How do you deal with the terrible news, your family member has Aids?

I don't have anyone close suffering from aids, but i can understtand ur situation.And i tell u may it be aids or any other disease, no one knows what is going to happen tomorrow. As the news is new he will feel like that for some days but later he will get adjusted, all he needs is love and support from u all. No one knows what is written for him for the next day, it is possible that someone suffering from deadly disease may live for many years and someone who is healthy may pass away due to accident or any such incident in his life.

One year later... It still feels as though i have just found out!!! It is the most horrible thing on the face of the earth to hear. You sit there in the doctors office waiting, sweating bullets because you know there is something so very inportant that he has to tell you, you just have no idea what. It was like someone hit the slow motion button in my life and as the doctor came into the room with a grim look on his face, he looked at me and said A####n, you are HIV+. At that instant the room began to spin and everything in front of me litteraly looked dark and i could not see straight, i could not breath as if someone was pushing against my lungs!!! My whole world came crashing down in a matter of moments. Feelings of all sorts came to me. Fear, anger, scared as heck, anger, anger, anger, at myself for knowing what was out there and not taking care of myself! I wonder why in the heck this was happening to me. I am such a good person and i treat everyone with respect! One year later.... One year later... MY heart has hardened and i feel as though people are not to be trusted. I can't seem to accept the fact that i have what i have. I don't want to believe it. It can't be so. God, this can't be happening to me, this is just a bad dream, i don't wanna die! I haven't had this for very long and already i feel like a piece of hammered dog crap! It is hard, very hard to go through something like this and know one can say that they understand because they don't unless they have what i have. It feels as though one is a lone in a cold world and yes one year later my world is spinning out of control! All that i can say to someone that may beHiv+ is to get help asap. I have not yet becuase i am in some serious denial here. Don't be araid of people who are positive because u can't get anything and you don't want them to feel like a dirty animal and make them feel worse than what they already do! I am not a negative person, i am loving and warm hearted and outgoing and i love people. This is something so very new even one year later and can not be fully explained unless one was to go thru it! I say again, kicking ones self in the butt is an ongoing thing so please don't be too hard on the one you love for being negative, just help them thru it the best you can because i am very sure that they need you and your unconditonal love!! Think about how the rest of the world that is not educated on this disease is going to treat them, so yes they need your love and support!!!

Hi Happymommy3, I am so sorry to hear that happened to your brother. It is a very terrible news indeed and my heart goes out for your brother and your family. It is one of those diseases that you just can't do anything about no matter how safe you think you were. I think the only safe thing to do nowadays is to not get involved or at least too involved with others because you just don't know what that other person have or not. You are safer on your own than with others for some reasons. I am sorry again.