How do you vent your anger?

@gr8life (6252)
Malaysia
September 12, 2007 1:51pm CST
What will you do when you get angry? Will you start to shout and scream your heart out? Or will you try to avoid others and hide yourself in your room? As for me, when I get really angry, I will cry. I will go and find a place for me to be alone and just cry! I really don't know why...
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@ssh123 (31096)
• India
13 Sep 07
Take a 2 km long brisk walk and all my anger is gone with the wind. I like that way rather than shout at people for my mistake or their mistake, in any case it causes mental tension for both. So I avoid shouting at people. The reason could be trivial or big, does not matter. I am convinced that it is not worthy getting angry. This kind of temperment will have its toll on health. People say emper is a valuable thing. Keep it with you!!!
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@gr8life (6252)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 07
Hello ssh123, I never think of this. Maybe, next time when I get angry, I should try to take a walk and think carefully why I need to get angry at the first place...
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@ssh123 (31096)
• India
14 Sep 07
Some experts told me that another way to get rid of anger is to talk to people whom you like the most. Having known your idiosyncracies, that person will be able to reduce your tension.
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@gr8life (6252)
• Malaysia
14 Sep 07
Hello ssh123, Thanks for the info. It is useful to me. But I have a problem. I seldom tell people about my problem (not included here *smiles*) I just don't feel that good whenever I need to tell friends or family about my problem *sighs*
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• Hong Kong
13 Sep 07
I will either go to sleep or spend all my energy on the internet. Usually when I get angry, I end up being depressed *laughs*. Then I would go to bed immediately, trying to sleep and start a brand new day tomorrow. Or, if it's at some odd hours and I can't really go to bed, I would spend all my energy on internet and forget about the stuff that makes me angry. Usually it makes me feel a bit exhausted and better.
@gr8life (6252)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 07
Hello wondericequeen, If only I can do that. When I was young and single, I don't care about others whenever I get angry. I will lock myself in my room, crying till I fall asleep. When I wake up later, I feel like a brand new day is waiting for me. I will come out from the room, smiling and start being talkative again with my family members. They do stare at me unbelievable!
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• Hong Kong
13 Sep 07
*laughs* Usually I just told my mom that I would sleep or tired and I would lock myself up till I fall asleep! Pretty amazing how much sleep I could get if I am under depression. Of course my mom knows that I am unhappy about something and that's why I am not really motivated to do other things.
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• Philippines
13 Sep 07
Its easy to see when I'm angry, I get irritated easily and you no one can talk to me. I will avoid any kind of convesatin and go to my room or I'll room the park for whole day and listen to radio and i will not talk for the whole day. The worst part with me when I'm angry is that I don't know when will may anger end even if I do catharsis or even after I evaluate the situation. As long as I still feel anger my behavior will be unpredictable.
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@gr8life (6252)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 07
Hello lossforredwords, I understand that. I don't get angry easily but if I do, it is hard to cool down. I know myself very well and how my mood swing will affect others around me, that's why I choose to be left alone and the best way for me, is to cry!
@Valce1 (173)
• Canada
13 Sep 07
Choke and suppress... And wait for it to dissipate
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@gr8life (6252)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 07
Hello Valce1, Very funny! Anyway, thanks for your response. I think I will stick to my way....crying out loud but at a secluded place *laughs*
@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
13 Sep 07
I just do my best to hold it for a while, then wait for the right time to finally blurt it all out. That's the time where people or things or anthings that pi$$ed me off, should all hide if they don't want to feel my wrath!LoL Sometimes, I just spent time alone with myself and take a rest or sleep it out. I make sure that when I come out, I don't feel any burden at all. I always am for positive and happy environment, as nobody wants to ruin other's day or moods just because of me and my self-pitty!;)
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@gr8life (6252)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 07
Hello raijin, Yeah, people like us should be left alone whenever we get angry. I don't get angry easily but if I do, it will be terrible. So the best way is just be quiet, alone and find place to cry...
• Singapore
13 Sep 07
I would prefer to be alone when I'm angry. Sometimes I would play "Kill them all" types of computer games to vent my anger.
@gr8life (6252)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 07
Hello daveisdavid, That is a good idea. From the name of the game, I think you can 'kill the anger' easily too. Should try to find some kind of good games online...thanks for your response.
@moneyandgc (3430)
• United States
13 Sep 07
That of course depends on who or what I am angry at. If I am really angry I will hide an cry. If it is my husband that I am angry at I will cry..possibly yell and ALWAYS write. Writing everything out always helps me. I can express everything I want or need to say to him in writing, without yelling. Then he usually writes to me and that always opens up conversation. The writing gives time to cool down.
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@gr8life (6252)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 07
Hello moneyandgc, Oh, it seems so many people here are like me. I cry when I get angry too. I can be a bad person when I am moody. So this is the best way for me to avoid another controversy...
