Is it ok to lie

@kennedee (156)
Philippines
September 1, 2007 8:37pm CST
when you know that people might get hurt and things will just be hard if you tell the truth is it ok to lie. Keep all the secrets by yourself and carry all the burden? In this kind of situation what would you prefer? tell the truth? or just lie so that things won't be so complicated?
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12 responses
@rawpoet (2046)
• United States
2 Sep 07
I think it depends on the situation. If your lie is hurting yourself, then you should definitely tell someone. If it's not hurting anyone, keep it to yourself. That's how I see it.
• United States
24 Dec 07
No , I do not think that you should just flat0 out lie about something I think that if you are afraid that something you know will hurt someone, just candy-coat the statement.
• India
23 Apr 08
I dont lie but sometimes for helping some one its okk.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
5 Jan 08
It is always better to tell the truth. Lying is what complicates things. Once you lie, you have to keep on lying to cover the lies you have already told. It can become a big mess. There is an old saying that goes, "Oh what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to decieve." Not only that, God hates lying. The Bible says that a liar will not tarry in his sight. In other words, he won't even give you the time of day.
@cuteclavs (109)
• Philippines
10 Nov 07
I don't think it's ok to lie especially when you have a very huge secret to keep. It's just that, secrets are really meant to be known. Whether you like it or not, secrets are always uncovered and it would really be so bad to lie to people when afterwards they knew of the truth. It will just add up the burdens you will probably carry in your conscience having hidden the truth. If ever you're afraid of telling it now, tell it at the right time you think they would wholly accept the truth. Just keep yourself out form situations you think will cause you to lie.:)
@yghfghl (259)
• United States
24 Dec 07
i also think it depends if your leing it's maybe because your trying to protect your friend or someone else so they won't get into trouble....
@capirani (2497)
• United States
23 Apr 08
I have decided that there is only one good reason to lie. That would be if you are part of the planning of someone's surprise birthday party or something like that. I mean, unless you can really come up with some good excuse to get the person where you need them to go, you almost have to lie a little bit. (Sittin here wishin someone would lie to me for this reason...LOL) I suppose if your life depended on it, lying might be okay. I don't ever want in that position.
@djmarion (4898)
• Philippines
4 Sep 07
lie is still a lie on any other words...so its bad. but sometimes when situation call us to, we cant help but tell some lies. i have read a quote that says "if you want a lie to effective, tell half truth."
@wz2007 (128)
• China
4 Sep 07
HI Kennedee! This is really affair that let person make it linely for.In the middle in my life. I usually not speak of ,but also will not tell a lie. However this kind of felling is only the meeting however oneself's pain and sufferings. You think?
• Malaysia
2 Sep 07
LIE WILL NEVER OK. Because definitely will be KO in the future. What ever smart you are, if you apply Less In Excel(lie) at the end you will be caught in the center. Never lie but be secretive. Must know how to twist and turn the tongue. I will give you a perfect example. Let say, in your house there is nobody except you and your husband. But why, when you enter toilet and next you close the toilet's door? Whereas only you and your husband only staying in the house. Mean there is thing to tell and not to tell. Not to tell does not mean lie. So don't tell will never lie.
@katkat (2378)
• Philippines
2 Sep 07
your questions are difficult to answer but i guessed telling a lie is not a good idea.it will seems to be ok but what if she or he found out that you lie.the situation will only get worst.telling a lie is only good at first but how about in the long run.
• Philippines
2 Sep 07
yes as long as lying can help and will not ruin other people's lives.
@free2lmao (230)
• United States
2 Sep 07
I mean evertbody has lied before in there lives. Its not really a good thing. You know you should try no to do it. But i mean lets get real everyone has lied before. Well, i think that there are some circumstances where you have to lie no really to keep yourself out of trouble by others. I am not going to tell on somebody even if it means i have to lie. I think that keeping your promises are more important then lying... If you just lie to lie then that is not good but if you are keeping a friends secret or something then i mean you kind of have to...You may not realize it but you lie all the time...Its because you keep peoples secret or what not and if somebody asks you a question about it then you are going to deny it to the fullest... i mean i wouldnt lie to make myself look good or make myself popular...I mean i dont know really what you mean by carring the burden or what not???But i am a real person who doesnt lie about things just so i will have friends or so some guy will like me...Or like if somebody asks me a question about like if i know a song and i just say yes so i will seem like i know something...that is just crazy and i have seen this happen a million times...I dont lie about what i do and what i dont do...I think the biggest reason people lie is either because they want to be liked or because they dont want to be in trouble...and you know that we all have lied before because we didnt want to get in trouble...but the only time i really lie is if i am protecting someone who told me something...which i dont think is bad...i mean it isnt good to lie but sometimes it is just nessacary you really dont have much of a choice...I think i get what you are saying about the burden now...Like if you had to protect somebody from something and didnt tell but deep down inside you know what they are doing is wrong...and now you kind of feel guilty because you arent really helping them by protecting them you are just making the situation worse...but you cant sy anything because they are your friend and you promised you wouldnt...So, i get what you mean but every situation is different and its hard to say weather or not you should tell the truth...i mean if the person is in danger then you should proably tell someone...they will hate you at the moment but then come to realize it was for the best...you just have to follow what you think is the right thing...People can give you advice but they are not in your shoes so they really dont know how you feel...Somebody could have been in the same position as you and still not know how you feel...because not only is each situation different but so is each person and the bond between the both of them...so just take some of this into consideration...nobody can tell you what you should do but they can tell you what they would do if they were in your place...or atleast imgaine what they would do...if you follow your heart and do what you think is right then you should be just fine and so will your friendship if it was everything that you thought it was...sometimes you really dont know where to go what way is up and what way is down...but soon it shall come to you and if you look deep within yourself its there you are just to afraid to find it...So, this is the advice that i have for you...hope that i could help!!!