How to Make Friends with Foreigners

Singapore
September 2, 2007 12:35pm CST
First, i dont think that foreigners only are an"opportunity" to improve our oral English; yes , we should practice speaking English to them,while we shouldnt build friendships by pestering and badgering another person. Friendship for a lot of Westerners is about spending time with someone whose company we genuinely enjoy. It's not about opportunities or personal advantage. the same to chinese. So if there's any advice to give on making and keeping friendships with foreigners, I would say that it is this:Treat foreigners as people, not opportunities. Expect to make friendships gradually, over a period of time, not instantly. And don't ply foreigners with lots and lots of disparate questions. At times, this approach comes across as confusing and unnatural. Finally, I would suggest that if you really want to make friends with a foreigner, then you do so because you are genuinely interested in the person. We all know that true friendships stand the test of time. If your only reason for making friends with a foreigner is to upgrade your English, then you will probably find that you don't have a foreign friend for long! all of the words above is come from a foreign friend liveing china for one year, i just quite agree with him. so, i share it with you!.
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@TDonald (1421)
• United States
3 Sep 07
I enjoy making friends with anyone from anywhere. I think it is fascinating to learn about other cultures directly, people-to-people, rather than through the usually distorted picture media portrays. How can you learn about others without asking lots of questions?
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• India
3 Sep 07
First of all forieners are good people from their friendship we develop our living style our culture and even our communication skills also and we can learn their living style their food etc etc i think it is the one of the precious thing also....
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• United States
3 Sep 07
I am the kind of person who will be friends with anyone, as long as they want to be friends with me, and they do not treat me like dirt.
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• Malaysia
2 Sep 07
Yes and of course. And I respect your statements showing that you treated foreigner in a very good manner. Proving that you are not the "XENOPHOBIA" person. There....you are right again friendship need more time and cannot be instantly. So thank you for sharing with me your nice and good feeling towards foreigner. And no more to add. Wishing you best of luck.
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• Philippines
3 Sep 07
First of all before you talk to a native English speaker you have to learn English... You can add my friend "bianroxas" and take a look at her post about English and she knows a lot online English websites where you can learn English, written and oral... You have to know the correct pronunciation, and intonation and you have to enunciate clearly so that the native English speaker will understand you clearly what you mean.. They are busy people and they don't want to talk to someone who have low knowledge in English. Me and my friend, "bianroxzas" are working in a call center and we talk to American customers 8 hours and a half everday... You should watch American films more often if you want to learn American English... Actors like Hugh Grant, Renee Zalweger, and actors in Harry Potter has British accent... You should try to watch "The Parent Trap" movie because it distinguish the American accent and British accent... Try to search also about the history of their country... Foreigners are like iceburg... It shows the top as physical, their language, their fashion, and the food they eat but deep down the water that you can't see are their history, their attitude, their beliefs,and everything that you have to know that is under the water.. I hope my response will help you..
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@mbilagan (178)
• Philippines
3 Sep 07
I definitely agree with this. You should not be friend to anyone not only with foreigners if your motive is just to use them. That's really a bad idea and can pissed off anyone. I have been chatting for a long time and yes I can say that my english dramatically changed. My foreigns chatmates has something to do with it in a way but I never think of using them just to make my english especially my oral communications to be as good as it is. I am just fun of knowing someone abroad and learn things from them. I always make it a point to speak politely to anyone who wanted to speak with me. That way they will feel that they are welcome to be my friends. And I am just so glad I did that because until now I have a lot of chat friends from abroad for almost 5 years now and we been really good friends. I learn how to speak english and the same time I earned good friends. It is always good to have a good intentions to anyone you talk to, either foreign or locals. Dont ever use a person for your benefit. Always think of how you feel if someone did that to you. If you think it will hurt you in a way then dont do that to others because you will surely hurt them and that is not good.
• Canada
3 Sep 07
My fiance and I have two apartments; one in Ontario Canada where I am from, and another one in Arizona USA where he is currently working. This part of Arizona is visited by tourists from all over the world, and my part of Ontario is near a university with students from all over the world, so it's easy to meet people from various countries in the local cafes.
• Australia
3 Sep 07
yes i agree we should make friends with someone if we are truly interested in keeping the friendship and should respect and treat the other person well. on the otherhand it may be good to just strike a short and healty conversation with a foreigner that may not end up in a long term friendship but will stay as a plesent memory with you forever
@yanstill (1490)
• China
5 Sep 07
what that foreign friend said is absolutely right.two people become friends need many common things or other sutle things. it is not easy to make friends with a foreigner because we have different culture background and i dont know why,we cant trust each other at first,only after a long period of time,it will get better.of course,making friends on some purpose will absolutely result in one thing,no friend.
@naldyap (70)
• Philippines
5 Sep 07
Ni hao Tiansheng!!! Join the CHINA CLUB in www.chinese-tools.com its a language exchange program where you can meet different nationalities from all over the world who wants to learn chinese language and cultures by making friends with them. Its a good site for Chinese who wants to improve their English. Hope to see you there... :-)