IF love is a business proposition, how would you INVEST?

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@daryljane (3437)
Philippines
August 22, 2007 6:49pm CST
Ok,lets all get touchy..if Love is a business propostion, how would you invest...I mean, putting up a business takes a lot of courage, and determination..i guess same things goes with Love..you have to put up a lot of effort and risk, a lot of work! we dont know if its going to work or not...like business, there are times that it doesnt last... if im going to invest for love, im going to give out my everything..at the same time, putting in mind whatever the consequences,its good if you will be happy in the end, an d needs to be prepared if its not going to work .. i got this message from the book tuesday with morrie: "There is no formula to relationships. They have to be negotiated in loving ways, with room for both parties, what they want and what they need, what they can do and what their life is like. "In business, people negotiate to win. They negotiate to get what they want. Love is different. Love is when you are as concerned about someone else's situation as you are about your own. And i guess thats true..you just need to be prepared to win and loose as well.. but for you, if love is business proposition, how would you invest..
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@thefortunes (2368)
• Netherlands
23 Aug 07
Hi Daryljane, I tried to ask myself the question you're posing here, however I was unable to see love as business proposition, even though for some it mightbe just that. We all know how for example the families of rich homosexuals have arranged marriages for them with wealthy or high society ladies just to have the public opinion "eye" turned to the other side. There we could talk of a business proposition. But I understand what you would like to see answered here and will give it a try Apart from caring for all of their physical needs, I will give them quality time to share our interests, go out and enjoy ourselves, sharing cultural events, holidays and such. He will have the freedom to go out with his friends, go to clubs, doing sports, whatever he'd like. patience is also a requirement as there are always things that you wont be able to see at first, thing that at a later date might start to irritate you. All of us have our lesser sides, and if it comes from both sides, the exceptance of such - the life together will survive and go on. So these are the points that according to me are needed (and thus - invested) in a relationship of caliber: 1.Caring 2.Sharing interests together 3.Patience 4.Passion There might be more but these are the most important once for me
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
23 Aug 07
The fortunes, I do respect your opinion/take on this. After reading it, I found it to be quite insightful. Some really do not see love/relationships for the business and loss dynamic. Your take on this is encouraging and I can see why you put the investment points you did. Again, thanks for sharing that. If I was to put some more subjective answers to the problem Daryl posed, I'd probably invest Time, Sharing, Compassion, Kindness, Patience, Passion and Understanding (you and I we aren't so unalike eh.)
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• Netherlands
23 Aug 07
Hiya Theprogrammer, and thank you for your comment, and indeed your points are quite similar to mine and we do not differ much :)
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@daryljane (3437)
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
thanks for the responce guys...but on the question, i started it with "IF"....meaning we have to put Love being in a business proposition...we have different opinions about it and i respect all you ideas...thanks a lot though.
@lilaclady (28236)
• Australia
22 Aug 07
I think love is a bigger risk than business, if you open up a business you can put as much in it to it work as you want, many hours, try new ideas, consult the experts, advertrtise, get new products, you are in control to try anything but in love you only have half the control, people never stop growing and for a partnership to work you have to both grow in the same direction, you only have your part of the partnership to control there...so it is a bigger risk I think, a person can only control their own heart, so after a few heartbreaks myself I would say I would not not invest too much unless someone absolutely swet me off my feet....
• China
23 Aug 07
I am in favor of you. Yes,perhaps all love is made up of heartbreaks and tears.
@daryljane (3437)
• Philippines
27 Aug 07
youre right there too lilaclady! hope one day too id be able to met a guy who will swept me off my feet...lolz! :)
• India
23 Aug 07
hi daryljane,ok if you are saying to compare love with business and asking to invest in it what i would do is what a businessman does for investing and succeeding(as you are comparing the two here):first i will be fully dedicated to it,i'll do everything to nourish it so that it grows with time and for that i will show all my patience like a good businessman tries to win in the end with all profit..even i will aspire to win over my beloved.. I'll do it with all honesty just like a good businessman is honest in whatever he invests or does.. I'll invest my love,dedication,emotions,feelings,sincerity,heart,soul and mind just like a businessman invests his shares,money and other things.. I'll show tolerance to time if something bad happens as losses in business .. I'll be consistent in it till i achieve my dream or my love.. but i won't be negotiating much & I'll be like a single owner business.. if my investments would be able to please my beloved i'll win him....like a successful businessman and if they are not able to please the one whom I would have desired for..I'll accept it..like a good businessman accepts losses(if you compare business with love,business will have its importance got increased..):-)
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@daryljane (3437)
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
well, i guess its more on aiming for that thing to work in the end right? thanks! :)
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• Philippines
23 Aug 07
"use your haert with your mind" well, i guess in business, i believe that you should not invest everything you have especially when your not sure if its gonna work so, if it does not work,you still have saved something for yourself... in...love,its the same,but i do believe that you would feel the right time when you would like and willingly give up everything just for that mr/ms right... right?
