''Did i fall in love too quickly?''

fallen in love - A person whos fallen in love on net.
@jackxav (660)
Philippines
September 7, 2007 8:14pm CST
I meet a man on internet and i have fallen in love with quickly.He also seems to like me,he has one kid.He says he will call me on phone or chat on me but often doesn't follow through with his promises and doesnt ever explain why he hasn't called or online.Do you think he really wants to be with me or am i just wasting my time to see him even though he dissapointments me regularly.What will i do?I need some advice friends...
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@Philxav (733)
• Malaysia
8 Sep 07
Dear Jackxav, its not matter of you fall in love quickly or not its actually you trusted him so fast. Probably you should give yourself more time.. but its not too late for you. If he really loves you truly he will spare the time with you. But in this case i think he might just playing with your feelings but never know.. he also might have some probs there that makes him not to be online. Give yourself some time.. before you make your decision. Meanwhile, just dont trust much till you really satisfy with his answer. God Bless You
@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
8 Sep 07
I'd agree. We must heed the warnings and advices from most of the people here because they simply are right. I'm not really a firm believer of online dating, but I couldn't help but admit that my partner is from online. But before we got into a 'relationship' we physically met and spent a lot of time together. That's why I don't think it's online love. It just started that way. I think the main question at this point is. Is he really into you? or is he just thinking of this type of relationship as something 'online'? Well, you'll never know for sure until you'd meet the guy, spend time with him. Take it easy friend. It's not really very easy to express feelings online, nor should you expect something from someone so far away. Just take it slow. Don't expect and protect your heart. If he doesn't call, then forget about it. If he says things, don't believe right away. Maybe the feelings hasn't bloomed for him yet. As my friends used to say "if he really loves you, he'll cross oceans and countries for you." True love can never be found where it doesn't really exist, nor can it be hidden when it truly does. Good luck!
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@Philxav (733)
• Malaysia
10 Sep 07
Thanks so much laydee. You spoke it all. I agree with you. Thanks so much...
@sid556 (30989)
• United States
8 Sep 07
It sounds to me as if you may have leapt too fast. I, too, have a child and a job and have very little time to commit to a relationship and so I do understand that part. Still, he makes and breaks promises regularly and that is what makes me question his intent. Have you even met him in person yet? It sounds to me as if you perhaps fell in love with what he portrayed himself to be at the start. Once you do that, anything less than what you imagined him to be will be a disappointment for you.
@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
8 Sep 07
I agree. Sad to say, most of the online relationships are based on fantasies and how you imagined him to be rather than the real person within. I suggest you meet him first before deciding to really take the plunge. If you already took the plunge, well get out of the water first and try to see the real deal. Promise breakers really say something about someone. Are you willing to gamble your heart with someone who couldn't even keep his word regularly? Lots of luck.
@jackxav (660)
• Philippines
10 Sep 07
Yeah we didnot see each other in person yet.We just see on net and chat.Ik now its all my fault....thank you so much sid556..may god bless you.
@brijlesh (273)
• India
8 Sep 07
hey friend this not matter that when you fall in love, but matter is this that how you fall in love and for how much time you are in love. thanks
@jackxav (660)
• Philippines
14 Sep 07
Yeah,i highly appreciate your thoughts.Thank you so much for that words.May you hsve more blessings to come in your life.
• Kenya
8 Sep 07
may be u might have !!
@jackxav (660)
• Philippines
10 Sep 07
Hey thak you so much for responding...ur great! good luck on mylot.but just want to know what u mean to say?ill wait for you broxy...
• Philippines
8 Sep 07
well,its not ur fault jackxav but then u have to slow down.You must know him first,then u can give ur trust to him.All things in this world has always right time for it.But u must be happy also,u know him early,so u can look for another.
@jackxav (660)
• Philippines
10 Sep 07
yeah u have the ppoint...thank you so much..god bless you.
