Our friends
By sunshinecup
@sunshinecup (7871)
August 30, 2007 6:19am CST
I have a friend that is moving across the street from me. She has 2 sons, one is 20 the other is 15. These are some big boys as well, both tower over me with ease. However during this move, they can’t seem to pack, lift or clean and she needs me and my husband as well as other friends of hers to help. I love her and I don’t mind helping, but it burns me to no end her son’s are so lazy.
Part of me really wants to lay into them about this, but I know it will only drive a wedge between her and I. She doesn’t like other’s “correcting” her children and I can’t say I blame her, but when I bring it up to her, she gets defensive or passage about it. So that leaves me to silently fume over the whole situation.
Here is my question, what would do in this predicament? Have you ever had a friend whom you loved but they had a quality about them that drove you nuts, what was it and how did you deal with it?
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5 responses
@ladybug565 (2216)
• United States
31 Aug 07
I do have a friend like that her kids are completely rude and obnoxious to her and she gets upset if anyone says anything to them. I dont anymore because I value her friendship too much. it is hard but I keep my mouth shut.
@sunshinecup (7871)
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31 Aug 07
Yeah it looks as thought just zipping the lip and going on is the best thing to do.
@ElusiveButterfly (45941)
• United States
31 Aug 07
Every friend that I has a quality that I do not care for. I choose to ignore it and focus on what I do like. This enables me to maintain the friendship.
@sunshinecup (7871)
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31 Aug 07
Wonderful advice!!! I think that is what I do most of the time. I love her like sister, I really do and she has been in my life for so long. She has many great qualities to offer as a friend, so I am never in a short supply of them.
@sunshinecup (7871)
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31 Aug 07
Yeah I can't argue with you on that, you are very right. It's true. I have been friends with her for so long, since I was 14 I reckon, I just accept her for who she is. Just those boys drive me nuts being so lazy.
@awonderfullife (2893)
• United States
30 Aug 07
In your situation, I'd probably say something in a joking manner, like "Hey boys, how about giving us old ladies a hand?" That way it sounds like you are just asking for some help and not actually calling them lazy.
As for your question about having a friend that you love but who drives you nuts, the answer is YES! Probably every one of my friends does something that drives me a little nuts!
Here are some examples (the names have been changed to protect the innocent, LOL):
Donna- Has a heart of gold, would give you the shirt off her back, but then reminds you of it every chance she gets. Not really in a mean spirited way, just in a way to boost her own self esteem, I think.
Bonnie- Wants to be everybody's best friend. Spreads herself a little thin while doing so.
Charlotte- Very high manintenance. You have to make sure you don't say the wrong thing around her because she is very sensitive.
Jody- A great pal but we always have to hang out with her mom!
How do I deal? I just try to accept these pals as they are are, flaws and all, beacsue I'm sure there's things about me that bug them too!
@sunshinecup (7871)
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30 Aug 07
How do I deal? I just try to accept these pals as they are are, flaws and all, beacsue I'm sure there's things about me that bug them too!
Great answer!!! ... LOL, not that my friends can find faults with me, NOT! :oP
Honestly I know a big one they all have with me, I am not a very courteous person. I don't return phone calls when I say I will. I hear about it all the time. But in my defense, I just don't normally have the time available to set down and call. Most of them are not home till nighttime and that's my busiest time of the day, that and I am in bed by 9PM.LOL
@mykmari_08 (2464)
• Philippines
31 Aug 07
I guess sometimes we have to let our friends have it the hard way. I think this situation is somewhat related to a friend borrowing money from us. I'm quite open-handed so long as I have extra money, and the debtor is true to his word with regards to returning the debt, & when I know that this friend is truly in need. However, we cannot deny the fact that sometimes, they tend to 'forget' to return their debts. Sometimes they are even irked on us when we remind them about it. It happened to me not only once; so I developed a negativity towards those who do not repay me financially. So, when they try to borrow money again, I make excuses just to teach them somehow that they should do their part on these types of situation. Even an officemate once told me that sometimes, we have to let others, even our friends, take the sacrifice so that they may learn a lesson from this.
