How do you handle being in the middle of people who argu?

Earlier, I would try to calm them down or solve their problem. But then I realized that they would continue to argue. I just walk away now. It's for them to sort it out. I try not to irritate either person by not mentioning the other's name or talking about them. I have separate relations with the two of them unless they ask me about the other person or what I think about a situation. I prefer to let them handle it themselves.

I happen to be in that position recently when two friends of mine argued. Not just argued, they really fought at each other.. Pulled each other's hairs, slapped each other and they keep pushing each other off. It was my first time to be in that situation. What I did was I did nothing, (which was pretty stupid of me). I was in a very panic mode at that time since I haven't even been in that position of having an argument with someone. The two were infront of me and the only thing I did was pick up the things that were thrown off like their bags, some books and I carried those things around while they continued their duel. I forgot to mention, there were 2 other friends whole hold them apart so that they will not hurt each other. Lucky for me since if i was the only one in that position, it will definitely a difficult task for me to do to break those 2 apart or even try breaking them apart.

I would try to calm them, down, and talk to them and see if I could come up with a solution for them. I really don't kie to be in those situations but sometimes, you can't help it. if it get to bad I will leave the seen, I don't like being stressed.

I don't handle it very well at all, I just want to run away from the situation. I came from a home where violence and arguments were almost the norm and as much as I love my parents I could not handle the constant arguments and yelling. I tried to bring peace to my home when I married and had children knowing what it was like to listen to adults fighting, but as hard as I tried the arguments still happened. I have not handled things too well when going into friends homes and getting caught up in blazing rows, I've tried the silent approach and tried to say some positive things hoping it would stop the row but to no avail, I usually end up just walking out and going home. I cannot listen to debates on the tv as to me it is like people arguing. I don't really know why I have a reaction like this, but I do.

Hi there, well i think we just have to listen to both sides and let them solves their problems and not to mingle with their troubles as much as possible, coz if you do, then things might get worst and maybe at the end, you'll be the one who'll be a bad person after all. Don't also try to go for only one side and give your support to only one. Just listen to them and just let the situation be cool off, wait for a little while and then start to talk with them one by one by telling them, that's its better if they can solve their problems and not fight. Have a nice day ahead from Kiko and happy posting and earning here in MyLot and Godspeed.

Hi littlefranciscan! Oh, that is the most difficult situation you are in and that is the kind of situation I really don't want to be caught in. However, that happened to me before and I tried to be a peacemaker. I listened endlessly to both but never said anything to both persons involved in what they say to each other negatively. I just told them that I understand them both and tell them that they are both important to me. If there is a good chance that I could have them both in one place at the same time, I will so they could talk things over without being resentful but that is only when I feel that the anger has already subsided in some ways. Take care and have a nice day.

This is a very difficult position to be in, I have tried through out my life to stay out of things like this, and I have learnt over time certainly not to take sides when it is a married couple arguing as you can end up the bad guy in the end...