Are you good in flirting or don't you flirt at all?
August 28, 2007 5:42am CST
They say that flirting is an art and I fully agree. A lot of women who seem not to be so well endowed physically or in terms of beauty, still manages to catch the eye of some hapless guy. LOL! and I had noticed that it is because those women are actually good at flirting. I can't help comparing them with myself wherein I avoid eye contact especially if the person actually interests me. They, on the other hand tend to stare and even smile at the guy. They do these very subtle body movements or gestures that tells a guy they are attracted to them or interested. Theoretically, I know how to flirt, but I just can't seem to put them into action? The least that I could do is look the guy in the eye and then look away. he he he! Are any of you here ladies can claim to be very good in flirting? Not the vulgar kind of flirting, mind you. As to you guys, do you feel drawn to women you flirts with their eyes and gestures?
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• United States
10 Sep 08
Oh, how I wish I could flirt! I have never ever flirted with anybody in my entire life! I have always believed that guys would just come to me when they're really interested. In my experience, the cutest ones are actually the shy ones and they have to be given some sort of prodding. I have been brought up in a conservative family, so I never flirt, not even make eye contact. No wonder I am still single at 41!
29 Oct 09
Well, you may have hit the nail right in the head why you are still single. he he he! But i also wonder, are you cognizant if the guy is flirting with you? Even if you are not the one who instigated the flirting, you could still flirt back if he flirts first. I was also brought up by a very conservative family. I remember my mother saying that girls should wait for a boy to show his interest first or make courting difficult. During her time, it would take months of courting. Nowadays, i guess all it takes is a look because a lot of people nowadays have become masters of flirting and nuances.
8 Sep 08
hi there friend..its been a while since i post a response to your topics...i have been away 7 months...its a long story. about flirting, i guess yes i know how to flirt especially if i really like the guy and i really wanted to be noticed..it comes out naturally..body language speaks louder than words.
10 Sep 08
I haven't tried this before of flirting with a girl before. When I was in my teenages, I sure got attracted to many girls but never flirted with anyone. You can say I am a little shy kind of person. Here in Pakistan, boys don't talk to girls like in other countries I think. They mostly stay away and if there are any eye contacts then you know the girl in intrested. But for me, I have a very simple life with no girl friends at all.
10 Sep 08
I guess we have very different culture. Women in my country are very sought after and are courted fervently. Men as supposed to chase women. LOL! It is unseemly in my country for a woman to make the first move on a man, so we just resort to ways to let the man know that we are interested or attracted without being too blatant about it by flirting with great finesse. Even shy people like you can flirt. All you have to do is start practicing. Good luck!
• United States
24 Jun 08
It depends on who the person is and if I will feel comfy with them . I have a way I have been told that I flirt and don't even know that I am doing it . i suppose it is just natural for me . I do tend to giggle alot when I flirt and smile . Oh and I can be very touchy person .
5 Aug 08
Good for you that flirting seem effortless to you when you feel like it. It is a skill that I do admire. Flirting is just a way of letting us play around harmlessly. Well, for me its harmless. But wit some people, i know that is just not the case. I believe also that in must be done with finesse. thanks for responding!
• United States
11 Aug 08
Flirting is more to do with action rather than words. It isnt what you say that appeals, it is what you do and how you say it that works the magic. I use the humor route, I am at a calm and relaxed posture, I make a humorous comment with a smirk or no emotion. I use hand and arm movements to express what I say. I dont stare at what I want to pursue, I give little or no attention once I notice that they noticed me. The main thing in flirting is to stand out among the rest, a bigger and louder display isnt always the right way to go, sometimes doing what they dont expect stands out more. Flirting is an art that takes practice, best thing to do is to flirt with strangers, you arent planning on dating them or marrying them, so practice until you get comfy with it and discover the style that is best for you...
13 Aug 08
I do agree that its indeed an art. There are those that are just so natural at it and those that seems not to get the whole idea of it. LOL! Those that are 'professional' at it do it with such finesse and subtlety that I can't help but envy. But those that do it loud and vulgar just tries my nerves.
28 Aug 07
Maybe that explains why eye contact is very meaningful. When you look at somebody when having a conversation doesn't really mean that your flirting, maybe in some situation but people tend to do this not just because to flirt it also is a sign that your interested to the discussion.
29 Aug 07
Your response actually reminds me of my experience. I used to be a trainor and sometimes I focus my attention on one trainee for several especially if there is something in the trainee that I want to develop. However, I noticed that if it's men, they would start to act strangely and later I realized it was because they thought that I have a personal interest in them.LOL! Interest do get mistaken most of the time as flirting.