We finally caved in....why oh why?

I can totally relate with your feelings of grief and loss over your cat. About two months ago, we adopted three tiny kittens who had been abandoned by their mother. There was no option for us not to adopt them. It was either that or leave them out to die in the yard. And, we could not do that. They survived for just about a week. And, then they passed on the same day. I had no idea that I would be so attached to them and cried terribly for days. I was inconsolable for weeks and felt like I would not move on. But, after about three or four weeks, I didn't feel as much pain. I wanted to get another kitten right away, but did not. So, I suffered for weeks. I cried all the time. I guess the mothering side of me considered the kittens to be my babies too. Looking back on it, I should have gotten another kitten or cat. I think the healing process started when another outdoor female cat brought her newborn kittens around to live in our front yard. She is a really good mom. Just seeing the babies playing in my front yard made me realize that life goes on. Not for everyone, certainly. But, for these new lives in my front yard they will. There is nothing wrong with getting a new kitten or cat to help yourself and your family heal. Just seeing the new kitten may be enough for your children. It will help them understand the same concept that I discovered. And, don't worry about the baby being too small. In just three to four weeks, she (or he) will start to get really big and then the entire family can enjoy holding her. Best of luck with your new family member. I hope that she can bring you and your family the peace that you need.

Thats so nice, now you have something to focus on....It will be a learning curve for everyone with him being so tiny....Have fun and enjoy.

I bet you end up believing you did the right thing! When we got our cat from the RSPCA she was just less than 6 weeks old and they didn't want to let her go yet as she had been hand reared after being found dumped in a bin liner with her brother and sister! We had to sign a contract stating that she would not be left alone until she was old enough to be able to cope! She is almost 9 now and very arrogant but she can be very affectionate and we wouldn't change her for the world! Good luck with your new kitten! xxxx

Hi TaylorBlue, congratulations with the new beauty in your family - Milo! He is such a cute baby, and so handsome, that I am sure he will be ready for your kids to play with very soon ;) And you definitely didn't do the wrong thing by adopting him, you'll see within a few weeks you could hardly imagine your life without his company ;) And i am so sorry that the loss of your beloved cat still lingers on, and affects you and your kid, but in time the pain will get less, and you will remember the great times you had with your dear cat, and the joy you felt while being with her, so she will still keep you compny even if only in your memories. I've lost some of my cats during the years, and we still remember them, and talk about them, and love them ;) But cherish every moment you have with the new kitty Milo and you'll see that you haven't made a mistake by adopting him. Congrats again!