• United States
12 Sep 07
It depends on who or what I'm angry at. When me and my husband argue I cry almost immediately. If I am angry at a stranger or even an aquaintance, I usually raise my voice. If I'm angry at my computer I tend to cuss a lot and throw things. :D
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@gr8life (6252)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 07
Hello craftcatcher, I prefer to keep quiet whenever I quarrel with my husband and definitely I will cry. Whenever he is angry at me, he will just accused me of being sympathetic whenever I cry. But it is always him who will come and persuade me no matter whose fault was that. One time he told me that he became really sad when he saw me crying after our heated argument. That's a bonus point for me but I never try to make him feel that way. I never pretend to be so sad and cry though..it comes naturally...
@hailie17 (448)
12 Sep 07
I also cry when i'm angry. I find it very frustrating if i'm having and argument. Iget really wound up and then i can feel the lump in my throat and the tears welling up in my eyes. I then have to go somewhere alone and just crty and cry to get it out of my system. I've got to admit though, i feel better afterwards!
@gr8life (6252)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 07
Hello hailie17, I feel the same too. It always make me feel better after crying. At least it is how I try to express my anger.
@ashjoe76 (1434)
• India
12 Sep 07
I prefer to be left alone when I am angry, lest I may hurt other people's emotions. I usually retreat to my room or find a secluded place for myself. Soothing music will do the job for me, if I am in my room. Books are a great help too.
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@gr8life (6252)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 07
Hello ashjoe76, I do the same thing too. I prefer to be left alone in my room or any secluded place that others can't reach me and cry out aloud! At least, it will make me better after doing that. I don't know why when I became angry, I will cry. It is an immediate response whenever I feel angry inside. My husband used to tell me that I can't live without crying. Just small little thing, be it sad or something that angers me, will make me cry easily!
• Malaysia
12 Sep 07
i will eat...cry nt often bt did that before..
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@gr8life (6252)
• Malaysia
12 Sep 07
Hello pauline_spl, When I feel down, I will eat. When I have too many problems at the same time, I will eat. But when I am angry, I will cry. Sometimes I feel funny, but it is just like that!
• China
13 Sep 07
please don't worry,i think everything will go well.when you get very angry ,you can try to do something you like ,or do some activities to improve one's health, and you can also go to KTV to sing out all your anger,does it good ideals?
• India
13 Sep 07
Letting out natural emotions like anger is good in our own way, but we should be little conscious that its not affecting others much, but the reality is due to our anger definitely something is getting affected, either people around us or the non-living for some have the habit of throwing and breaking things, as far as i'm concerned, it depends on the situation where and how i loose my temper, if someone is at my receiving end, i shout at them, if i understand that the situation is not that favourable ofcourse i grind my teeth and control somehow with great difficulty, earlier i tears used to flow down but not now. But i developed much patience and tolerance that i dont loose much of my temper that easily. So things are manageable at my end, only to my daughter, husband and my mom i shout if i'm really irritated. Else i'm cool basically.
• United States
13 Sep 07
There are different ways i will vent.if its bad..i will call my best friends and just..BLAHHHH!!! LOL..which is cool because they understand and do the same thing..although i have done some serious venting here on Mylot..and one of the vents i made may have been a bad idea..but i always feel better when talking to people here..you all listen to me and hear what im saying..and many have been theer..and in the end,,i never have any regrets..but if its the worst anger thay is soo emotional for me..I will just sit down..and Cry..and i will cry til i have no more tears to cry..im a very emtional person..and i hate feeling all the negativity..so i cry..pretyy stupid huh? lol///well take care!
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• United States
13 Sep 07
I try to workout as much as I can.It seems to help somehow.I hate when I lose my temper.I have no patience sometimes.
@gloria777 (1678)
• India
13 Sep 07
Anger - A man gets angry
Earlier I used to scream whenever I get angry. But now control myself and just move out from the scene. Then I will make think about the fact of the situation and find if there would have any purpose in getting anger.
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
13 Sep 07
It depends on how angry I get. If I'm just plain angry or frusterated, I'll sit and fume over the situation. I won't argue because I can't stand to argue. I'll hit the person if they don't shut up because I can not stand to argue. I'd rather be left alone so I can work my way through it myself and in my own time. However if I'm made so angry that I cry, God help the person because I have a horrible temper and I can't stand to cry when angry and I'll tear a person to ribbons when pushed that far. The person is forwarned beforehand however it's their fault if they keep antagonizing me.
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@dimaks (786)
• Japan
13 Sep 07
there have been many ways to deal with anger. some people say, at first, try to have a deep breath and sit down. if things do not subside, lie down. some people though cry their heart out and even shout.
@get518 (27)
• China
13 Sep 07
I will listen to the music or buy something to eat or tell my best friend .I won't hide myself in my room , I think if you have a bad moon you avord others or hide in room may be will be more angry ,beacuse once you are alone you may think more and more ,and then...
@isaiah12 (418)
• United States
13 Sep 07
When I'm angry I usually hold it in. Which isn't a good thing. Some times it gets to the point I can't hold it in any longer and I bust out at someone over some stupid little thing.