when a friend talks too much

My older sister is that way. I think, when I am talking, she is thinking of her next sentence. And with her it is allllll about HER and rarely does she LISTEN to what I am saying. Sometimes a day after a long conversation, I will mention something I said and she won't remember because she was trying to get everything she wanted to say in. In my case, because she is my sister, I can tell her that she should start listening more and talking less. She says she just wants to say everything on her mind while she has the chance but whewww, she has a lot of her mind all the time. With a friend, it is touchier. I think maybe when you are talking and your friend starts to talk, you can say something, "Wait, I haven't even gotten to the good part yet!" or "Wow, you must have a ton of things going on in your head!" (I use that on my sister when she is talking and talking AND TALKING. Usually the person will stop and ask why and you could just say because she has so much to say all the time. Whether that gets the point across, I don't know. I think some people just like to talk and don't realize they are doing so much that the pother person is about to keel over. It's hard to tell anyone to chill. I do sometimes tell my sister to slow down because my brain can't process everything so fast. Usually she does slow down for a while. I wish I had better advice. It's a real tough situation to be in.

I have a friend that is just like yours but my friend when you go to say something she willl just cut you right off and start talking about the same thing and if you got hurt she got hurt in the same spot or if you have a pain she has one worst then yours, I just let her go on and jabber away. there really is not much you can do about it because they dont even know that they are doing it.

Are you talking about me!!!! I go into work at least a 1/2 hour earlier b/c I do this. I really do try to curb it, but sometimes I just go off. Try asking her if she needs a breath. She might not realize she is doing it, I didn't, until I realized class work wasn't getting done in the mornings!

I wish I had better advice, because this does seem like a delicate situation, but I think you need to come right out and say something. Maybe say that you don't feel that she is listening to you. Or you could try breaking this habit of hers, by doing small things each time you see her. Like ask her advice about something, and ask her to listen to your situation and then say what she thinks.

well i can relate for your friends point of veiw...possibly.. i know for one thing one of my fvorite most things in the world is talking..i love to talk i can do it alot and i can do it really fast too.. my husband all the time tells me im a talker and everyone else i know says the same thing... BUT i dont do it to be rude or to be attentive to.. sometimes i really dont realize im taking so much.. I know why i do it though.. im an at home mom, my daughter just started first grade, my husband is at work 90% of the day, and i have no phone... when hes at work and shes at school i have no one to talk to .. when shes home we talk about little kid stuff, how school was, butterflies, baby dolls and barbies etc etc examples... so of course when my husband gets homei want to just let everything out for being quiet so long... i want to tell him how my day was and what i found out and what happend and oh i remeber this and erc etc.. of course i try to let him get his words in frst but sometimes its really late at night an i need to get up early to get our daughter off to school that i just want to hurry up say what i have to and go to bed... when i get my phone im sure ill calm down a bit.. because then i will talk to my mother or sisters throughtou the day.. lol but even so my husband will still get his ear full when he walks trough the door at night.. does this seem similar to your friend? soes she have numerous amounts of time to herself? soes she only see you on occasion?? is her life just so super excitig that there is not one moment that something doesnt happen?? Just let her no either wy that it would be nice if she could take a breather eery once in a while and let oyu get a word or two in..

I have a friend who is just like that. I cannot even get a word in because she just talks constantly and doesn't give anyone else a chance. It got to the point where I didn't even want to hang around with her as she monopolized all the conversations and it was boring to just sit there and listen to her talk and talk and talk. I'm sure that if I would have talked to her about it and asked her to be more cognizant of letting other people talk she would have been fine with it. But in the long run I was tired of her, the constant talking, and the subject matter of her talking so I just let the friendship go.

that is a tough situation. It is difficult to approach a subject like that when they are not family members and you don't feel that comfortable with it. I know how that could drive you crazy lol! I think that if you approach the subject with finesse that it is possible. Be nice, and courteous of her feelings. Always emphasize that you don't want to hurt her feelings and that you love her and don't want her to feel bad, then explain to her the situation. She may just feel uncomfortable with those silences an always keeps talking to keep that from happening. She might be relieved hahaha!

