How to tell her I love you?

@ajithlal (14716)
India
September 4, 2007 10:51am CST
My friend is in love with a girl, but he is very afraid to talk to her. How could he convey her that he loves her and wants to marry her? How can I help him?
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@uath13 (8192)
• United States
4 Sep 07
If he's not even talking to her how's he know he loves her? If he can't even get over this little hurdle he's nowhere close to ready for marrige. There's nothing for you to do but give him time to develop.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
4 Sep 07
It is okay for him to talk like a friend, but afraid to make the first step to tell about the crush. He is afraid he might loose the friendship if she rejects or if she is not in love with him.
@uath13 (8192)
• United States
4 Sep 07
Like I said, If its just a crush there's no reason to even think further ahead along the lines of marrige. There has to be more of a relationship there & if he can't move toward it then there won't be.
@crazed_moma (1054)
• United States
4 Sep 07
Are they dating? lol if not then that's his first step... If they are then he should just go buy a ring and propose. :) Something romantic. Candle lit dinner, something along thoose lines.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
4 Sep 07
They are not dating. They are just friends. He is afrad to make the first step. In country like ours I mean India dating is not common.
• United States
4 Sep 07
I see. I'd tell him to go for it. It's worse imagining what *could* happen and missing what may be a good thing.... So a silly question for you, if marriages aren't arranged and you can't date how do you ever get married? I can't see just deciding to marry one of my friends with out being romantically involved first.
@lextoper (573)
• Philippines
4 Sep 07
I think the only help that you can offer him is a hearing ear. Let him do what he must do... every action that he do must come from the deepest of his heart because i believe that if a guy really love a girl, he must be patient and honest to his feelings towards her. With these, we can tell that he really love her if he can do it without others help. Hope my little suggestion will help him uncover himself to the girl that he love's. If ever this will work or not, i would like to know the outcome... please air it out here so that i will know the situation... thank you in advance ajithtal!
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
4 Sep 07
Thank you for the suggestions. I will surely let you know about the results whatevern happens. I think he is ready to be patient and to wait for her.
• India
4 Sep 07
hey there is simple way by which i have succed many times in my life to make girlfriends .first he make any friend from her friends and after that say ever think to her friend by which her friend can help him to tell her that he loves him. thats it.
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@vinzen (1020)
• India
4 Sep 07
He should be very frank i feel and tell her. I dont know if its a one sided affair or if hes told her he loves her and its a two sided feeling at least. And if hes not even talked to her, how would he know itas love, or maybe its just love at first sight kind of thing? Well i think in such a case you can help your friend by guiding him through the process. Firstly he will have to take the first move and go to the girl and simply talk normally to her, discuss and keep meeting her daily and talking to her. A lot will depend upon this meeting, if she likes him, and wants to carry on talking to him too, as then only she will be willing to meet him. So hes to choose his words and actions correctly here. There after incase the meetings are progressing then admist one of those meetings, am sure they would find out, if theyre just liking each others company or is it more than that. That time, even if either of them feels anything, they should convey it, not be afraid, as someday you will have to say it out,and it must not get late, lest that time passes and she may fall for another. And if she accepts your love and things are carrying on ahead, then maybe the talk of marriage will come up. So your friend has a very long way as yet to reach that goal, so be by his side, guide and help him to reach that goal, be patient with him and advice him correctly regarding this. First hes to break the ice, approach and talk to her, rest will follow much later and gradually.
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@vinzen (1020)
• India
8 Sep 07
Thanks for marking this as the best reponse, i appreciate that. Have a nice day :)
@andyliuzn (1029)
• Guangzhou, China
9 Sep 07
It's really hard for me to say "I love you" to my GF too. While I prefer to let her know that I love her by doing something good for her.:) Andy