Shoul a wome change her name when she gets married?

United States
October 27, 2006 7:35am CST
Do you think women should take their husbands last name when they get married?
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16 responses
@srhelmer (7031)
• Beaver Dam, Wisconsin
27 Oct 06
I was glad when my wife did because it showed she was officially part of the family. But, I can understand why women would want to keep their last name too.
@massaj03 (4372)
• United States
27 Oct 06
exactly, thats what I'm saying. Me personally thinks it should be changed but I can see their point of view as well.
@dellion (6706)
• Malaysia
27 Oct 06
Be part of the be a family.Yes, thats kind of recognisation for her too:)
@kckalesh (1181)
• India
27 Oct 06
yes . Awomen must change her name after her marrige
• United States
27 Oct 06
I am not sure if you are male or female. If you are or where a man would you not marry someone if they did not take your name?
@Gwenshin (171)
• United States
28 Oct 06
NO! It's a big unnecessary inconvenience! You have to change your drivers licence, social security card, credit card, ect. Then you have your paychecks issued in your maiden name, and you'll have trouble cashing it, ect. It's stupid, and unnecessary. If the grooms family is so backward, that they won't accept you due to your name, then I'd look for a better family to be a part of. Unless my name would be Rockerfeller or Trump, or Gates, then I wouldn't waste my time.
@lilaclady (28236)
• Australia
28 Oct 06
I believe it would make things so much simpler if a woman kept their own surname and add the husbands on the end and then if it doesn't work out just drop the husbands name as easy as it was taken....
@cburtz (282)
• United States
28 Oct 06
I think so or at least he should change his or they could both change. They should just have the same name whatever it is.
@vicele (328)
• Kenya
27 Oct 06
I dont thinks it's such a big deal,but the advantage to it is that it shows that you are a member to a new family.And also to the society it raises your status- you are not a miss anymore but a mrs.But i preffer keeping my maiden name together with my husbands
@mlsa1082 (116)
• United States
27 Oct 06
it is customary. you want to have the same last name as your kids.. ideally
• India
27 Oct 06
To carry the name of her husband or change even the first name is a command of male dominated system. It is against the fundamental rights that is why there is no Legalisation for it. The submissive female cult accepts it as a badge. At times only the husband's name after Smt. or Mrs. is used. This looks awkward wholesome.
@tarachand (3895)
• India
27 Oct 06
That is something very personal. In India, a few years ago, among the Hindus and the Moslems, even the first name of the girl was changed so that she could start a new life. This is now slowly changing among the Hindus at least. Most of the girls now are called by the name that they had before marriage. As far as the surname is conerned, as I said that this is a very personl matter to be decided by the couple and their families.
@sbeauty (5870)
• United States
27 Oct 06
In Iceland all children are born with last names derived from their fathers. For instance, Johann's son is Erik Johannson. He daughter would be Johanndaughter. The woman then maintains her name throughout life, because marriage doesn't change the fact that she was her father's daughter. In American culture, it used to be absolute that women assume their husband's name after marriage. Only about a century ago women were still considered the property of their husbands, and husbands wanted to be sure their wives were labelled as belonging to them. As women have gradually become equal citizens in our society, it's becoming more and more common for women to choose to retain their own identity. I think it's great that women can choose the name they prefer to use.
@dellion (6706)
• Malaysia
27 Oct 06
I think that is good as that will let others know that she was married and to whom she was attached!
@alena824 (376)
• Philippines
27 Oct 06
If she's developed a very good reputation and professional personality, then it would probably be wise to let her keep using her maiden name. Otherwise, that's what marriage means, right? Taking on your husband's surname. Still, couples should realize they are individuals first, and if it is important to build an image using your maiden name, then by all means do so.
@ossie16d (11826)
• Australia
27 Oct 06
In years long gone it was the custom for a woman to take the name of her husband when she married but I do not think it is essential. One very good reason for a woman to retain her own name is that she might have a career etc and is known by that name already however if there are children then that needs to be considered so the child has the same name as both parents. Of course both the woman and the child can have hyphenated names, i.e. joining both her name and the husband's names together, and I do know of one instance where that happened. However the whole family, including the husband, had a hyphenated name which they did by combining both their surnames. :)
@Mahindan (564)
• Canada
27 Oct 06
If i get married i would let my wife decide it. These days there are so many divorces it is better for a woman to keep her maiden name. Let the woman be what she wants to be. Just because she did not want to change her name doesn't mean that she doesn't love you. :)
@massaj03 (4372)
• United States
27 Oct 06
Me personally, yes I think a woman should take the mans last name....but everyone had thier own opinion about it I'm sure, and I wouldn't think differently about someone who didn't change their name when they got married. :)
• India
27 Oct 06
may be not !!! Coz a women has her own self, own name , own identity!!!!