and have met some wonderful friends.
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
22 Aug 07
I was teased for a long time growing up mostly about glasses and weight. I was happy when I no longer had to go school and although I have gotten past it, it took a long time to do it. AT PEACE WITHIN
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• Canada
22 Aug 07
I hear you there it took me along time to come to terms with it myself..I see those people today and I still remember but know that I've got a wonderful husband and 2 beatiful kids and I just smile hehe..
@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
22 Aug 07
I totally agree with you that people who tease and bully others are trying to make up for something they are lacking to keep the focus away from them. It is really sad that the parents are grown and still acting like kids. They obvious don't have anything better to do with their lives. If you had the ability to move and it worked out, i don't blame you one bit for not wanting to put your son through what you went through. I think everybody was bullied a little, some more than others, when they were younger and until people start being good to one another and raising their children right, bullies will always be around to torment others.
• Canada
22 Aug 07
Yes I agree with you that kids learn it from their parents.....I think it is really sad that people find it a boost to themselves to hurt others...It was the best decision I ever made to move cuz everytime my son would come home and have the same look in his eyes I did when I was growing up it broke my heart...
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@cheodej (102)
• Germany
21 Aug 07
some people are so mean when they tease someone but i don't mind them and they stop, that simple. they are just bored human beings that has nothing to do with their own lives.
• Canada
22 Aug 07
yes I agree with you...And I guess people that tease have a low self esteem that they feel they need a boost by teasing and hurting another thanks for your response hun
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@clocks123 (1227)
• United States
21 Aug 07
yes i was i found when i didn't react it was much better but i think everyone got teased somewhat i know how it feels with your self esteem it really does a number on you if you are comfortable with yourself as you are it dosen't matter what anyone thinks or says they are the losers not you or your son
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• Canada
22 Aug 07
yes I agree with you totally and I believe I'm stronger person as a part of it and my son has grown and rose above it as well...
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@stealthy (8188)
• United States
21 Aug 07
The only one who teased me was my older sister and she did it relentlessly. None of the kids at school teased me. Now so many years later my sister and I get along but we are not as close as we would have been if she had not treated me so badly as kids. If we spend too much time together even now she will pick on me or even sometimes reminisce about the teasing.
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• Canada
22 Aug 07
I remember my sister and I fought all the time too and we get along now but if we are under the same roof for more then a few days it can get ugly again lol..Thanks for sharing
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• Canada
22 Aug 07
I personally was never teased while growing up, but I saw first hand what your son went through when we lived together in the small town that your talking about. I am so glad that we moved away from there and that now he has the close friends that he does, but most of all that he isn't being teased anymore, has a better self esteem, and he is an all around happier kid! I'm also proud of you for getting him out of that hell hole town and to a place where he would be able to start over fresh! Another thing I like about where we live now is that the schools have a no teasing policy, I love that! I wish each and every school had one!
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• Canada
22 Aug 07
Thanks for that hun I believe it was the best decision I made plus my husband and I get along alot better living here then we ever did going out in the hell hole...I totally agree with you about every school having that policy I know that stupid town sure the heck didn't have one the principle there just urked me when he did nothing but My son has great support from his school here and I love that...
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• Canada
22 Aug 07
It was really frusterating that the school in the hell hole small town never did anything to punish or discipline the kids that picked on your son. I am so glad that is a thing of the past and he is a much happier and better self esteemed teenager because of it!
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• Canada
23 Aug 07
Yes it is very frustrating indeed hun and I am very happy as you are that he no longer has to deal with things like that because I know the school here will stop it before it gets out of hand...I think the hell hole school could take a few lessons from the schools here...
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• United States
22 Aug 07
yepper, i sure have. the crude, rude nickname "period head" rings a bell. you're absolutely right in what you are telling your son. i know i'm stronger for having dealt with the adversity, and he will be too. life is a whole lot longer than those few seemingly long years of school.
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• Canada
23 Aug 07
that is so very very true and I honestly believe we just need a few really good and close friends in life that won't backstab or tease or try to hurt us...I think as I look back I am a better person cuz I did my best to walk away and iggy it...It seems to egg a person on if you react and that is what they are trying to get is a reaction..
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• United States
23 Aug 07
yeah, that's exactly want they want: a reaction for their small-minded entertainment...unless the reaction they get is a fat lip, that is...lol. and NO I am not suggesting that, it's just an observation.
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• Canada
23 Aug 07
LOL that is cute and I know you ment it in a fun way hun...But you are right if they recieved a fat lip might make them think twice before starting to tease again LOL
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
22 Aug 07
Hi BlueAngelRS! I was teased by a couple of kids in our neighborhood in my growing years. I used to be so paper thin that they call me a walking stick and they laughed so hard while calling me names. My mother used to tell me not to mind them because they are just a bunch of kids who resorted to name callings because they are don't feel good with themselves and probably they are not happy inside their homes and she told me that what really matters is what I see and think about myself. My mother told me that I am beautiful inside and out. Well, that did the trick for me, because I really don't care what they say because what mattered to me is what I think about myself. I guess, I looked up to my mother and always believe her. I do agreee with you that when people teased you, it hurts your self esteem but I believe that sincere,positive words can always erase the hurt inside. Take care and have a nice day!
• Canada
23 Aug 07
I totally agree with you hun..You are so right that all it takes sometimes is some positive feed back and it can erase all the negative..I know even today if I'm putting myself down my husband looks at me and says no hun you are georgous inside and out and I love you..Makes me feel so good...That and I don't have to get dulled up with make-up he still loves me just the same he loves me better all natural is what he says hehe...
@suspenseful (40314)
• Canada
22 Aug 07
I had this name that invited a lot of puns, and I also wore glasses, so I did get a lot of teasing. Mind you I teased my brother a bit. I was not overweight, but I was stocky and there was a girl who always picked on me. I had low self=esteem, but it was not the girls who teased me that cause me, but my father who always pointed out my bad points.
• Canada
23 Aug 07
It seems no matter who it is a parent sibling or peers it can still hurt the same...I know that my mom didn't really much help with my weight trying to get me to take stupid diet pills that I think did more harm then good..hugzzzz but it has made us stronger don't you think?
@peanutjar (5211)
• Canada
22 Aug 07
Yes i was teased all throughout highschoolfrom grade 8 to grade 12,it hurt me so much that it still hurts me as of today.The girls would never leave me alone and call me ugly,muttly,dogface etc.Everyday i did not want to go to school from being scared of being pushed,tripped on the school bus,punched in the arm or back by these(group)of girls.Then the boys started in on it too.They too called me the same as the girls.My life was miserable.But today im 34 years old and meet up with them by chance in the next town at a store or so.They just stare at me.I dont say hello at all.I just laugh in my head saying"yeah,look at you,youve become something really good to look at,potatoe."This is my revenge,i knoe i look pretty darn good and that some of them regret what they did,and put me through!.This will kill me if my daughter goes through the same as me.
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• Canada
23 Aug 07
It is really hard to go through the only advice I can give is if your daughter does go through it just be there for her to help her cope much like you did let her know it's not her fault it's not her it's them they are the ones with the low self esteem if they have to bug you to make themselves feel good or high and mighty...It happened to my son and that is why I told him...