Curvy dating?
By gmakesmoney
@gmakesmoney (2923)
United States
September 14, 2007 2:50am CST
I came across an interview of Mo'Nique (comedian, star of The Parkers, Phat Girlz and creator & host of F.A.T Chance) where she was talking about the movie Phat Girlz, in which she "wins" the guy who is some really hot African doctor and she goes to Africa at the end to get him back. Well I came across this question and answer and found that it held so much truth in terms of men (no, not all of them but a major percentage) in the US and dating full figured women. She wad dead on in what she said and it made me remember moments in my own dating life and made me think. So why is it that[some] men act like that?
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Q: Do African men really prefer bigger women?
Mo'Nique: I've been to Africa; that's as true as it comes. When I got off of that plane, they were whistling, they were calling out my name; they love thick women. And now here is the thing, so do American men, but they have bought into to some foolishness, that they have to appease other people's eyes, especially black men. They like thick women, because they come over to our house at 3, 4 o'clock in the morning when they are done with small girl. Am I lying? We want to go see the movie during the daytime, not the last show. Am I lying? They will ring our bell at 3 o'clock in the morning because they want that that fat love baby -fat love honey, yes.
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@wondericequeen (7876)
• Hong Kong
14 Sep 07
Oh really? *smiles* Now I might have to worry honey! My loved one is American *laughs*. If I am in Hong Kong, I am called medium built, but when I go to the states, I could be called slim. What a difference! I don't know the truth about men, but I agree that men love to appease other people's eyes. In here, guys "like" (date) mostly really thin girls, otherwise, their buddies would call them with really mean names. And that's why the girls are so tiny around here and everyone is on diet and look sick and yucky. And I really hate it when girls around me are dieting for no apparent reason, I guess everyone here is attacked by the slimness insanity *laughs*. Hope your blog will be popular here to educate them with the new beliefs!
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@gmakesmoney (2923)
• United States
14 Sep 07
LOL, you should be fine. I don't understand how everyone in Hong Kong is so thing when they have the most fabulous foods there? Like my obsession... Pocky! OMG I could go on forever about those, lol.
I think it's sad when some tries to live their life for what others see instead of for what they feel. I have a friend like that and I feel sad for him because he's never going to be fully happy and he's never going to be with who he really loves because of what his friends think. If men could stop trying to act so "cool" all the time, they'd discover why women live so much longer than they do.
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@wondericequeen (7876)
• Hong Kong
15 Sep 07
*laughs* Right! And it's sad to compete and please others forever in life. It's simple to understand that you can't really care that much sometimes and you can't really please everyone in the world. I have a friend and she is forever going on diet and she is not fat! I got tired of listening to her forever about how fat she is and I asked her to give me a call only when she thinks she is not fat *laughs*. It's all in the head!
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@gmakesmoney (2923)
• United States
19 Sep 07
I've got a friend like that too, she's a size 4 and is always complaining about how fat she is. Finally I gave up and agreed with her, now we complain to each other and diet together. It's so much easier than arguing, lol.
@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
14 Sep 07
I think for the most part that's true. People don't like dating someone their friends or family don't think it's beautiful, so they end up dating one person, and then end up going behind their backs to date someone else that's more to their liking. I can believe that most men want bigger girls too, but because our society is all about 'thin' women, men don't want to stray and look foolish and date a curvy chick simply because that's not what is popular. It's sad really.
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@gmakesmoney (2923)
• United States
14 Sep 07
I agree, that's the way it is and it's really sad. I think the change needs to start with society accepting the way bodies are supposed to be naturally and that does have to start with women supporting other women and rejecting the things that don't encourage a healthy image. The all mighty dollar is a lot stronger than we think and maybe it's time to put that to the test. Only then will men catch on and feel it's ok to flaunt their taste for fuller women.
