What in the world was he thinking?
By jillhill
@jillhill (37354)
United States
September 5, 2007 3:31pm CST
I sat down to eat breakfast this morning with a co workers. She was having oatmeal and so was I but I was also having a muffin. A guy comes and sits across from us and says to me....aren't you embarassed to be eating that in front of her when all she is having is oatmeal. I couldn't believe that someone I don't know would say that. I said...no I am not why would you say that? He then proceeded to say that the muffin was a meal in itself. I couldn't find a come back. Another day I sat down to eat and someone said....are you going to eat all of that? Now I would never comment on what someone else is eating. I am a little overweight but not much. What would you have said when he said the muffin should have been enough? I am still angry about it!
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@sweetgirl_k1 (3972)
• United States
5 Sep 07
That was so rude. He should have kept his mouth shut and I would have told him so. I would have told him not to worry about what I was eating. I can't eat just a muffin and be full after that. I have to have something else with my muffin too so don't let it bother you.
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@yankee112792 (7)
• United States
5 Sep 07
wow that is very!! rude. i would tell him that he should mind his business. not to but in to other peoples descisions. that is, if you ever see one of them again
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@Michele21 (3093)
• United States
5 Sep 07
Oh my gosh that is sooo rude!! I am not a confrontational person so I probably would have kept my mouth shut, then went to cry in the bathroom! That is just so mean to say to someone, no matter what they weigh!! I can't imagine, I have never had a problem with my weight (I would love to lose 5 pounds) but I am still considered thin, and I would never say anything like that to anyone!! I am so sorry that you work with a bunch of rude insensitive people!!
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@lightningMD (5931)
• United States
5 Sep 07
Some people have no manners at all. I'm not sure what I would have said to him. I might have been to shocked to say anything. Or I might have shoved that muffin up his nose.
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
11 Oct 07
Wow I agree with everyone here, that was rude, uncalled for, and inappropriate. I'm shy too, but had I been there when he said that too I would have said something. It is no one else's business what we eat - or don't. I wonder if he knows that his toxic attitude will kill him far more readily then your muffin?
@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
11 Oct 07
If I were his wife - I'd be gone at the first sign. Even if the first sign came after years of marraige. And I'm pretty laid back too.
@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
6 Sep 07
I would have said this is the left over I ate the other 11 muffins 5 min ago I was going to save this but now that you mentioned it I better have it now.
@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
7 Sep 07
somethimes offence is the best defence, make a joke make people feel that they are the one with problem not you. If you take everything to heart you are not doing your self any good.
@emilieespino (963)
• Philippines
6 Sep 07
It's really nobody's business what and how much you eat. I would be angry too! But it's not worth moping over so cheer up and enjoy your muffin. I enjoy my oatmeal with raisins and lots of milk. Try it!
@shambuca (2524)
• United States
6 Sep 07
Well I'm about 20lbs over weight and I eat what I want when I want- to me a muffin is just a snack -- if someone said that to me I would have said.... yup - gonna eat the whole thing- I like food - got a problem with that??? I would be annoyed about it too-- what business is it what you eat- some people just don't have a life of thier own and feel they have to stick thier noses in others...just ignore them...enjoy your food- so long as you are happy Screw everybody else.
@candiec2005 (828)
• United States
6 Sep 07
Tell him to mind his own business. The nerve of that guy! What's his problem? I'm very quick-witted so if that would have been me I would have said something like "I'm sorry, do I know you?"
My advice to you is don't allow anyone to disrespect you. This doesn't mean you have to be a b*tch but you can certainly defend yourself without having to be nasty and still remain classy.
@slothgurl (569)
• Enumclaw, Washington
6 Sep 07
I would have said "Excuse me, What is your name?" "OK (name)would you please sit somewhere else." "We did not ask you , or your opinions to be at this table."
@slothgurl (569)
• Enumclaw, Washington
6 Sep 07
Something my Mom taught me....Stare into the persons eyes for about 10 seconds while you are thinking of a response. If thats not long enough to think of a response, then let your eyes continue down, then back up again.(we call this "Give them THE LOOK") After all that if you still can't think of anything to say, ignore them and continue with what you were doing, because sometimes "The Look" says it all!!
@anetteh (3590)
• Sweden
6 Sep 07
Well, I would have said - mind your own business. and then go on eating, and probebly order one more just to teas with him. This is people who do not have anything els to do but keeping in others business. He was enveing you who can eat something he probebly wanted bud did not have the guts to order. Some people are not even worth bothering with. Stop think about it you are who you are, be glad for that. I am also overweight, but I am glad and my self. Once I did loose a lot, when my son said that I was no longer the same to hug I realized that we are the persons we are, and should not change that. However, think about how much you eat, what you eat are god but once in while it is alright to have a muffin....just eat one in fact and I enjoyed it.
Take care
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
6 Sep 07
When you mentioned that your son said the hug was different that reminds me of of what my dad told me. When my mother got sick and started losing lots of weight...he said...she always had such a pretty figure until she lost all the weight....thanks for sharing!
@catskisses (434)
• United States
18 Oct 07
What a twit!! I might have actually laughed in his face. Don't even honor such idiocy with a reply. Ignore him. Who made him the food sheriff of the house? I don't care if you weigh 700 pounds, unless you ask for his advice he should keep it to himself. He is not a dear friend I take it, so what business is it of his? Such people have control issues, they need more help than an overweight person. And he shows his ignorance, a muffin is not a meal, you did your body much more good by giving it the healthy oatmeal in addition to the probably not so healthy muffin. Oatmeal is cholesterol killing, full of good fiber, minerals and vitamins. We should eat it as often as possible. Ask any doctor. Ask the American Heart Association. Let it go, sweetie, twinkies like that abound in our world. Don't let them stress you. He doesn't pay your bills, he doesn't sleep in your bed, he means nothing. Listen only to those people who care about you.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
6 Sep 07
well, it is very rude of him to say those words to you... for me, i won't say anything to him at all... instead, i will make a point that i dislike his words by leaving the table and move to the other one... before that, i will say to him something like, "Excuse me, do I ask for your opinion?" that will make him realise of his rudeness...
@babykay (2131)
• Ireland
6 Sep 07
people are weird about food, years ago food was for eating fo survival. Something like the air that we breath. Now food is a topic all of its own, it has been politicized and is a major obsession for some. So people feel the need to comment on it. I think this guy is very rude, what business is it of his what you eat or in front of who? Cheek
@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
6 Sep 07
The problem with people is they don't think. That, and they really don't care much about people's feelings. I'm a big girl myself, and I eat whatever I want. Sometimes I have a bigger appetite than other days, and some days I want barely anything to eat. Body size and what not really doesn't play into how much a person consumes during meal time, so that's really just ignorance on his part. Personally, I would have told this guy to mind his own business. I don't talk about what he eats, and how much he eats, simply because it's not something that I care about. And if he had anything else to say, I'd tell him where he could shove his opinions..and his food.
