What do I do When My 19 Yr old always stays on the phone or comp.?

United States
September 2, 2007 8:21pm CST
I have a 19 yr. old boy that has to be on the phone or comp with his girl friend in Fla.They have never been on a date or hung around each other very much but he says he loves her.We can be right in the middle of working or going some where and she either ims him or calls. Her mother doesnt really like my son so his girl friend sneaks around and calls as late as 11:00 pm. I have to be up early around 5:00 am and it dont give me much sleep. I tell him not to stay on long but he sneaks back in and gets on line when im buisy. Some times i feel like pulling my hair out. I could use a little help here!If you have any suggestions please let me know.
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@sid556 (30989)
• United States
3 Sep 07
you need to buck up mom and give this boy some tough love. He is 19! he is an adult or should be. It is hard to answer this without knowing the full situation. Does he work at all? Does he help out in other ways? Regardless it is your home . My girls have had friends that would call all hours. I have a 9:00pm limit for calls unless they are emergency. I would answer that phone and inform the caller that she should not be calling. how old is the girl?
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@sid556 (30989)
• United States
3 Sep 07
ps....at that age my only problem with the phone is that it woke me up. I did not intere with my daughters computer use or her cell phone..at 19 if she choices are hers. When my adult children stay with me they are treated as adult.
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• Philippines
4 Sep 07
Well, tell ur guy to learn how to limit himself, since this is obviously the sympton of the long distance relationship, which i have been into which is why i hate it.He obviously met the girl online and has little knowledge of her personally yet the two want to see each other, since there is probably no way of letting them see each other personally.I suggest u let them see each other a few times a week so the hassle of Instant Messaging or calling doesnt become a total burden on you plus they dont get to bug you even at the middle of work
@phon4u (2217)
• Laos
3 Sep 07
You should tell and remind him for using the long call. Just for work! Or an appoinment I used to tell my families, not to tell the history on the phone and tell the whole stories on the phone. They changed afterward.
• United States
3 Sep 07
I am only 23 years old becky. I am a mother, but my child is only 19 months. I have a sister who's almost 18. It's going to be hard to do, but you should take the computer and unhook it or at least move it somewhere else. Tell him you don't want him seeing this girl. It's so hard when you love your child, but in order to make them do right, you gotta do the hard things. If he doesn't wanna listen, tell him to get out...If he realizes you're making him leave, then he'll straighten up. That's what my mother did to me when I was 18. I moved back home when I was 19 and stopped doing the things that was getting me in trouble. I am on my own now and have been for a while. I am so happy to. I love my little girl with all my heart.
@jatamogue (367)
• Philippines
3 Sep 07
It is very hard for a mom to understand things some things a young adolescent can be thinking. I am a 21 and for my part I think that you are worried for your son. It might be best to get to know his girlfriend a little more but that usually scares them of, so you can do it in a not very obvious way. It gives you a chance to know what your son is thinking about and it is easier to get to converse in girl to girl talk with his girlfriend if you really cared. It takes time but you have to lay down the rules too. Make sure he has a balance view of things cause it is unhealthy to get too much of something. You are the parent but also a mother for that fact. I too get the feeling my mother is hesitant in which girls I am inerested in. If he cares about her, I think you should understand why. I think complimenting his relationship will let him reveal how he feels about her in more detail and will let you understand why.