Nature - yes your nature.....what kind of person you are????????

colours of life - you and your nature
@apsara60 (6610)
Israel
August 22, 2007 5:00am CST
I am a very impatient person who is always worried and never relaxing. I make hasty decisions and repent. I get hurt if people make negative personal comments on me and I lack lot of self-confidence. But still people like me........what about you.
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12 responses
@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
23 Aug 07
Hi aspara, i am more like you, highly driven by heart and would not listen to brain. I am an impulsive person who would go to the extent of lending all i can afford to for my near and dear ones. Many a times ppl take advantage of me, but then i take it in my stride. as long as i can afford to bear it, it's okay. (They haven't robbed me and stripped me of my clothes as yet, lol). Previously, things were different though. I was very fidgety about small small things, trivial fights and negative comments. I used to brood over all bad things in life and used to get pains for the things i was least responsible for. then, i realised i am living a life of a slave. i am being driven by others. I don't get fat by somebody telling me so!! Apsara, its very important to literally highlight the good positive sides of our lives, which, i am sure we all have in plenty, and try and work on the drwabacks. No wonder I am much happier now. So dear, its's your life, live it your way and be happy, always.
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
23 Aug 07
wow there is so much similarity between us.I felt as if I was reading my nature. Are you a capricornian female like me. Dear friend you are a step ahead of me, you have learnt to live your life, but I am still a slave..... but I am trying to come out of this.....hope in another few years I will also start enjoying life like you.......Thanks a lot for your encoraging response.
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
23 Aug 07
apsara, i think, life teaches us a lot and experiences we gather change us as a person. i have grown with experience. I have been going through some grave reality in life which has been a great teacher so far. I wish no one goes through that and rather learn things through sweeter things in life. You know what, its very difficult for ppl like us to come out of our original self and give a fake, plastic smile. I think, we are better the way weare and are being loved for that. My love for you has increased now for i know you can never put up a false face. Keep it up sweet heart. Love and hugs.. PS: I am a scorpio.
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
23 Aug 07
Few words of care and love brings tears in my eyes, does this happens to you. while reading your reply I felt you were very close to my heart and few tears came out which I could not hide....I think I am longing to be loved.....but people have taken me garanteed and forget that I too have feelings........feeling really better after discussing with you.
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@luckyvin (81)
• India
26 Aug 07
so u r very impatient person...people around u would always be afraid of you....jokes apart.. i am a very patient guy so that i can take practical and right decisions. i always say " don't worry..be happy". problem of self confidence is also going with me. For this i have already join yoga and meditation classes. I have also joined SGI organization which is based buddhist principles which emphasize on true happiness, pray for well being of others, human revolution. www.sgi.org... sgi is buddhist network that actively promotes peace, culture and education through personal change and social contribution. want to know more about it..try the web link u can mail me at luckyvin@gmail.com
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
26 Aug 07
we believe that after doing yoga we get peace, but i think if you have peace of mind and relaxed life only then you can do yoga, then you can meditate, then you can follow buddha and then you can talk about true happiness etc etc etc........but I don't feel peace at heart.......it has been years since I really relaxed or felt real happiness inside, all the time I am worried about my children and thier future and thier happiness.....I know most of these are just unnecessary worries, but what can I do, it is part of my nature to keep worrying about them........so how will I behave normal.
@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
28 Aug 07
I will start with "OM."...thanks.........but let me also tell you that I get up everyday at five am and have to get ready to catch six am bus.....How will I concentrate in such rush....now don;t tell me to get up at 4 am.....I go to sleep and ll..pm...as it is I don;t get enough sleep....life is very busy here. may be I wait till my retirement.....lol
• India
28 Aug 07
apasara, u have to be normal. No one can do anything. Its u that can do. Have u tried chanting "OM". chant it with deep breath with a pin drop silence room. Do it in early hours i.e. 5-6 am and do it for 5 min. and slowly extend it to 10 min with in a week. Secondly, u can also chant "Nam-myoho-renge-kyo". Nam means namaskar. Myoho renge kyo means mystic law of cause and effect. Try these things and see the results urself. Just give a try. Just spare 10 min. dear out of 24 hours.
