what do you do when you see a "negative" response in one of your discussions?

@elmo1211 (212)
Philippines
August 28, 2007 3:45am CST
firstly, it wasn't in my discussion. my sister posted a discussion last week which isn't even a controversial topic. she called me up earlier coz she was upset about it, the first time she has received a response so negative from another mylot user, who spoke negatively of other responders in that discussion as well... calling them "disgusting people". my sister is one very very positive person i know in real life and within the internet community and i got pissed off when i saw the negative response she received. my initial reaction is to give the guy a negative(-) mark for that. but she didn't want to. she just commented in a civil manner, not her usual warm response. she told me that the particular negative responder was still new and won't probably last in mylot with that negative attitude anyway. how about you, if you receive a response that is negative and so insulting, what would you do?
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12 responses
@sunshinecup (7880)
28 Aug 07
She did right. As for me, well it really depends on the day and what has been going on. These jerks catch me on a bad day, well I let them have it. On a good, I ignore or respond as positive as I can. If it's too bad I report them and have the their post removed.
• India
28 Aug 07
i totally agree with you sunshinecup and even i do the same..
@elmo1211 (212)
• Philippines
29 Aug 07
i was tempted to give that guy a negative or worse a ! but i didn't.
@mistissa (1348)
• Netherlands
28 Aug 07
I would try to ignore it and not think too much of it. Also keep in mind that it is written and can come across different to a reader than it might be intended.
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@elmo1211 (212)
• Philippines
29 Aug 07
yeah, might get misinterpreted again. thanks! =)
@ssh123 (31096)
• India
28 Aug 07
I see quite a lot of negative responses to my discussion topics. Some people even post some foreign language texts just for the heck of it. I promptly inform mylot admin and get this either deleted or I give them [-] rating. Just because it is a free forum, one should not allow people to misuse their freedom.
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@elmo1211 (212)
• Philippines
29 Aug 07
yes, it is a free to post forum but we all should be responsible for everything that we write on here. thanks! =)
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@ssh123 (31096)
• India
29 Aug 07
You are absolutely right and thanks for the comments.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
28 Aug 07
Unfortunately that happens a lot. SOme people think they are so righteous that every one else has to be wrong and they have to be right. They don't accept different views, they don't respect other people's views and they think they should dictate the way others think. I'm not sure what I would do in that situation. I could disregard it - something answering will give the person more importance than what he/she has. I could respond in a polite way, if I felt it really needed an answer. I could rate it (-) or even report it if I find it way too abusive. I just don't know what I would do until I was in that situation. Even a new member needs to be civil in my opinion though so I don't know I would take that into consideration. New member or not being rude is not the way to go anywhere.
@elmo1211 (212)
• Philippines
29 Aug 07
yes, there shouldn't be any room for rude people here. thanks! =)
@Daelin (683)
• Brazil
28 Aug 07
I never got any negative response. Maybe someone disagrees but until now I have found only nice people. I donĀ“t know what I would do if I met someone like that. I think I would just ignore the post.
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@elmo1211 (212)
• Philippines
29 Aug 07
good for you. =) it is alright to disagree, but not to be rude. thanks for the response. =)
@whyaskq (7531)
• Singapore
28 Aug 07
If the response is intented to malign, I would give it a negative rating. Very often, I noticed such responder has a low reputation. If the response is of a different opinion and totally negates my viewpoint, I value his opinion. It allows me to think from another perspective and I may give him a best response for the effort -- if it is well done!
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@elmo1211 (212)
• Philippines
29 Aug 07
ditto! =) sometimes, i really look for different opinions so that i could check my own. =)
@crazynurse (7489)
• United States
28 Aug 07
I don't mind someone having a differing opinion from me, afterall that is what makes us all unique and the world a more interesting place. However, I will not tolerate name-calling. If someone posts in my discussion and begins calling others names, I immediately let myLot know and ask that the post be removed. As for just general negative comments, I either ignore them or respond by thanking them for their opinion!
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@elmo1211 (212)
• Philippines
29 Aug 07
different opinions are so welcome but when a person calls other mylotters as "disgusting people", i think it warrants at least a negative or a ! for that matter. what do you think?
@cefaz_21 (2597)
• Philippines
28 Aug 07
you're sister seems nice, she even commnented in civil manner and stopped you for giving that guy a negative mark. If I received negative response on my discussion,most probably I'll ignore it and leave him/her alone.
@elmo1211 (212)
• Philippines
29 Aug 07
yeah, she's really nice. most often even when she's pissed off, she carefully re-word what she has to say so as not to hurt anybody.
@funnysis (2619)
• United States
28 Aug 07
extreme happy - thought this might cheer you up a bit and everyone else to smile its a good day.
I think your sister did good in not stooping to their level a negative feedback doesn't mean much to me other then there is someone who is upset about their earnings or something and so they take it out on other users like your sister.I think that as long as the posting are good then rate them but just leave them if you can't judge fair and let someone else look at it.Sorry that happened but it will be okay.Have a great day.
@elmo1211 (212)
• Philippines
29 Aug 07
yeah. my sister is way better than stooping low to that person's level. thanks so much. i just need to vent it out a little coz i really don't understand why there are mylot users so negative like that. have a great day too. =)
• India
28 Aug 07
hi elmo1211,good topic..!well about me i would say that when ever i start a discussion its mostly not like people should reply as i want ..i mean it is more like without controversies or double meanings or you what you can simple and straight response type so that mostly people can comment on it their own good way..so i don't face any problem like somebody insults or anything like that..but yes when i post a discussion specially under debates or relationships interests i have experienced this thing twice ..but it was not contrary or negative to what i was asking but actually it was insulting for me to read that response..may be that person was more of a outspoken and of having negative image about females but whatever it was that person wrote some objectionable things about what i have asked..he did not say anything to me but made fun of my post by saying it is so immature and impractical kind of a question..let me tell you it was about weddings and he wrote that nothing like them exists..people only want bodies and something like that i cant tell here..so he was more like a disturbed personality so i did not pay any attention to him and just reported against him and also requested the administrator to get my post deleted because he put some derogatory tags along with my post which were there even when his response got deleted..so what i want to say is in these extreme situations only thing left is nothing but reporting to the administrator as soon as possible..and about the negative or contrary responses to my discussions like somebody not agreeing to me i would say that i don't mind if somebody is not agreeing to me and in such cases i never explain myself even when i know that i can over wit that person..but its not my nature to do these things to unknown people here..so i just ignore that response until its not harming my self respect..even that does not work i give that person negative mark and move on..
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@pilbara (1436)
• Australia
29 Aug 07
It's about a question of degree, a response can be negative but still polite and if that were the case I would thank them for their reply but leave it at that. If rude I would give them a negative as they deserve it and also send in a copy to mylot as well.
@coolseeds (3921)
• United States
28 Aug 07
I welcome all responses. I understand that if I am asking for opinions, there is going to be a variety. Not everyone is going to take your side. Actually a negative response is better than someone saying what they think I want to hear.