how do you choose?

United States
September 9, 2007 9:15am CST
How do you choose between two people? When they both treat you really well, and dont do you wrong. Do you go with who you know longest, who you know best, who you get along with better? My friend Sam just emailed me and asked me this. I dont have this problem. I dont have to choose between anyone at the moment. And if I did I already know who it would be. In many cases the same person. What is your advice you could give me, that I could give her?
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3 responses
9 Sep 07
A tough one, you have to weigh up what you can gain and loose, it's not always about who you've known the longest, although history can play a big factor. But sometimes because you've known someone a long time you can assume that you care about them more than you do. You have to decide who makes you feel the best at all times, a good judgement is who do you miss when you're not with them both. Follow the heart and not the head.
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• United States
9 Sep 07
thank you for your response. thats a wise choice of words
@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
9 Sep 07
Is this for a relationship, or just because the two people don't get along or something? I've never had to 'choose' as such, because even when I've liked two people, there has always been the outstanding one, who I have had more connection with, so it's natural. I think that is what she will have to do, as you can't just lead people on because you cannot make up your mind. Either that, or she shouldn't pick either, and she should just enjoy the friendships that she has, because she's obviously not ready to be in a relationship if she has mixed emotions. (by the sounds of it, I obviously don't know). If she thinks she likes one more, one that there is more chemistry, more fun, more of whatever she's looking for, then she should go with that. If there isn't that distinction, she shouldn't think she has to 'pick' if you get me? Wish her luck, and I hope it all works out =D
• United States
9 Sep 07
thank you for your response. and its between her step sister and best friend.
• India
9 Sep 07
i would choose a person who is more comfortable and honest with me. smiles, apple.
• United States
9 Sep 07
thank you