can you give me advice about this??
By tantal25
@tantal25 (838)
United States
August 23, 2007 5:20am CST
i am so sad...
its because of my friend.... i told her that i'm with my other friend when i saw her boyfriend with another girl... then days have passed, my other friend told me she saw the bf dining with the girl...
well, i guess they really had a huge fight and in the end, i can't believe that she was the one who was mad at me... she was trying to imply as if i am ruining their relationship.. i don't know what her bf told her, but one thing's for sure, he denied it... i guess with that, he believe her boyfriend despite everything...
what i can't believe is, she even asked me to tell her immediately if i saw her bf doing stuffs she doesn't know... but in the end, she is the one blaming me... i mean, i was just concerned for her, you know, i am a girl too, and i feel for her... but i guess she got it all wrong...
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9 responses
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
23 Aug 07
Saw her boyfriend, so that means you're not sure of what the relationship of her boyfriend with the other girl. Correct me here if I'm wrong, but I think she might have thought you're making conclusions without hard proof to back it out.
It would be good if you three settle that issue out, talk about it and clear things to save your friendship.
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
23 Aug 07
Well in this case, there's nothing you can do for now about your friend. If she listened to her boyfriend instead of you so be it, but when the time comes she realizes it, be sure that you have your doors open and arms to accept her again!;)
@Nykkee (2522)
• Canada
23 Aug 07
Your friend is in denial. It is the guys fault she is acting like this. He probably told her some stupid crap like "Oh Baby, You know I'd never cheat on you, your friend just wants me for herself and is lying to you to break us up." It hurts less to beleive him so that's what she does. Next time you see him out with this other girl, get your phone or whatever out, snap a picture of him, then once you have it put away so he can't grab it, walk over and inform the girl he's on the date with that he is a two timing piece of crap. You have the picture already, but depending on what the girl is like and her reaction to what you tell her, you may be able to get her to tell your friend that her boyfriend is a cheating piece of crap.
@tantal25 (838)
• United States
23 Aug 07
lol yeah exactly my point! maybe he told her those stupid lies.. but seriously, the boyfriend might take care now.. i am very sure he will cheat on her discreetly because he was now aware that someone might see him with the girl and might tell her gf...
@andrejuly84 (1047)
• Romania
24 Aug 07
that's why we shouldn't say anything to our friend in this situations although we will feel guilty in our consciences knowing that fact.is better to let her find out alone her partner is cheating her
@lburns70 (182)
• United States
23 Aug 07
You did the right thing. I am sure that when you friend realizes that te bf was messing around on her she will be glad that you told her. If it were me I know that I would be glad that someone told me something like that. Just tell her that you were looking out for her and didnt want to hurt her you just didnt want the bf to use her and hurt her.
@tantal25 (838)
• United States
23 Aug 07
you know, i already did that... i talk to her about that... i said i was concern about her because she is my friend and all... i don't want her to be the last to know that her bf was messing around..
but its very sad to say that, its her bf she believed.. i saw her shoutout that says "to those who kept digging into our lives, stop it! mind your own business and just be happy. we are so fed up with you!!"
but i was the kind of person who is really prank so i texted her and i asked about the shoutout... she didn't texted me back...
@Jacky_Guo30772 (19)
• China
24 Aug 07
There is an ancient saying "the wise man knows he knows nothing, the fool thinks he knows all". SO you need not worry much,time can smooth all misunderstanding.
@lydia002005 (101)
• China
24 Aug 07
I think the best you should do is calm down ,both you and your friend .Maybe your friend is not understand you,but after a period of time,she will wake.Then she will know that you are right and you are good for her.
@samtaylorskykierajen (7977)
• Canada
24 Aug 07
Your friend is hurting right now and doesn't want to believe what you saw because by believing this it means she has to change something in her life she is not ready to change . She obviously has a lot of feelings for this guy and would rather listen to his lies then listen to her friend . Try not to take it to hard . In her heart she knows you are right but she is not ready to face it right now . Just let her know that you are there for her if she needs you and then wait for her . Chances are she will end up needing you in the future as he feels he has got away with it and won't stop as he feels he can do what he wants . Take each day as it comes , you did the right thing in telling her , now you have to wait for her to realize you were only trying to help her not hurt her . Best of luck
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
24 Aug 07
Just relax and check out with your boy friend, what had actually happened, there appears to me some communication gap.
@alfecris (181)
• Philippines
24 Aug 07
you know what, if i were you, i will not mind those things i saw. why will you not just leave the situation alone and let your friend figure it out by herself so that you will not be the blame why the two of them fought.
messing up other business is not your business at all. i've learn things a lot in my own and one is this one never give a damn time for those businesses which is not yours. let the time work for that girl. can't you take it on your conscience that you are the reason why your friend and her boyfriend fought?.. common you are not being a good person even if you think that you are concern of your friend.