@ice2cool (53)
• India
8 Sep 07
No u must not go with these relationships. this relation ship doesnt seems to be happening. There is always a right time for that, more over he has one kid as per you said. u must seek a person who is always ya best friend first, who can always understand u, ya feelings and respects everything which relates ya life. u have never met this person. So falling in love through internet doesnt makes any sense. perhaps it is merely a wastage of time. So please think twice.think about the future consequences and then step forward. Life never gives a second chance. Good luck!!! ....Amit
@jackxav (660)
• Philippines
10 Sep 07
Thank yo u so much for ur nice advised ice2cool..your my friend.god bless you always and guide u on yor way.always and forever...
@wonderful1 (2075)
• China
8 Sep 07
firstly, you must sure that you really love him. then can you accept his kid, or his kid can accept you? the internet give you more chance to know men, but i think you should meet each other in the real life, and have a date in several days like lovers. he is a dad, so sometimes he can't do something as a single man, so i think you should ask him the reason why he is absent.
@jackxav (660)
• Philippines
10 Sep 07
Ur such a nice person,i got waht u really want to tell me.And we cant also judge the person.Ill still try to ask him.thank you so much and more pwer to you wonderful...ur my friend...
• Malaysia
10 Sep 07
His act really shows an alarming situation right now. You should not follow your heart totally. Now you have to think clearly and be sensible. I know now you are deeply in love and nothing on the surface can make you see clearly what is he doing to you at the moment. Based on what you are writing, it is enough for me to see clearly that he hasn't any intention in having a serious relationship with you. He said he has one child and I am sure he is happily married somewhere and he is not divorced or anything. These type of guys really exist in this world, jackxav. My friend had experienced the same thing as you are now, and she was frustrated in the end. I advice that you stop contacting him immediately and try to forget him. Have you met him offline or you just chat with him through the internet? I think your relationship is too early and there is no damage done if you stop your relationship with him now. I believe if you don't chat with him for a week, the feeling of missing him will subside and after two weeks you will be able to forget him completely. Trust me. A person who likes to sweet talk and make promises but didn't even remembered ever giving it to you is a person to avoid. He may have many other online sweethearts out there which you didn't know. This type of guy is maybe dangerous too. He is maybe a lunatic or crazy person. Lol.
@CaitBaby (447)
• United States
8 Sep 07
I do think you should be careful because it's an internet relationship. You never really know if a person is being sincere or not over the internet because they have so much freedom to say whatever they want. Just be careful. You wouldn't want to get hurt over a guy you barely know. My advice to you is don't let yourself develop strong feelings for him until you make the relationship more than just an online thing. Good luck! :)
• United States
8 Sep 07
I don't know what you should do as you're the one who has to decide that. I would be having a talk with him to see if you both have the same idea as to where you want this to go. Personally, I wouldn't do online dating as you never know who that is on the other end. I have heard romantic stories about married couples that found each other online though, so what do I know? LOL Maybe he gets busy or has a habit of forgetting, but I would see his lack of common curtesy as a red flag for my taste. If you can't depend on him to call or even apologize for not calling, how can you depend on him as a possible future partner? I don't know the whole situation, but like I said; maybe have a good talk. You don't know what's on his mind if you don't ask.
• Bangladesh
8 Sep 07
I also fall in love by chatting at mobile.we both were in deep love.That time was like dream.But though we were not in a same city so lots of problem created and i broke this relation. There was no other way. She was hearted a lot.I was tooo.But........ So my friend Plz be strong......and i will advise not to increase your feelings and put it to graveyard. You should not.Because you dont know that guy properly and its quite impossible to know him totaly. Now its up to you.
• United States
8 Sep 07
Sounds to me like this guy has other commitments in life such as maybe a wife or kids he is involved with I think if you really have true feelings for this guy you need to let him know that you are not into games and if he has feelings for you then he will begin to follow through with his promises.
• New Zealand
8 Sep 07
sounds like your heading for a disaster. I would sit back and have a good look at the situation