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
24 Aug 07
I could not see your discussion earlier. Meanwhile, before posting my reply, I have seen some outstanding responses to your discussion. I would also say that I am also very impatient person and just cannot stop myself from doing things, which I like (for example mylot). Worries also keep on coming to mind, but I try to engage myself in some useful activities, like talking to others, participating here on mylot in discussions, reading, listening to someone's problems etc. otherwise I just relax and sleep. As far as decisions are concerned, I believe, it is better to take a decision than not to take a decision. I do not repent, if my decision turns out to be a wrong one, because when I take a deicsion, it becomes difficult to predict whether it will come out correct or not...if it comes out correct, I pat my back, but if it comes out wrong, I do not curse myself because I think whatever decision I took, I took it with full honesty, sincerity and with my experience. I try to avoid negative comments, if somebody speaks ill of me, I just igonre him/her, because I cannot stop anyone from not speaking bad or good about me. I do feel hurt, when I hear negative or silly comments about myself, but I take it as part of the game. I believe, that over the years, I have consolidated my self-confience and I continue to do so...I try to take initiative and participate in activities so that I should raise my level of self-confiedence. About you......you need not worry too much that you are an impatient person...many are alike you in this world. You will find few persons, who can REALLY control themselves. Do not ever repent on any decision taken by you...nothing is good or bad,...but thinking make it so. Please do not take it to your heart when someone says negative comments about you, you are not at fault, the one who offers you silly and negative comments, he is at fault, speaking negative about you is a reflection on his/her character and personality not on YOURS. And please take negative comments as (negative) appreciation ....if someone talks about you either good or bad...it means he/she is concerned and obsessed about you and your character...and that shows that he/she cannot remain without your presence. You are liked by people, because I feel you are honest, simple and frank and I tell you that those who are honest in their appraoch are always respected and regarded by their friends and relatives. I have found you very forthcoming and open and an emotional person, who gets conncted with others very easily. I like this quality of yours. Have a nice day! Deepak
@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
24 Aug 07
I found many colours of your nature are very much similar to mine. But of course your self-confidence is more stronger than mine. Ignoring those who hurt you is also in my nature. Infact from your discussion one can learn a lot. Thanks for your positive comments to encourage me. It is a nice feeling that I am having nice friends like mimi and you and few others.....thanks to mylot.......take care
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
26 Aug 07
Thanks for your gift that you left me in my comments.......I am sorry I did not see it before, I hardly go to this section........but it made me happy so thanks.
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@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
24 Aug 07
Yes, I can also say that we appear similar, that is why we are friends here. Please do not under-estimate yourself that your self-confidence is lesser than mine. You have equally good level of self-confidence, I can vouch for that. I am always there to encourage my dear friends. Thanks for being my friend, I also have a same feeling that I am lucky to be a friend of someone as nice, kind and honest as you. :) :)
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@rb200406 (1824)
• India
24 Aug 07
I am very cool & patient.I always speak & do things after thinking.I am never in a hurry .Even if i am angry i try to control & it & not spaek bad words because when the anger will go it really hurts .
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
26 Aug 07
You are blessed by wonderful qualities. I wish I could say that.......Infact people like you are very necessary in life to give support when people like us spoil the game.......I hope more people will be like you in this world and not like me.
@touchnshine (2821)
• India
26 Aug 07
Dear Apsara I don't think I will be able to comment much about my nature .. but yes what I have noticed about my nature is -- I keep on changing .. sometimes I don't care about anyone .. and sometimes I become over - caring .. sometimes I am good and sometimes I am bad .. so what exactly I have noticed about myself is that I keep on changing. I many a times change my nature for others .. when someone comments that this behaviour of mine is not acceptable then I try to change myself and try to renew myself and in this way I change my nature. I like the people who throw a light on my negative points because they help me a lot to improve otherwise I can never know where exactly I am going wrong. Some more about my nature -- I am very straightforward and I believe -- whatever happens .. happens for the best. I always maintain a positive attitude .. and if sometimes something irritates me .. I discuss it with my friends to get back my positive attitude. I have one feature in my nature which is exactly similar to you --- I am also a very impatient person .. but I am not always worried .. I understand that in life we many a times takes wrong decision .. but these wrong decisions also helps us to gain experience -- we learn a lot from it. If we are wrong once .. then we will be right the next time so we should not worry much about this thing. I suggest you to take the negative comments as challenge and try to improve yourself .. so the next time the person who is commenting negative about you won't be able to do that.
