Do you let your My Lot friends find you?
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
United States
September 4, 2007 4:47am CST
Until recently, I haven't asked for more than one or two friends every month. For some reason people seem to find me and that's how it's always been. And, almost everyone that has requested friendship on My Lot has been approved. But, the other day I was reading through some really interesting posts and found myself wondering if the my lot member would accept my friend request. And, sure enough she did. Which was kind of surprising to me. Not that someone wouldn't want to be my friend, but it's a rarity that I ask anyone, so it was nice not to get turned down.
So, now I'm kind of going on a friendship request binge and am asking everyone that sounds remotely intelligent or half-way interesting. I think I might be going too far. Don't get me wrong, I do have my personal friendship standards. But, maybe I am a little giddy at the prospect of having more My Lot friends. It's an empowering feeling to click that "friendship" button and see your pending friendship request approved within just hours. And, then to see that person at your next discussion, actually talking to you.
So, here's my question. Do you think it's better to let friends find you on My lot or make friendship requests of your own? How many friendship requests do you make everyday? Any tips or advice would be appreciated.
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@vega83 (6340)
• Bahrain
4 Sep 07
Well, when I first joined in January, I was very picky, and I only sent very rare friend requests to people, who had the same interests as me, and whose responses I used to read through and see if they were interesting enough. That works in most sites quite well, but later I realized that my lot is different, the more friends you have, the better.
So I started to go on a friendship binge myself. I added up anyone whose discussions I would respond to, because chances are that they will probably have more discussions I could respond to as well.
I added up anyone who responded to any of my discussions whether they agreed or disagreed with me. Because chances are they will always come back to respond to my discussions.
Since I started doing this, I found that my discussions have been getting more and more responses and I have a much wider choice of topics to choose from when I'm making responses to their discussions as well.
That is really working for me. Not only does that give me more options but subsequently boosts my earnings since I find it easier and faster to find discussions and make responses.
The number of friend requests I send out depend on any new people who've responded to my discussions, or any new people whose discussions I respond to.
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
5 Sep 07
That is phenomenal information right off the bat. I had no idea I'd get such a seasoned pro to give me advice. Hope you don't mind, but I'm going to copy the info and save it to an email for later reference.
I'm going to do all that stuff you mentioned. You sound just like me. I have analyzed this place so many times to see how to boost earnings and I have a couple tricks of my own. Private stuff though. Let's compare notes sometime. Thanks for dropping by the chat, I'll do the same for your discussions.
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@vega83 (6340)
• Bahrain
6 Sep 07
Well, great then, if your tips are secret, or something, you can always PM me. I don't believe in keeping secrets myself. I mean I'm sure that lots of people have loads of ways to get the best out of my lot too. That's just my way. I'm glad you liked the advice. I was afraid I might sound too preachy, but am happy that it didn't sound like that.
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
6 Sep 07
No you don't sound preachy, just peachy! Play on words. I'm afraid that I've already spilled my guts on My lot secrets in my other discussions. I posted two or three pages once on everything I had learned about My Lot in one of my discussions. And, everyone seemed to enjoy the info, but I am still seeing so many people making all the classic mistakes. Hope some of those people will find my old discussions and give them a thorough read. That stuff is pure gold! LOL! It made me money. Not a fortune, but definitely way more than most newbies are making posting till their fingers fall off.
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@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
4 Sep 07
Hello beautyqueen26,
I seldom respond to other members' discussions except for those who are on my friend list and I seldom post a new discussion too. Due to this, I don't think most My Lot members know that I am exist here. Once a while I will get a friend request and I will immediately approve it without checking the profile. I never check whether they share the same interests with me or not as I don't really think that is important to me.
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
5 Sep 07
That is a good point. One of the other members commented that they add friends because it gives them more discussions to respond to. I am planning to try that as well.
@banta78 (4326)
• India
4 Sep 07
I like to have friends on mylot. From the beginning if i like discussions responses of some mylot members and they seem warm and friendly i sometimes do request for being friends and have found some friends.
