Do you nag?
By Cammeel1
@Cammeel1 (372)
United States
August 23, 2007 9:10pm CST
My husband and I are sitting here side by side, as we often do at night, each at our own computer. We share our thoughts for the day, talk about whatever needs to be discussed about the kids, work, house, whatever. Tonight the subject of nagging came up. I asked him if I nag. He got this blank look on his face and after a slight pause shook his head no and said "not really". I started to laug so hard. My first thought was I must really be a nag for him to hesitate in answering as if he knows I am going to nag him about his answer.
So my question to you is, do you nag?
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15 responses
@sergeantrom (5721)
• United States
24 Aug 07
yes indeed, 90% of the time, I am working on it though
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@bbsbeesknees (124)
• United States
24 Aug 07
Oh, yes. Before I got married I never saw myself that way...but, as someone else responded, sometimes that's the only way things get done. Lol.
My husband works 2 jobs, so I don't expect much at all during the week, but I work weekends sometimes, and then, I think he can help out a little bit. He doesn't have to clean the whole house or anything...but if there are dishes in the sink and you put most of 'em there-wash 'em! He tends to put things off as long as possible-after the game, after the workout, after the movie and this episode of Star Trek, etc. etc. So-yeah-sometimes I kinda hafta nag.
On the plus side, though-when he gets going he can do a great job, and I always appreciate what he does when he does it.
@Cammeel1 (372)
• United States
24 Aug 07
As I was just saying before, I think this nagging thing has become a common part of relationships. As kids we watched Mom nag and Dad put off the task. Men know full well we will nag if they don't get it done. They know we will 'remind' them *cough cough* so they deliberately won't do what needs to be done until we nag. Nasty little circle that we play with each other, I think. On the serious side, I have to say, that some people definitely take nagging to the extreme and that's sad. No one needs to have someone bit*hing at them night and day over every little tiny thing.
@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
24 Aug 07
My fiance and I are the same way with our two computers, and sharing our thoughts for the day. We are individual enough to want and need our own computers, but we happily share the "home office space" with eachother. As for nagging, I know what you are saying. There are times when we need to speak frankly about something positive or negative, but we do our best not to nag. I have met his ex-wive, and I know how she was. She nagged!!! I don't need to nag. If people need to nag to get a point across, they didn't have a really good point in the first place. My fiance and I communicate vey well with eachother.
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@Cammeel1 (372)
• United States
24 Aug 07
I will have to disagree with you on the fact that if we have to nag then it wasn't a good point to begin with.
Some people just refuse to listen and some of us feel the need to repeat it until it is understood OUR way. *snicker*
I see what you mean though, if there is good communication then we shouldn't need to nag. It may not be funny when nagging is taken to the extreme, but I often find that it is a given right of every wife to nag until it's done right. :)
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@samtaylorskykierajen (7977)
• Canada
24 Aug 07
I don't consider myself a nag but I am not sure how my husband would answer if asked the same question .
I do bug if I ask him to do something and he tells me he will do it and months later I am still waiting so I probably do nag but I really don't like when I ask someone to do something and they tell me they will and then I am still waiting how long to have it done lol .
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@CaitBaby (446)
• United States
24 Aug 07
I don't think I really nag too much. Well, I do to my boyfriend but that's because he deserves it most of the time. My mother and grandmother nag at me a lot and good lord it drives me insane. I think when someone nags it's just because they care.
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@vhansen (2029)
• United States
19 Jun 08
No I don't.I hate that in other people so I try my very best not to do it myself.I state my point or opinion clearly and except if my spouse doesn't agree.I'm not perfect by no means but this is one area I feel strongly about.
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
25 Aug 07
Yep. I try not to, but I know I do. Sometimes it is so frustrating finding ways to get my husband to actually do stuff without nagging.
@candiec2005 (828)
• United States
24 Aug 07
hell yea I nag. I think part of being a woman is nagging. lol.
@applecartronnie (1984)
• India
25 Aug 07
i am the last one to nag. i always make it a point to know what might not feel good to the other person and refrain from doing that. i try to think before i speak for words are like arrows once shot not to return. also, why nag and make the other loosepatience useleslly, ultimately i would be getting into a bd mood sooner or later for my doing.
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@StayHomeMom (108)
• United States
24 Aug 07
I do nag all the time. Not that I want to it just happens. I try to tell my husband and kids that I did not do it until they came along.
@seeyogeshwagh (724)
• India
24 Aug 07
Nag is another name for getting the job done. It's the best practice speciaslly with kids, when they do not listen.
