Can you handle disappointments?

@claire03 (1444)
United States
September 4, 2007 12:27pm CST
In life, what we want doesn't really happen all the time, and if we don't get what we want or what we expect, we easily get disappointed. When this happens, what do you do? Can you handle disappointments in life? What do you think we can do not to be easily disappointed? Tell me your opinions and experience when do you get really disappointed...
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@Lifeless (2638)
• India
5 Sep 07
I have got a very positive attitude towards life, and I never feel down no matter how bad life has been to me... I have had my share of disappointments but I have managed to not get carried away in the emotions, as the time when u r down, u often miss out on the nicer things in life... So, I am always game...
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@thefortunes (2368)
• Netherlands
5 Sep 07
Life is filled with disappointments Claire03. Some are small and some are big once. And there is really very little about it we can do. The best thing is to get up and go on, just like when you stumble on a stone and fall on the ground :) I surely can handle disappointments, sometimes better, and sometimes less graciously, but all in all, I can handle it quite allright and always keep going :)
@claire03 (1444)
• United States
5 Sep 07
that's a good thing for you thefortunes, you seem to be a strong person. Disappointments shouldn't really stop us from going on with our lives. I appreciate your ideas to this topic. God Bless! :)
• Netherlands
5 Sep 07
Thanks Claire :) And thank you for calling me a strong person too :) But I have been depressed and had my issues here and there, and survived. So I guess the old cliche: if it doesn't kill you - it makes you stronger, does count for me too :)
@vinzen (1022)
• India
4 Sep 07
' Expectatiopns lead to frustrations'- so the saying goes,and i truly believe that. If we dont expect anything much from anyone, we will never get disappointed, and thus no anger or no problems at all, but yes, we are humans and to expect is natural and along-with that comes the dissapointments. But i think we should expect a little only, dont over expect much, as that will truly frustrate you and leave you very upset and disappointed too. I think we should learn to take things in a positive way. If you have not got what you wanted, firstly think of and try to analyse why you did not get it, try to reason within yourself, and secondly let it pass by and go, take it as, that if you have not got it, you were not meant to get it, it was not for you. Take it as Gods will there. Accept it willingly. That is what i do, and it works for me. I think each one of us, have this in the back of our minds, that what if we dont get this, or what if this does not happen, we keep an alternative behind us always i think, but some accept it some dont. And to accept that it was not meant to be, in a positive way, is all that it takes to keep disspointment and anger away i think.
@claire03 (1444)
• United States
4 Sep 07
this is true, that when we expect too much, the more we get disappointed! We should accept what we can have and what we can't have in life. God Bless you vinzen :)
@vinzen (1022)
• India
4 Sep 07
Accept what i cannot change - Acceptance is a blessing
Thanks for the quick response. Yes you are right too that we should not get disspointed and accept willingly what God has given us and feel blessed with it,after all there are those, who dont even have what we have, so always think positive i think. Have a nice day.
• United States
6 Sep 07
Can i handle disappointments? Now, that highly depends on the disappointment. See, in my life, it is mostly the really big disappointments that happen. When the smaller ones happen, it is actually a bit of a relief, so i handle those pretty well. Things like my friend not singing the song i want for karaoke or wanting somethign in particular to eat and not having it on hand are very minor disappointments and when they happen, i scowl and might get a little irritated, but i let them roll off my back. Something along the lines of me doing my part of the assignment for a class and my partner never doing theirs is a moderate disappointment. It pisses me the hell off becuase my grade is screwed at that point, but it is something i eventually get over. The fact that i had to lay in a hospital bed for 2 years and 90% of my friends just abandoned me is a major disappointment, and that i cannot get over.
• Philippines
6 Sep 07
Disappointment come to us almost every day in different situations. It arises when we hope for things yet we were not able to attain it. We expect things to happen but never.. We can never get rid of disappointment because if you don't experience it I believe yo did not hope and get to greater things in life. Going through this situation should teach us to be more careful on things in life, in our relationship, work and how we face every day. The fact is we are disappointed but we can be a disappointment to others. i think it is better to be disappointed than you never tried and explore.
