mylot friend protocol?
By Amy
@artemis432 (7474)
Abernathy, Texas
August 25, 2007 11:29am CST
I've received a lot of requests for friends and I've made a few. Although, I often click on discussions my friends started, I leave it at that. Mainly because I don't want to bother people, and as outgoing and gregarious as I can be, I'm also shy.
When on the profile of some of my mylot friends yesterday, looking for posts with o responses, I kept noticiing the comment feature, which I actually hadn't really in my profile. I don't look at it when I go to my profile. And besides just have a great day! comments, there are plenty of "Thanks for adding me!" I'm wondering if I should have been doing this along and if I've inadvertedly insulted or hurt anyone...
Do you do this? If any of my friends look at this - I apologize if I've overlooked something important. When I started on the internet, there weren't all of these forums - not quite like this - there were bulletin boards, but no fancy profiles and such. I am on myspace but rarely.
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9 responses
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
25 Aug 07
I have been putting down some comments on friends, as I have been looking for more ways to enjoy this site aside from posting. Lately, I find commenting on profiles fun. i receive lots of them, but I bother less of it back then. So I thought that maybe it would be good to give them back something in return, a sort of appreciation for their effort in giving well-wishes and complements.
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
25 Aug 07
Maybe I should dedicate one day to just figuring out the comments and posting them. I figured it out on myspace, must be similiar sites.
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
25 Aug 07
I post some whenever I feel like I have to rest my mind for a while, I find it amusing looking for comment to post for my friends!;)
I believe that it is also as the same as myspace, as that is what we also do in Yuwie or any other sites!;)
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@scarywhitegirl (2766)
• United States
25 Aug 07
I rarely look at my comments either, so I sometimes don't see them until they are a few weeks old. :)
Even on myspace, I'm not a fan of the "Thanks for the add!" comments, so I don't like them here either. I figure if I really want to let someone know something, I can send them a private message. That seems a lot more personal and friendly than having a stock graphic that you use to post a new friend a comment...
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
26 Aug 07
You certainly have a point. Now I don't feel so bad. Thought I was out of the loop or something!
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
1 Sep 07
Amy, You are free to accept 'friends' request. It is upto you, whose profile and disucussions you like or dislike and based on that you may go ahead.
But in-between keep on checking your profile page, it may happen that some of your dear friends would have posted some nice comments/pictures or images for you to see and convey their gratitude to you.
Have you seen lately your profile page????
Have a nice day!
Deepak
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
3 Sep 07
Thanks for comments!
I think if you receive any 'friend's request', you need not tell him/her specifically, because that 'friend' gets added in your list automatically and vice versa. The position can always be checked by you and your friend from their list of friends, anytime.
YOu are one of the most counteous friends, I can vouch for that, you need not say about it! :):)
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@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
2 Sep 07
Oh I know, I accept 'friends' request when I want to - not when I think its a way for them to sell something to me, just when I want to. I also choose discussions by the same method - what I want to. I go to friend's discussions as just one avenue to find interesting discussions - and because many on my list post to my discussions - so its kind of common courtesy. My question was more about comments - and whether when I accept someone as a friend should I send them a comment - or when they accept me. Don't really have too much time for that though. I will try though!
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@craftcatcher (3699)
• United States
26 Aug 07
Na, you didn't hurt my feelings. I'm not that sensitive.. LOL. I have gotten very few of those and I don't do it. I don't not do it (wow a double negative) to be rude. I just don't find it a necessity. I used to do it once in a while on mySpace when I first started but not anymore. I delete a lot of them on mySpace because when it gets full of a lot of pictures is takes too long for the page to load. I have one friend whose page is so full of pictures, videos, picture comments and whatnot that even with my DSL it takes 2 or 3 minutes to load the page. I rarely go to her page now because of it. If I had cable internet and a gig of memory it might be a different story but my computer is old and it's just annoying to sit and wait.
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@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
26 Aug 07
I didn't think about that. I appreciate you letting me know how you feel - or don't! I really wasn't sure. A lot of people asked me to add them as friends and I guess I thought it was so I could access their discussions more easily - which is a really nice feature!
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@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
26 Aug 07
I felt as you do when I started a few months ago. I have never refused a friends request so far. I check out profiles and discussions and there is usually something I can respond to. For friends request I ask when they have visited my site or I have been to theirs and I feel a kinship. I like having the option of sending e-mails or commenting on pictures and that can determine friends requests at my end.
There is quite a bit to learn on this site between profiles, ratings, comments, getting to the 500 club and adding images etc. I fell into the same trap with my comments too...I missed them and felt bad that I hadn't responded...and still do when things are busy.
So in my view most Mylotters are very forigiving of oversights. I do make a point of thanking those who give me a best response...but I just add a comment to whatever topic I had commented on that warrented the cudo.
I have not figured out how to send images yet...that is my next learning curve. So I think you're probably doing just fine.
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
26 Aug 07
Thanks once again for your perspective - Perspectives. I have actually only gotten two comments - and only just noticed them! Thanks for the support and encouragement - I just don't want to offend anyone! It is hard to answer everyone when I get at least 10 responses for multiple discussions when I log in. So many people have said - answwer everyone - yet I looked at the mylot guidelines and they say not to do that so it gets confusing!
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@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
26 Aug 07
My best suggestion for people in the work I do is this...listen to your own inner knowing and do what feels appropriate for you. We can drive ourselves crazy by listening to other people's opinions...because they are just that...opinions. No one has the right to direct or dictate another's choices...advise...yes...suggest...yes...but dictate, manipulate or control...no!
So in my view figure out a system that feels right for you and work from that place. You will enjoy yourself more and everything you do will be from a genuine expression rather than a frentic attempt to do what others say. At least that is my perspective...
Good luck with whatever you do...and above all...have fun and enjoy the Mylotting experience. You have a lot to offer and I appreciate your discussions and responses on my site or elsewhere.
Best regards,
Raia
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@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
26 Aug 07
Thank you Raia (beautiful name) you too are an asset to mylot with your honesty, detail, support and encouragement. I can't lose sight of why I'm here - to discuss, discuss, discuss and have fun. Because, curiousity killed the cat but satisfaction brought him back.
And, you gave the advice I always give - listen to your intuition!
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@bluecactusblossom (36)
• United States
26 Aug 07
Actually, I don't have any friends yet on here. Hmmm...that's kind of sad. I guess I'm still fairly new to the site though. I think I might would try to leave the occasional comment in their profile when I had the chance to.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
29 Aug 07
There's no obligation to add a comment to a friends page at all. It's just a kind gesture is all. I used to add to all my friends. But I am over 300 friends and that would be time consuming. In time as I get to know each of these friends I may add a graphic to their page out of friendship. It's beneficial to have more friends as well so that you have more discussions to respond to helping to earn you more. I am sending a request along as well. Thanks for this topic and have a great day/evening as well. Take care.
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@indiavani (863)
• India
5 Sep 07
Hello! Its totally your choice to accept/reject friend requests & sending them comments or not. There's nothing wrong if you don't comment on profiles. Mylotters who like to keep in touch through comments or private messages do it.
