Ever Feel Like You Are Not Being Heard?

I know exactly what you mean. Instead of sinking in, it hits the side of their head and then slides off. I really believe that these are the ones that God sends in our lives to teach us tolerance, patience, and for me, impulse control. When aggrevated to my limit, I have been know to hit first and regret it later. There is one friend who can take my temper from zero to sixty in two seconds flat. Then, when I try to explain why I am upset, she always tries to minimize it. This makes me even more angry. There have been times that she has caused my throat to get so tight, that I feel as though my tonsils are going to fly out. She blames everything on her learning problems, but she does not do anything to try to help herself. First of all, she will drain you with questions that you could not possibly know the answer to. For instance, if you share a book with her that you have bought, she will ask you how long it took the person to write it. You just want to strangle her. I try my best to be patient because she is a Christian, but she can really work my last nerve. I'll explain something to her one day and the very next day, she will come back and ask me to explain it again. Most of the time it is something very simple. I remind her that I just explained it to her the day before. Then she starts talking about her problems. I do not know how many times I have told her to write things down, but she never does. The other day I got so frustrated. I told her look, that is your problem. Stop trying to make it make problem. She always using her problem as an excuse to drain people. It is very hard, but I love her and am hanging in there with her.

I also hate being completely ignored and disregarded. It is like that person is saying, you are not important and what you say does not matter. I do not refer to these people as friends. It is too upsetting to attempt to communicate with them.

That is the same way that my aunt looks at me. As if I am too young or stupid to be taken seriously. She tells me things that you would tell a child. I do not take it personal, because that is the way she is with most of her younger relatives. But, it does not make it any less annoying.

It would do no good to talk to her about it, she does nothing wrong. She thinks the world is out to get her, that everywhere she goes, the doctor, grocery, walmart, anyplace, she feels others treat her differently b/c she is a senior citizen or b/c she is on medicare/medicaid. Everywhere she goes it's a conflict, but it's always someone else, not her. So it would not do me any good to try to change her at this point in her life. I have just always loved her anyways and just accepted it, I do however have to go off sometimes and vent my frustration, what is so bad is that my own kids love her, but don't want to go see her b/c of her ways.

That had to be pretty tough when you were growing up and even now. Have you ever attempted to talk to her about how this and how it makes you feel?

I think it can also be lack of manners that they do not listen. Some people just wait for a chance to change the subject on you.