But most often other mylot members request for my friendship which i mostly approve as i like having friends.
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@sunshinecup (7871)
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4 Sep 07
Do you think it's better to let friends find you on My lot or make friendship requests of your own?
I don't know if it's better or if it's a preference really. I know some that invite more than anything and other's like me that just wait for an invite. It's rare I send one out myself.
How many friendship requests do you make everyday?
I can count on both hands how many I personally sent out since I have been here. I don't normally do it. and rather wait for an invite to be sent to me. I don't look for friends, but more so for discussions.
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@carlaabt (3504)
• United States
4 Sep 07
I ask a few people to be my friend, but not many. I usually wait for people to ask me, too. But most of the time, I only respond to maybe one or two discussions a day that weren't started by one of my friends, so I am not really exposed to many other people.
I do go through and delete people a lot of times, though. If they aren't active anymore, or if they just post a bunch of one line discussions, they are gone. Also, if I don't feel like we have anything in common, I delete them. I usually answer discussions from the "discussions my friends started" option on the mylot menu. I don't have time to go through pages of discussions from someone I have nothing in common with.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
4 Sep 07
Most of the time I don't have time to request for friends as I mostly get asked to be their friend, which I don't mind 99% of the time. Now and then if i have come across an interesting discussion and have read a few more of theirs, then I may request it. Most often I have received friends requests.
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@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
8 Sep 07
In the beginning when I was on mylot more often- I asked people that looked interesting- That is when I went to top discussions and hot topics daily- Now I pop onto them maybe once a week- I let people find me now- I’ll look at their profile and then decide- If I become more active here- then I might switch back- I think a lot of my friends- have deserted- so it’s good to see a few familiar faces here still.
@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
5 Sep 07
I am also surprised at how friends find and choose me. I asked one fellow today and he said a couple of my posts made him laugh. That surprised me because I think I must sound on the serious side at times.
For me I request a friend when I notice topics and discussions that appeal to my 'perspective.' When I came here I made a decision to seek out like minded others because I want forums that will create intersting disucssions and go on for awhile. So for me...I am not as interested in quantity...as I am quality. The way the pages are set up with friends there is no way to catagorize them and I only have 127 friends so far...but there are 9 pages to scroll through. I cannot imagine who people manage really large numbers.
I think everyone is different.,..but I want to have regular people that I chat with. The ones who have been willing to come back to my forums and me going to theirs has created a deeper level of communication and trust.
So for me I want to foster some really good friends that I chat with regularily rather than a bunch of fleeting comments where I do not know much about them. It is working for those who pursue this approach...but you wlll decide what is right for you.
@sid556 (30953)
• United States
5 Sep 07
being shy, i find it hard to ask someone to be my friend. I tend to let the other person ask. I so fear rejection but then i have moments of abandon where I see clearly it is a two way street and I jump in and do the asking. I have done this with someone I have had a conflict with especially and then conversed privately to come to an understanding. The goal is to be on friendly terms with everyone.
@walkinthecloudz (233)
• Pakistan
5 Sep 07
i tell you a thumb rule. never ever hesitate in asking anyone. you might regret later in life for your this act. you must bring some courage in you to ask some one whether its love or friendship.
@moneyandgc (3428)
• United States
5 Sep 07
I haven't sent any friend requests yet. I am sure I will. I just haven't really thought about it. I usually just sign in and start reading. There have been times I have read someones discussion and they seemed really interesting so I looked at some of their other posts. Still, I totally forget to send a friend request. I guess I get so caught up in the discussions that it slips my mind.
@walkinthecloudz (233)
• Pakistan
5 Sep 07
i feel we must find our friends on my lot and if we dont have any old school/college friends here on mylot we may make few of them our close best friends by interacting with them by knowing their cultures and values and by responding their discussion. we must always have a healthy friends list with us.
