Should she be the one to "pop" the question?

If this lady really feels that this person is the one for her, then I do not see any problem in popping the question. His answer is so vague when she brings up the topic, she may as well ask and get an answer instead of waiting around and possibly losing time to find the one that wants to spend their lives together. Now, if she is happy with ust being with this person regardless of whether they are married or not, then, its her choice whether to wait or just let things be as it is. In this day and age, I really dont think women have to wait around for men to propose to them. We have blossomed as a gender that can do most everything that we were not socially approved of doing so in the past. Its not a matter of being a feminist or not, its also a matter of practicality.

I think sure why not? I mean I never understood why only the guy could ask, anyway. It just didn't make sense to me. So I say if the gal wants to ask, she should.

Personally, I don't see anything wrong if the lady pops the question. I suppose in a way it would be flattering..

She should just ask him. No sense in waiting until they're both old and grey, right?

It could work and I would be flattered if I was asked in a special way. I talk about it a bit in my proposal idea thread listed here http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1262085.aspx And basically I do use a male to female dynamic but a couple of ideas at least make clear that this could be used for female to male. I actually encourage it :D

I guess it is better if the man should be the one to ask first about marriage cause that just means that he really loves the girl and he thinks that she is the one for him. But considering these time where womens are much more aggressive than mens I think it's not more an issue of who would ask the question first.., well it's just what i think...

I definitely would! If you are ready for marriage and you have discussed it with him, there is no reason to pop the question. You could even get down on one knee and present him with something. Then go shopping for your ring together.

Yes, cut to the chase and ask him all the best urban

I don't see anything wrong with it. If they've been in the relationship for quite some time now, then maybe it's time to find out what's the deal. If the guy says no then she'll be free to move on. Judging from the responses here, there seems to be a consensus that she should go for it. So the bigger question now is, should she kneel when she asks? Should she have a ring for the guy? Now that's something else!

Well, if women are given the chance or possibly change the way of what boys can do and what women can't. What I mean is that, instead of men doing courtship and proposals, can women be the ones who will be courting and proposing to men this time around or soon? If that happens I would definitely be the first one who would "pop" the question to my boyfriend. But as for now, I will just wait for the guy to do their thing "courtships and proposals". I just think that it is improper for women to pop the question first during this time or generation maybe. :)

Hi Cecelia, It's OK for me, but quite some people think that Man should propose here:) Andy