Hi, Too much of any is bad, still talking too much that is situation here I too have few friends who talks too much goes on talking. The pity part is that one among them even say big blunders which those who hearing gets bored. Any we all adjust with them as we can know what they have in their mind very easly but after a certain level we too get boring we openly say that to them. Still as addicted it happens again. So just take it as another character as far as possible we avoid them and try not to hate them. They too are good at heart and those not we avoid them forever.

Sometimes I talk too much when the conversation is just so good the words can't fall out of my mouth fast enough. Usually it's reciprocated though and it's like a bunch of people all talking and laughing at the same time.... If your friend is like that all the time, it could be a problem or maybe she's just so comfortable, relaxed and happy around you, that she carries on excitedly.

I have a friend who is just like that. I think that even if this was pointed out it would not make a difference. I have tried to be subtle with my friend and that does not work. I have even gone so far as to be blunt and this did not work. She is uncpable of seeing beyond herself. That I don't get rude and but in she takes as permision to continue on. It has gotten so bad that I can't have her around my other friends because they just can't stand her. I want to be nice but nice has gotten me nowhere. I may not be able to help with this but it is good to know others have the same problem.

yaa even i hav a frnd wo talks too much but it helps me in every way...u just try to watch ven i shs efree n tell her..its not gud to talk to much for health also

according to you it seems you are really her well wisher . because of her this habit sometimes she could fall in trouble, everyone can not consider like you so it could be better to make her understand to improve her habit . rupak

just be true to her because she's your friend and you care for her. tell her the truth that too much is not good because if it was another person she's talking with, that person might get turned off to her.... thanks

I also have a friend like you,so i don't knowe what i can do for her!

Same here dahling. I have a colleague who is actually a pain in the posterior for any discussion. Anytime anyone goes like ‘do you know the other day this happened to me’ and off she will go about exactly similar situations happening to her, how she tackled it, how each of her family member reacted to the situation and so on. By the time she is finished, the original topic is lost. But the worst part is that the moment some new topic is launched, off she goes again with her ‘valuable’ inputs and experiences in similar situations. And then she says how everybody who meets her actually like her, love her, send her gifts, call her up and the like. Its all the more infuriating, I mean you can see plain what a big bore she is and then she claims that everybody loves her soooo much and wants to her what she has to say! We tolerate her, keep mum in her presence and carry on our conversation only when she is out of earshot. But for your friend, if you two are close enough, then maybe you can gently tell her how inconsiderate she is and maybe this will hurt her in future, so she better start mending her ways.

I think we all have someone or know someone like this thats in our lives.It's hard sometimes knowing anyone like this..But, we still love or care for them..We probably all have a flaw that we might not think we have. I would probably just deal with your friend as the best as you can. I know it's hard cause I do have a friend like that and there are times I have to distance myself from her. Thats what I have to do so I can deal with her when she is around.

Hello Casita! Some of my friends are also like this only. They just go on talking without listening to what others are saying. I think its their habit. I mean they express (talk) what they feel, but don't have the patience to listen to what others are saying. Recently I told one of my close friends who has the habit of "one way" talking about her habit. But I didn't tell this to her directly. Just in a kidding manner I told her that she doesn't give others the chance to talk. She took it as a joke, but now she doesn't do this "one way" talking, she also listens to what others are saying. You can also try telling indirectly to your in the way she doesn't get hurt. vani^_^

frankly, i hate people who constantly talk about their own things. how can i chat with him/her? i feel very boring to be a listener. sometimes i think i'm a talker like that i hate. when i feel boring or sad,then i will talk with others about my feeling, and i just talking and talking, then i think my friends feel boring too. and i have only one good friend, but we don't chat with each other, because now we have a big change. i'm a poor from a rich, and she is a rich from a poor. so sometimes i feel very sad, then i hope she can listen to me, but she doesn't like being a listener as i did before when she was poor, so sometimes i feel she is not my friend at all.

Aww... Sure you can! Let her know in private, so it's not embarrassing.