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
27 Aug 07
dear tweety sweety, I think we all have a bit of changing personality, even I keep changing all the time, sometimes my children and hubby don't understand my chainging personality and think I am funny.....which I am a bit....but this quality of being changable or flexible is better than a rigidness, because then it becomes difficult to adjust ourselves with unwanted situations and life become difficult. So I think this is a very good quality of yours. Also I thing the rest of the things that you wrote about you nature are excellent.....I am happy you are not worried all the time like me........I will try to change my negative thinking.......Thanks a lot for your reply my tweety sweety.....have a nice day.
• India
27 Aug 07
O I am happy to know that you will now change your negative attitude into a positive one :)
@Odille (54)
• China
24 Aug 07
Honestly, I am not a confident person and I often am hurt easily. And sometimes I'm not a sensible girl. These are big problems. But I think I'm a person of consideration and nothing in the world can distroy me.^_^
@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
26 Aug 07
The person who honestly accepts his or her drawbacks is actually a very strong person. It really takes lot of courage to accept our weakness in public, but you have done it, so you are the most sensible girl. Share you big problems here with your friends and see you will come out with some solution for all of them. Your last sentence proves that you first sentence is completely wrong. You have lot of self-confidence but like me and many others we oursleves are not aware of our worthness.Thanks for reply.
@samson1967 (7414)
• India
22 Aug 07
To know what kind of person I am, I suggest you to ask my friends. They can give the true opinion on me.
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
22 Aug 07
I would perfer to hear it from you after all it is your life and your nature......lol. May be you will say somthing that even your friends are not aware of........thanks for your reply.
@Bujoyseth (1684)
• Philippines
22 Aug 07
i'm a cheerful person, i alway smile to everybody.. i love kids.. i'm patient. but sometimes, there are things i can't decide in my own. i always asks my husband's opinion or my mother's side. you can easily approach me.. if i met new people, i'm not the type of person who snobs somebody.. as what i've said, i'm approachable, fun to be with.. i'm jolly.
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
22 Aug 07
I see that you are a nice person and you have nice nature, what else do we need. Thanks for your reply. If I will need any help with decision, I will write to you....have a nice day.
@brew2x (3094)
• Philippines
22 Aug 07
I'm a cheerful person, I love to laugh and make friends. My weakness is my sensitivity but I must say it can also consider as my strength because it enables me to be sensitive on what other people feels. It helps me to avoid hurting someone else's feelings.
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
22 Aug 07
If you can laugh and make others laugh , you have everything that one needs. Just be as you are and you will be loved by every body. Thanks for your reply.
• Philippines
23 Aug 07
Me, i think i am the kind that is sensitive when it comes to my family's needs. I am very selfish for myself. I always think of my family first. When i argue with a family member, it is not important to me whether i am right or wrong, all i want is that at the end of the day, i will be sleeping with peace of mind. It means i initiate to be peace with whom i had an argument with. Sometimes when i did not meet there needs, i am so affected, and it may lead me will got sick. Yes it is true. I don't know what kind of person I am. All i know is that i love my family very much.
@wonderful1 (2075)
• China
22 Aug 07
I'm not a patient girl.when i want to do something, i often complete it as soon as possible, so my boss often think i 'm a lazy stuff, becasue he often sees me doing nothing. in fact, i complete my work and i feel a bit tired then i have a best just sitting on my dest without doing nothing. i'm confident, sometimes a bit of confident. sometimes i'm not confident, because i'm not good at it.
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
22 Aug 07
Nature can never be changed, so let your boss think what he wants, you be what you are, one day your true colour will be visible and you boss will realise your worth. Thanks for your reply.
@medicsrep (130)
• India
22 Aug 07
friend iam havivng very different type of nature i dont now what should i call myself? but trully speaking iam confident personality who loose temper in very short time,believes in god and demands everything from god,strongly believes in love,listen to my heart,and found of lots of gossiping.very sincere wife,try to become smart,active ,good mother of my two sweet childrens, always help people who come across @needs help without any selfishness. so here i am....................................
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
22 Aug 07
You are typical woman like any other women. The qualities that you have mentioned is usually found in all females.You are a very honest person and I think your natue is wonderful. So just be what you are.Thanks for your reply.