Would you allow your husband to have a woman friend?

United States
August 28, 2007 12:07am CST
Would you allow your husband to have a woman for a friend? Would you allow him to see her for drinks, if he said they were just friends? Would about go to dinner or travel?
11 responses
• United States
29 Aug 07
in the very beginning of our relationship, i might have been ok with it. i had guy friends, and it was just that, friends. it wasnt until our relationship got more serious that he (he was my boyfriend at the time) said that he didnt like me having boy-friends. he said that there is no guy out there that wants to be JUST friends with a girl. his beleif was that if a guy was friends with a female, its because he wanted something more. well, that clued me in to how his brain worked. so, my answer is no. my husband can NOT have female friends, becuase obviously HE cannot have female friends without wanting something more than just friendship. he shined a whole new light on me about the meaning of "friendship". if he had never put it that way, i wouldnt have had a problem with him being friends with females, but i would never accept him going out alone with a female friend. thats what i am here for. i am his friend, his lover, and his wife. he doesnt need another friend like that.
• China
29 Aug 07
may I ask for you a question?If you have male friends,what your husband will think about.
@cutepenguin (6448)
• Canada
29 Aug 07
I don't think it would bother me. Most of my husband's friends are guys, though, so I guess I don't really know how I'd feel about it until it happens. Right now, I think it'd be fine if my husband went for drinks or out with a girl who was a friend. Not on a date, obviously, but just hanging out with a friend.
• United States
29 Aug 07
Assuming my woman's intuition felt right, I wouldn't mind. In fact my husband has female friends, and as long as I am always able to meet them, and if I choose, hang out with them, I'm fine with it. Now if for some reason he ever acts like he doesn't want me to be around him while he is out, I'm likely to get suspicious, but it's fine by me. I also have male friends and he is comfortable with that. What do you mean by "travel?" For work? Sure, why not? For pleasure- like a vacation? No way!!
@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
28 Aug 07
With past issues with this, it is not a good idea, at least for me. I trust my husband but I can't say that I could trust other women that I don't know. We have friends that are female, but he doesn't see them individually to go out to drinks. I think that is totally inappropriate for a married man to be out with another woman without his wife in accompaniment, but that is my opinion and how I feel. He may have nothing underhanded in his heart or mind, but one can't guarantee that the other party doesn't. I have been through this scenario and it is not fun. So why put doubt in your heart with situations such as this? We had a situation arise where I thought I had a very good friend and she ended up not being such a good friend. She put my husband in a position that caused us much strife and heartache. We almost ended our relationship. So, I have to say that no, I could not feel comfortable with that and my husband doesn't feel comfortable with that either.
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
im the kind of wife who got easily jealous with my hubbys female friends that is why i don't allow him to go out with them or travel with them if im not there. I always see to it that wherever he goes i am with him and vice versa. Im afraid that with that single moment my husband could find a reason to decieve me and to the vows of our marriage.
@prily9 (568)
• Indonesia
28 Aug 07
well, I hate to talk to my husband that he can't go but I prefer to say if you do it I don't like it. except if not just two of them. especially if he ask to go with her for dinner or travelling. anything could be happen if just two of them who goes. if just become friend will be fine but not meeting only both of them.
• India
28 Aug 07
yes i would allow my husband to have a woman friend but in certain extend .becoz i trust him very much in the same way he trusts me so . in the society like others we have to meet many people in the whole day in connection of our work at our work places so how can i expect that he should only have male friends. but certainly i wuold not allow him to travel with her or go to dinner alone if there will be me than its ok. i dont have any problem .
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
No I wont allow him to have a woman friend, coz most of the times, as based to my experienced men tends to fall in love to other one when the woman gave more importance to him and become more open and closer to him, thus men intend to believe that the woman who was neared to him or friend of him has some special feelings towards him. Thats why I dont agree in husbands friendship to another woman.
@ssh123 (31096)
• India
28 Aug 07
In India, such a thing is quite impossible to happen. Even if a woman is business associate, it is purely restricted to business and not beyond that. In case some one tries to hoodwink, it is known sooner or later and the guy will be taken to task.
@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
28 Aug 07
If that wasn't somebody in my husband's family, I don't think I would feel too comfortable with them spending so much quality time together. I don't have a problem with my man having female friends but i would like to maybe do some double dates with someone one she is with, so i can get to know what type of person she is. I definitely don't think they should be taking solo trips together, it just doesn't make sense when your partner is suppose to be your best friend, why my husband wouldn't want to take me instead of the female friend anyway.