failed relationships

India
September 3, 2007 6:13am CST
A neice is a wonderful girl, full of life, pretty and earning well. She has continuously had failed realationships and I cannot understand why. I dont want to ask her for fear of hurting her, but then what is wrong ? I want her to be married with a nice guy, but now she refuses to even listen or give another relationship a try. what should I do. pls advise my friends.
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@thefortunes (2368)
• Netherlands
3 Sep 07
Hmm, Ketybhagat, is not so easy to answer your question here. Maybe your niece has difficulties with relationships to and with others of which you are not aware. If I were in your place I will talk to her, and try to understand what is it that is going wrong everytime she has a relationship with someone. Only when knowing what it is you could try to help her. And you don't have to be afraid to hurt her, as everything depends on how you will start the discussion, and how well you'll be able to convey to her how much you care and how much you'd like to help her have a happy life with a partner. Good luck to her and to you dear friend ;)
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@khazeemee (288)
• Philippines
4 Sep 07
just advised her that there is a right person who is meant for her at the right time.. maybe her past failed relationship, is just a series of test so that when she already have the right one, she already know how to deal with difficulties.
@dreamy1 (3815)
• United States
4 Sep 07
There is no such thing as a failed relationship. Just because it doesn't end the way you expect it to doesn't mean it failed. I believe every relationship we have and everyone we meet in our lives is there for a reason. We are here to learn what they need to teach us. Not everyone wants to or will get married. If you keep pushing her about it she will shut you out and not listen. If she wants to talk about it let her know she can come to you but do not force the issue. Everyone is on their own path and has to find their own way. If it is to be it will happen in her own time not anyone else's.
• Philippines
4 Sep 07
if she makes a lot of standards for herself during the course of relationship, then that could have been a reason for her failed relationship or probably she was looking too much for mr [erfect guy while this not so perfect was with her a long time ago..or probably the people around her has a lot of standards also that made her decide that she was not having the kind of guy her surrounding expects her to have.... it's not easy to convince someone to commit in any relationship if that person is not ready or not confident enough to have a relationship again, the best thing you can do is put back the confidence she once had in herself, make her feel pretty and feel that someone needs her also, a lifetime partner...make her feel by saying she can look better if she has someone who holds her hand everyday or probably tell her you miss seeing her with someone and missed those pretty smiles she once had when she was still in a relationship...avoid also talking failed relationships to her for that thing can scare her also... let her learn to love herself also so that she will be able to find the right person who can love her if not equally at least love her dearly.. :) good luck to your niece..
@cherriemae (3374)
• Philippines
4 Sep 07
just give her a break, because she needs time to heal the hurt in her heart..you can't really tell when she can cope up..just be her always, and give a full support on her..give her time when to talk all of her hurt because when it happens, she's already to face the reality that she had failed relationships, and maybe she's now ready to have another relationship..good luck.
3 Sep 07
i think if she has failed relationships in the past and refuses to date anymore guys then allow her to stop. let her continue when she feels ready. she must have had a tough time in her last relationships and she must feel terrible. i think the only thing u should continue doing is telling her that (at the risk of sounding cliche) that she deserves better and that shes pretty, clever and full of life and knows she can do better. let her start dating when she feels ready to go back out there.