• Philippines
23 Aug 07
woops...sorry for the wrong spelling of heart...its heart...haha!
@daryljane (3437)
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
thats right!!! been there, done that! ive once gave up everything because of love, even if i dont know id win in the end. end point is, im still hurt..what matters to me now is that, i gave my all..and was happy once in my life! thanks!:)
• Kottayam, India
24 Aug 07
Love has no business proposition.Do not sell love, nobody will buy it.
@daryljane (3437)
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
it is only what if's elchaddai..nothing personal...thanks for the reply though..:)
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
23 Aug 07
I would invest everything. To answer what lilaclady said so eloquently, giving and even reeiving love is akin to being a warriour. What are the attibutes of a warriour? Strength and bravery - in the face of fear. What is more scary - terrifying then opening yourself and being vulnerable? I would say initiate with caution but be open, listen to your inner voice. My inner voice has never been wrong, yet I've yet to actually really listen!
@daryljane (3437)
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
youre right! I can live my life as an expression of myself, and not justify it to others ... Although I need to listen to others, I can trust my own intuition..and we need to sometimes listen to it knowing that it always tells us its right!
• United States
23 Aug 07
I would give it my all becuase I believe that if I didn't, it wouldn't work out. In love you have to give it your all, love like you've never loved before, and forget about the past. If you don't give it your all due to fear, it's NOT going to work out.
@daryljane (3437)
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
same here candiec2005...ive done that too before..its like taking risk, who knows its the real source of happiness...
• Kottayam, India
23 Aug 07
You cannot value love in terms of money,because God is love.
@daryljane (3437)
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
:)
• China
23 Aug 07
I will invest my all feelings on it,if some time later,it disappears or pales,I will be determined to discard it. And then wait for a good chance to begin my last love.
@daryljane (3437)
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
hmmm..lets see....its like youre giving your all on it...whatever the outcome? anyway, theres always room to move on and not mourn on it right?
@navtech (1776)
• India
23 Aug 07
Dear daryljane, Love is not a business proposition. In business if you loose, you loose only money and not your heart and soul which is very vital for human survival and growth. In case you are unable to negotiate a contract and lost it. It does not make much difference in your life pattern and living. It does not affect you mentally, phycologically or healthwise. But if you lost your love, and your lost of love is going to affect you in many aspects of your life. While negotiating a business, you do not get the feeling of happiness but in love there is something which gives you pleasure, happiness and hope of your future life. Therefore love is not a business proposition.
@daryljane (3437)
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
hi navtech...but like what i said..ive place "IF" on the question..and not like making love as business...but thanks for the reply though. you have point there too...in business, you only loose money, unlike love, its already a matter of your heart and soul!
@gr8life (6252)
• Malaysia
23 Aug 07
Hello daryljane, I will give my everything to love. That is what I am doing right now. Even though we are married, I think I love my husband more and more and always ready to do every thing for him. Some say it is not good. At least you must love yourself a bit more compare to your loved ones. But, that is just me. If it is a business, if it fails, I guess I will be affected terribly.
@daryljane (3437)
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
yeah, some says, when it comes to love, you need to leave something for yourself...but we also know that when it comes to love, we wanted to give more to show more love to that special person...
@gesell03 (173)
• Philippines
23 Aug 07
only 25% of my earnings.
@daryljane (3437)
• Philippines
27 Aug 07
lets see...25% of your mylot earnings? lolz! anyways, thanks for the responce geselle..
@crazed_moma (1054)
• United States
23 Aug 07
Time? Attention? Consideration? Willingness to compromise? I like the saying btw. It reminds me of Dr. Phil, "do you want to be happy or do you want to be right?"
@daryljane (3437)
• Philippines
27 Aug 07
thanks crazed_moma.. yeah..its a choice you need to make to be either happy or be right...:)
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