prospect suitor while in the process of moving on...
By jhoana_joey
@jhoana_joey (616)
Philippines
5 responses
@meemingNEW (2226)
• Philippines
14 Sep 07
I think I will entertain a new suitor even if i'm still in the process of moving on. Entertaining a new suitor doesn't mean you have to do anything about it. I mean, yeah the guy courts you but you can tell him to wait. If he can't wait, then it's up to him . Telling that suitor frankly about what you are going through is a good thing because you're being honest with the guy and honest with yourself. That you are still in the process of moving on. I don't really agree about having someone new just so that I can forget my ex.. but rather find it in myself to just accept the fact that it's over between my ex bf and me.. that there's no rewinds.. I can only move forward..
@meemingNEW (2226)
• Philippines
11 Oct 07
It really takes time to heal a broken heart. It's really okay that you turned down your suitor and really followed what you want, and that is to be single at the moment. You can't really force yourself to be with someone who you don't love.. it's pretty obvious that you don't .
Quote:
"If your head tells you one thing and your heart tells you another, before you do anything, decide first whether you have a better head or a better heart."
I'm glad you decided already.. it simply shows that you have a better heart. :) Best of luck to you. Be happy.
@jhoana_joey (616)
• Philippines
12 Oct 07
Thanks for the wonderful quote, I like it. Also thank you for responding. God Bless
@jhoana_joey (616)
• Philippines
11 Oct 07
I admire your point of view meemingNew! I wish I could be that brave enough and I could have that kind of courage to move forward and finally accept the fact that everything is already over. As of now I already turn down my suitor because I just really can't... maybe not now... maybe not forever... I really don't know. I just want to fix myself and leave my life without a boyfriend. Seems unfair to myself but you are right having someone new won't guaranty that you can forget your ex. Thanks for sharing.
@shooting_star (384)
• Philippines
8 Nov 07
I guess entertaining a suitor could help me move on, but I wouldn't go into a committed relationship with suitors if I know I'm not over my ex-boyfriend because it would be unfair to my suitor, and I would also be cheating myself. But I would go out with other guys just to see what else is out there.
@jhoana_joey (616)
• Philippines
8 Nov 07
I don't know why I like it when you said "to see what else is out there" LOL. Thanks for sharing. Happy Post!
@shooting_star (384)
• Philippines
8 Nov 07
Oh, there's a lot more out there. LOL. Have fun entertaining your suitors. =) It could really help you move on. Or even if it doesn't help, at least you'll get your mind off your ex-bf for a while.
@rsa101 (37952)
• Philippines
8 Nov 07
Entertain for me is perfectly okay, but don't ever used that to completely heal your broken heart. healing must come from you and never from anybody who is willing to love you. You must be sure that when you jump in to that relationship you love him because you just loved him and not as an escape from the pain that your carrying right now. Release the pain and feel the new love that is there if the feeling is right then jump in just be sure your over with the first one.
@jhoana_joey (616)
• Philippines
8 Nov 07
I appreciate your comment, very well said. Thanks for responding.
@bluishrose (2289)
• Philippines
11 Sep 07
At some point yes its one way of forgetting an ex, but not entirely because i've experienced it already when i was in a new relationship it didnt work out because my ex is still in my head. Just let tome heal wounds but maybe for some people it will really help.
@jhoana_joey (616)
• Philippines
12 Sep 07
I agree with you as long as your ex is in your system then entering into new relationship will always be a failure. Time heal wounds... and I hope time will past quickly enough for me to forget the feelings I have for my ex. Thanks for sharing.
@khazeemee (288)
• Philippines
11 Sep 07
most probably no, but that might help you in some ways, just let him know that your still on the process of mending your broken heart and for now you can only be friends with him, and eventually if the frindship would promote on the next stage of relationship then that would be great..
@jhoana_joey (616)
• Philippines
12 Sep 07
You are right it will really help in some ways and accepting new friends is not a bad idea. Thanks for sharing.
@khazeemee (288)
• Philippines
12 Sep 07
yah, be open with the possibilities having new friends besides they were the one that you could have when someone leaves you behind..
