How do you feel about a person marrying someone for their money?

@LCecelia (1124)
United States
September 5, 2007 7:56pm CST
Could you do it? If you had a lot of money and about to get married, would you think that the person you were marrying was only marrying you for your money? Do you then have them sign a prenuptial agreement? I haven't been asked so I'm not sure what I'd do. I think that I would want to have some feelings for the guy I'm marrying. Call me old fashioned. :-) Lets hear it Mylotters...are there any golddiggers here? :-) LOL LOL LOL
3 people like this
16 responses
• Malaysia
6 Sep 07
A good discussion and I like it so much. And I like to be a golddigger, of course proud to be that way. I will take it smartly and will ensure she will love me much better day-to-day. Any mutual agreement will do or "de facto" status, and I will always double-up her investments. There are many financial instruments to deal with secured investments. Let me be her fund manager. And I will proof to her the smart system. I will not sign up any check(cheque) books or any authentication documents. Don't worry about any malpractice because I won't do it for the rest of my entire life. No interest bearing or any infliction of law difficulties. All are in transparent transactions. She can sit peacefully on her laurel. Any investment plan or business plan I will give out details document and briefing in getting her approval.
@LCecelia (1124)
• United States
6 Sep 07
Well put. :-) You said it in more words than I did but we more or less agree that you would sign a prenuptial agreement so that your lady is secured in the fact that you are not marrying her to take her money, but will even assist her in securing even more. Wonderful!!
• Malaysia
6 Sep 07
I guarantee she will marry me...ha..ha..ha..
@LCecelia (1124)
• United States
7 Sep 07
lol lol lol :-)
@stealthy (8188)
• United States
6 Sep 07
For me at this time in my life and having been married and divorced and coming out of that poorer at least career wise if not money wise if some beautiful woman who was younger than me and who had money was agreeable, heck I might just go for it but I would have to like her. I'm not sure that would make me a golddigger since I would want more than just money. As far as a prenuptial goes I think I would want one since I have learned the hard way that knowing someone is not as easy as one would think or hope and even when they say they love you it may not be true. Of course my opinion on the prenuptial is greatly influenced by the fact that I need the money I have to live off of and need to preserve it. If I were extremely rich and since I am by nature frugal, then I would probably feel I could get by on half of extremely rich as well as on almost all of the extremely rich and thus would not need a prenuptial agreement.
@LCecelia (1124)
• United States
6 Sep 07
LOL LOL Great answer!! I love the part about ".....some beautiful woman who was younger....." :-) I agree. In this day and age that we live in, unfortunately we DO have to protect ourselves. Sad. That is why Oprah...rumor has it, won't get married. On the one hand I don't blame her, but on the other hand with her billions she can afford to find a lawyer who could create an iron clad prenup that not even Superman with all his strength, can break through.
@stealthy (8188)
• United States
6 Sep 07
Well, I am single and looking. Now if I was just extremely rich, I might find someone. But as it is someone younger, beautiful and who has money will be hard to come by.
@LCecelia (1124)
• United States
7 Sep 07
:-) One never knows...do one?
• China
6 Sep 07
the stubborn fact remains that many people would choose to marry a man with a lot of money.though money will not buy anything,money can buy many things.to live comfortable need money.but i don't appreciate one that get marry with another just for his/her money.it is not love.and to do this will profane the holy love.
@LCecelia (1124)
• United States
7 Sep 07
Good point.
• China
7 Sep 07
oh, thank you for your support!
• Pakistan
7 Sep 07
money money money. the life teaches us a lot and now i am at that stage of my life where i feel that money is more important than any thing else. some of the people wouldnt agree with me but just imagine why we people are here. for money. if not you, i am here for money. to make some extra money. so why not to start you life with money when you are marrying some one you must consider this point in your mind. if not good money but respectable money:)
@LCecelia (1124)
• United States
7 Sep 07
Absolutely, more emphasis is placed on money these days. Sad :-(
@pandya (334)
• India
7 Sep 07
firstly nobody would really marry me for money... but again if anyone does... i guess.. that's the worst thing to do...
@LCecelia (1124)
• United States
7 Sep 07
I'm sorry you feel that way. :-(
• United States
6 Sep 07
Im sure there are golddiggers out there as you put it. I would never be able to marry someone for money. And i dont understand why people do so. Money doesnt buy happiness. And i probably wouldnt ask someone to sign a prenup if i had a lot of money. I just wouldnt feel right asking someone that who i was about to marry.
@LCecelia (1124)
• United States
7 Sep 07
You're right not everyone would feel OK asking someone to sign a prenup. I definitely think I would.
@manzician (4733)
• India
6 Sep 07
Well, one thing is for sure. That person won't be my best friend for a long chance. I really dont like people who marry or befriend with others for their money. Not only its selfish but it is also heartbreaken for the other person who would be facing later.
@LCecelia (1124)
• United States
7 Sep 07
Yes, even friendships become suspect when there is a lot of money involved. But that's the society we live in now...unfortunately. :-(
• Singapore
6 Sep 07
I feel that this kind of people are jerks. If you don't love him or her, then don't marry. In the end. you only ending up hurting each and other more
@LCecelia (1124)
• United States
7 Sep 07
There is the possibility of hurt feelings in such a union. Yes.
• Kottayam, India
6 Sep 07
Let them marry money.
