Do you worry yourself into a frenzy over nothing???
August 21, 2007 9:22pm CST
Do you ever find yourself trying to figure something out, and in the process making up problems in your own mind?? Well I read a book once (called You Can Be Happy No Matter What) that pointed out how so many times we put ourselves in a bad mood. Basically the book said that the more you focus on the negative, the more negative you feel and then you add even MORE negative thoughts to it! Well if you let go, and just STOP MAKING STUFF UP in your head, usually you will find (as I almost always do) that the situation is not actually that bad and it will probably work out ok. Here is a completely made up example to try and demonstrate my point: Let's say you had been told you have to do a late night meeting at 10 PM at work. Let's say, you think that absolutely sucks! All you think about is how tired you are gonna be, how long your day is going to be, and how much that just sucks! Now you are in such a bad mood you start thinking more seriously how ticked off your gonna be that whole day, that you might snap at anyone in your path... and also, your going to miss the premiere of Survivor because of it!!!!... and don't even get me started on the next day!!! Ok, that's what happens, you get into a frenzy. But usually when this kind of frenzy happens to me, I've learned (from the book and also from life in general) to stop thinking about it. Just erase it from my mind and do something else for a minute. Then suddenly you'll be in an ok mood, and likely when you remember you have that 10 PM meeting you will be thinking "well it's only a one time deal, it's not such a big deal... and besides, the clients will love me for it and perhaps they will tell my boss and then my bosses will love me too!" Suddenly, it's gone from "The end of the World!" to "Eh, no biggie." So do you worry yourself for nothing? Are you able to get over it? What techniques do you use to make yourself realize that things like this are not life ending? I actually think it's healthy to worry AT FIRST b/c it gives me a chance to see the worst scenario in my mind, then I can see that even the worst scenario really isn't that big a deal... and I feel better?? Thoughts??
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22 Aug 07
I worry myself over everything. Well, not worry. Obsess. If I get mad at someone, I get really mad and then I obsess about it and then I can't see the reality of the situation and then I get agitated and then...I finally settle down and turn human again. If I have to go somewhere I don't want to go (and sometimes even if I DO kind of want to go), I decide that it is going to suck, it will be too crowded, I don't feel good anyway, I will be tired, I don't know if I feel like it, what if I just don't go? Everyone will be mad at me. How dare they be made at me for not wanting to go? And on and on and on. If I don't do that, I usually have a fine time and life is good. It's allll in how I think and I know thanking negatively is my downfall. I am working super hard to change that.