Temper Tantrums

United States
August 31, 2007 3:09pm CST
Nicholas has benn throwing some bad temper tantrums. He will throw himself on the floor screaming. At the same time he is hitting his head on the floor, the wall, our legs, the furniture or whatever else maybe in the way. He will sometimes bite himself during these but not very often. Does anyone have any advice as to haw to stop these?
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
31 Aug 07
a good paddleing lol but ya cant do that no more . GEt down and copy what he is doing and let him see how it looks One day the kids were screaming and all Of sudden I started screamming and they stopped very stunned and didnt happen again for ythey saw what it looked like . hope that helps
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• United States
19 Sep 07
This sounds very amusing. I think that with his temperament that this would work with him.
@ElicBxn (63228)
• United States
31 Aug 07
When I was a kid, I'm told I used to bang my head on the floor or wall. The doctor told my parents just to ignore it. If it doesn't get any attention, he'll stop.
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• United States
19 Sep 07
He has started getting over the more dangerous aspects of the tantrums now and just throws himself on the floor. Thanks for the advice.
@sunshinecup (7871)
31 Aug 07
Temper tantrums were a thing both my girls did and we simply laughed at them while they had them. It sounds cold and cruel, but it was a phase that didn't last long at all. In fact it was a come and go quickly thing.
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• United States
19 Sep 07
That would be a wonderful thing. His tantrums are getting pretty bad right now but I think he may be starting to get better. He is doing them less often now and it is more just throwing himself on the floor and laying there now. I think parenting is getting pretty difficult as he grows older. There seems to be a lot more involved now.
• United States
31 Aug 07
I've been told by a counsler to "cheer" your kids on. If they're throwing a tantrum, cheer them like a cheer leader "Good job!" or "You can cry louder then that!" "I like the way that you're getting the tantrum monster out, way to go!" I have done this and with my middle son, he'll either Stop or he'll do it louder as I asked. The counsler said that either of those still puts us back into control because if he does it louder, then he's doing what you said.
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• United States
19 Sep 07
Great idea. I love the cheerleader idea. Thanks for the advice.
@makingpots (11915)
• United States
31 Aug 07
You really do just have to ignore them. Pay enough attention to him to keep him from hurting himself but try to not let im know you are giving him any attention. Children are really quite smart. He will learn that it is getting him no where and before you know it he will be on to the next stage of learning. I recommend you get a few of them on DVD if you get a chance. They are hilarious to look back on later. Deep breathes help too!!!! ;-)
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• United States
19 Sep 07
Thank you for this advice. I think you are right. He does seem to be getting better on his own.
@Laurla98 (786)
• United States
31 Aug 07
I agree that you have to just let them get it out. They will stop eventually, especially if they see they aren't getting your attention. I actually used to tell my neice & nephews that they weren't doing it right and that they really need to learn how to throw a tantrum and they would stop because I would stop stomping my feet really loud. They finally knew that if they threw a tantrum, I didn't care.
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• United States
19 Sep 07
Great ideas. Thanks for the advice.
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
1 Sep 07
When my daughter was aboutNicholas's age she started to throw temper tantrums. I remembered what my aunt said about my cosin doing this. she had a dish pan of water and with out thinking she threw it on him. walla no more tempertantrams. So I decided to try this with my daughter. I was drinking cold tea at the time and had only a 1/2 glass and it was luke warm so I threw it on her. she was so surprised that she stopped in mid tanyrum. The nest time she started to have one I just showed her the glass and ask her if she wanted it again. This only happend a couple of time and she was over throwing temper tantrums. This won't hurt him. he will be so surprised that he will stop. it's worth a try. It worked for me
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@deebomb (15304)
• United States
19 Sep 07
It worked on my daughter. yes it is a bit unconventional.
• United States
19 Sep 07
Thank you for the advice. This seems like a very odd idea but it just might work.
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• United States
1 Sep 07
I know its scary..i have 3 kids and a 4th on the way.. non of my kids did this till my youngest did..he is 5.. he does just that sometimes worse latley and its all for attention... the doc told me no matter how bad it gets do no under any question give that tantrum attention.. instead give attention to the good behavior..it will take while but they eventually catch on that they will get the attention they seek from the good things not the bad things...
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• United States
19 Sep 07
Thanks for the advice. It is easier said than done sometimes when we don't want him to hurt himself.
• Philippines
1 Sep 07
A tantrum is a desire that cannot be communicated by the child. He gets disappointed at something so he just throws tantrums. First of all, you have to let him learn to communicate what he wants. Ask questions as to what he wants. If he wants something that is not good for him but still he insists, don't give in to what he wants. Try talking calmly to him like you talk to a grown up person. This will not work wonders in an instant, this process will take a while, some getting used to. Just train the child in this way and he might eventually catch up. In the meantime, try distracting the child from the object he so desires. You know what's good for him. Be dramatic, come up with more sparkling things that will catch his attention.
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• United States
19 Sep 07
Thank you for the ideas. They are things that I think I will be able to use with him.
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
1 Sep 07
He's wanting attention and the tantrums are a way to get it so ignore the him. Once he sees he's not getting what he wants he'll stop. Walk away and go into the other room and if he follows you just keep doing what ever you're doing and just ignore him. He'll stop eventually.
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• United States
19 Sep 07
Thank you for the advice. Ignoring does seem to work with him.