@LCecelia (1124)
• United States
7 Sep 07
ok
• Malaysia
6 Sep 07
The first thing when I have a lot of money I will list down all the names of people who had been with with all along even though when I was poor. After that I will live as usual, but I will make a close observation to people who had been ignoring me when I was poor, but suddenly wanted to make friends with me when I am already rich. This way I am able to make a protection for myself from people who only want to be with me because of my money. Friends to gold diggers are prone to be gold diggers too, so I will keep an eye to those kind of people. Never to trust them in financial matters and even all other matters. Maybe I would disguise myself as a poor person and go out searching for my true love. Lol. I think this is the most practical thing to do because I will know the person who loves me is not because of my money. Maybe I will tell him the truth after we are married. I am not sure yet, but I think this is the best way to get a true love if I am a very rich person. After marriage, I will confess everything to him. I am sure he will forgive and feel happy about it.
@LCecelia (1124)
• United States
7 Sep 07
I like your senario but I wouldn't wait until after you were married. It may look as though you didn't trust him. And that's no way to start out a relationship.
@derek_a (10897)
6 Sep 07
I can never say I have married for money. When I was about 18 years, I was dating a millionaire's daughter of the same age. He father has already set her up in business and financially she was set up for life. She was in love with me, but I did not feel so strongly about her _ I was merely fond of her. I ended the relationship so that she could move on and all my friends were saying how mad I was. She was hurt at the time, but has since moved on and now has a husband and children. I couldn't believe that my friends could be so mercenary. Most said they were only joking, but one or two admitted to being serious and said that I might as well get married and have affairs - and that I wouldn't ever have to worry about money. I felt and still feel that I just couldn't do that to another person. When I married my wife, we had nothing at all, but worked hard and have built the home we have etc. Some may still say I am mad, but I have enjoyed the struggle and the sense of achievement we have made over the years. :-)
@LCecelia (1124)
• United States
7 Sep 07
Thats a great testimony. And look at what you gained by being of noble character.
@wotfpatty (2068)
• United States
6 Sep 07
Marrying for money must be a very lonely existence. I mean, after you have all the "stuff", what's left? Someone you don't love, you really don't feel connected to, and who just pays the bills. I like money as much as anyone but I wouldn't want that kind of life. I married a working man and we had some tough times over the past 23 years but we stuck together through thick and thin. That is what marriage is all about. If I had a lot of money, yes I would want a prenup. I know all about how you are supposed to love and trust the person and all that but the reality is, things change, people change. If they cheated or left or if I realized I didn't love the person as I thought, they would get MY money. I would sign a prenup - insist on it - if I married someone with money just because I don't want anyone wondering in the back of their minds whether I am true or just there for the cash. I would hope someone who truly loved ME would offer to sign a prenup to show me the same if I had a lot of money. I guess I'm lucky, neither my husband or I had a cent when we got married so there was no worries about THAT! lol.
@LCecelia (1124)
• United States
7 Sep 07
You took the words right out of my mouth. I agree especially about the part where you said that YOU would insist on signing a prenup. I would do the same.
@devilsangel (1817)
• United States
6 Sep 07
No I couldn't marry someone for their money. If all I wanted was money I would have just accpeted my fathers offer and maried some guy that was arranged for me when I was 2. If I don't trust the person I'm with enough to know that they are not with me for money then I won't be with them. I understand the need for a prenup but at the same time think its just a way of saying a person is not secure in their relationship and is still unsure of their partners motives. I do agree that couples if they do split should agree to leave with only what they brought into the relationship and split what they both earned together. However, we all know that is very rarely the case.
@LCecelia (1124)
• United States
7 Sep 07
I understand what you're saying, but how often in marriages where there is lots of money involved does the person without the money walk away with only what they came into the relationship with? Britney Spears, Whoopie Goldberg, and Mike Tyson comes to mind. If the couple were married for many years, say 10 or more I think that they would deserve to get some money, especially if there children involved.
@ayu_asks (104)
• United States
6 Sep 07
Money is important yes but not THE MOST important one. The most important one is Chemistry. U must LIKE the person. That is 50% of the Battle. Once u Like the person, then comes the $ part. I think not so much of Money but does this person have a stable job? How is his/her money habit (spender/saver?) Does this person have any outstanding debt? ... that is my opinion... cheers... ayu @ www.myhandbaghaven.blogspot.com
@LCecelia (1124)
• United States
7 Sep 07
Good points. It helps that the person you marry, lets go to the extreme...is NOT a serial kill, meaning of good character, responsible, it would also be nice if they at least had a high school deploma. (proving ability to finish what they start).
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
6 Sep 07
I will not even date someone for thier money, much less marry them. I do not care how much he has, if I do not like him, I do not want him. I believe that there are a lot of men and women who would, but it is not for me. If I have a lot of money and am planning to get married, I would not need to have him sign a prenup. I am not going to marry someone if I feel that I can not trust them with my life. If I make him sign an agreement, then I am going in with the idea that this thing could end at any time. I do not believe in divorce, that is why I want to get it right the first time.
@LCecelia (1124)
• United States
6 Sep 07
Good points. In the back of my mind I think I would wander at a guys motive for marrying me if I had a lot of money. I guess it must be the insecurity in me. Who knows? I've said in the past that if I were going to marry a guy with a lot of money I would insist on signing a prenuptial myself. I don't think signing a prenuptial agreement is an indication that the union won't last. Its just a precaution that if the person you are marrying had ulterior motives in marrying you, you'll be protected. Thats just my 2 cents. :-)
1 person likes this
• China
6 Sep 07
the stubborn faxt remains that there are many people choosing their marriage partners with a lot of money.though money can not buy anything,without money you can not live comfortable.but i can not stand the one who marry someone just for their money. i think that's not love.and the person who do so is just profane its love.