• United States
5 Sep 07
It's part of life. You don't always get what you want. You win some, you lose some. When I don't get what I want in life, I tell myself that the time will come when I will get what I want. And it happens becuase that's the way life is.
• India
5 Sep 07
i can handle disappointments, i keep make new appointments. smiles, apple.
@subha12 (18452)
• India
5 Sep 07
i must confess that i can't handle disappointments very easily. they make me down and sad for long. Still i try to look at the positive sides of my life and try to forget the sorrow.
@jcj_111776 (3220)
• Philippines
5 Sep 07
I'm not very good at handling disappointments, claire. So I make sure that as much as possible I don't experience one. I try to set realistic expectations so in that way, I'm almost positive of the outcome that I want to achieve. For example, with my son who's in preschool now. He's really smart and a fast learner but the only thing that keeps him from being the best that he can be, is not being able to talk. He's language delayed and he's almost 4 years old. So, almost any mother are hoping and sometimes expecting that their children will be on the top 3 of the class. But because I feel and I know that my son may not be able to do that, from the first day of school, I had set my mind to only expect from him in what he can do. I try not to expect too much of him, relying on him being a fast learner. And it helped because when I got to see his report card, I didn't feel that real bad when I learned he didn't reach the top 3. But just the same I was very proud of him because of his very good grades. We can actually avoid disappointments in our lives. It just depends on how we set our mind in anything we want.
@balasri (26549)
• India
5 Sep 07
No.Not at all.I always want to win.I just don't want to loose.That is my quality.i easily get upset with disappointments.
@brew2x (3095)
• Philippines
5 Sep 07
I know now how to handle disappointments better than before. I've realized that we can't get everything that we want in our lives. If we haven't got what we hoped for or we have been rejected, it is ok to feel bad or even cry for a while, but we shouldn't cry over it for a long period of time because for sure there is something better for us.
• United States
5 Sep 07
I think that the hardest time that i have with disapointment is when it rolls around to my time of the month, i get really down. I hope and pray allmonth long that i wont get my period, because i want a baby so bad, but it always happens. i used to be at the point where i got my period and all i did was stay home for a week and cry, i would cry when i saw a huggies commercial, or any commercial with a baby in it.. that is the only disapointment i take really hard
@mykmari_08 (2465)
• Philippines
5 Sep 07
I'd say life is what we make it. Whenever I get disappointed on the outcome of a situation, I tend to mope for a while. Then, realization usually comes after this. I begin to be back on track; to do what I should do to reach my goals and dreams. I believe that sometimes, life poses hurdles on our way to remind us that we're human; and that we should strive hard to attain perfection.
• Australia
5 Sep 07
I generally can although because a lot of the time I know why things aren't going to plan and why the disappointment occured in the first place. When you know why, it really helps to stay focus and be positive in future occasions as you will know what to expect and how to overcome it. But if you don't, then definitely no, as I tend to spend most of the time thinking to myself why rather than about the what ifs (which is slightly better).
• Singapore
5 Sep 07
I guess I handle them quite well. I would mostly move on after each disappointment. I think that the lower the expectation will lead to lower disappointment rate. I would tend to lower down my expectation every time I'm disappointed on something.
@AmbiePam (51177)
• United States
4 Sep 07
I can definitely handle disappointments. I do so all the time. Sometimes I take it better than other times, but I know I not only will overcome disappointments, I WILL thrive. I'm not going to let life and unexpected circumstances deter me from having a wonderful life.
@maheksaj (117)
4 Sep 07
actually i think i can handle dissapointments very easily but i am a very sentimental and emotional person i cry easily but somehow i have the capability to make myself contented about what i have got ...though i feel really bad for it and it does takes me a few hours to overcome it or even days but i do try to get out of things my way and then there is god who always has helped me out and i am always sure he would definetly take me out of these things too..