Why should I feel bad?
By devilsangel
@devilsangel (1817)
United States
September 18, 2007 5:57am CST
Ok I guess this is sort of a rant for me. I'm getting so fed up with people trying to make me feel bad or less of a person because of my weight. I am not by any means a small person, however, I am happy with who I am. What the hell gives others the right to tell me that becasue I'm not a size 4 that I'm not attractive or my weight is unacceptable? Who are they to tell young women that they have to fall within a certian weight range in order to be sexy or desierable? What the hell are we trying to do to people? What gives others the right to demolish someone's self esteem because they don't think that their size is appropriate? When did we become such a shallow society that size mattered more than the person? That physical apperiance more of a defining factor than the person within? Frankly people assume that just because a person isn't a certian size that they don't care about themselves or that they lack self respect or motivation. What a bunch of bull. People are not built the same for a reason and to start trying to force everyone to look a certian way or fit a certian style is just wrong. So for ever person thats not the "perfect size" good for you. Be happy with who you are, work to maintain your own personal goal and don't let anyone tell you you are any less important or attractive or wanted just because you don't fit into their idea of what it should be.
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@KrazyKlingon (5005)
• United States
19 Sep 07
The only person who MIGHT be able to mention anything about unacceptable weight is your doctor. Uusally, in his case, he's looking out for your health & not looks. It does seem that over the decades, many have suffered from people criticizing about their weight, & it led to eating disorders of sorts.
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@devilsangel (1817)
• United States
19 Sep 07
Yea a doctor to me is the only person who is somewhat allowed to say something about weight. Whats funny is the only time my doctor has ever said anything about my weight was when I was pregnant and I wasn't gaining any. I wasn't losing weight but I wasn't gaining weight either. I had leveled out which I guess meant that I was losing weight. I still don't quite understand that weirdness.
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@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
18 Sep 07
"Frankly people assume that just because a person isn't a certian size that they don't care about themselves or that they lack self respect or motivation"
THAT ticks me off in the worst of ways! I can't stand when ppl make that assumption! Sadly society has been like that for decades and it seems to be getting worse (as is with much in society) as the yrs go by.....
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@devilsangel (1817)
• United States
18 Sep 07
It makes me mad to a great extent also. I'm not a little person but I am far from lazy and I have a great deal of self respect and motivation. I work out every night, I walk every day and I have a pretty healthy diet. I tend to not really care what others say about my weight because I am happy with me. I'm even thinking of modeling again for local plus size shops.
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@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
19 Sep 07
"I'm even thinking of modeling again for local plus size shops. "
OmG that would be fabulous! You used to model before?? Thats awesome....As for being happy with you, kudos! I for the most part am happy with how I look (though I am trying to lose some wt for various reasons)..and i'm far from lazy and I certainly dont have a self esteem issue like I used to yrs back...
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@devilsangel (1817)
• United States
19 Sep 07
When I was in 9th grade I was in modeling school and did a few fashon shows for some of the local stores where I use to live. I did it for about a year and it got to be way to much. I liked it mostly cause I got to keep the clothes I'd wear at the shows.
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@nmhschic2004 (1238)
• United States
20 Sep 07
You shouldnt feel bad! Who cares what other people think/say. A lot of these people just think they are better then everyone else. Looks dont define a person. Its all about personality! This is something that makes me mad. And i always butted heads in school with people out appearance. And your right you should be happy for who you are. People with this kind of attitude is one of the reasons why so many girls today are obsessed with their weight.
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@HighReed1 (1126)
• United States
19 Sep 07
I dealt with the same type of crap, starting in junior high school. I was taller than most of the girls, even though I was not fat. I was made to feel like a freak.
Now, my weight has fluctuated. I still wear what I want to, including my bikini. My skinny sister-in-law was horrified. I told her if people didn't like it, they didn't have to look at me.
Where I work now, I am one of the slimmer girls. None of the bigger ladies even care if they aren't 'the perfect weight'. They still dress to the hilt in their size and enjoy life.
The size zero mentality is what causes perfectly healthy girls to develop serious eating habits.
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@devilsangel (1817)
• United States
19 Sep 07
I know how ya feel I really do. If someone was to look in my closet they'd think I had the truely expensive taste in clothes because when I want to I dress stylish. Honestly though my clothes are not that expensive and I get most of my jeans and nice shirts from walmart :) Yea I sometimes shop at big name stores but why pay twice as much for the same stuff? I refuse to let someone try and make me feel like I'm not as good or not atractive. I'm damn sure not about to starve myself just so someone can feel better.
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@sephrenia (567)
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18 Sep 07
Hey,
I'm sorry to hear that you are getting stupid remarks about your weight. I'm an english size 14 and some people have told me that because i dont have curves in the right places, I'm fat.
I say get lost! its my body, i love it the way it is curves and all and I've got two kids to show for them. I love my stretchmarks too, they're my battle scars so go away and find something interesting to do with yourself, hopefully something considered anatomically impossible.
I admire your stance and i think more women should stand up and say we dont care about being model thin, were happy as we are. Way to go you!
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@devilsangel (1817)
• United States
18 Sep 07
I have never been a small person, even as a teen I was a bit bigger than the other girls. I have however been healthy and I will remain that way. I think people who try and make others feel bad about their size are just reflecting their own insecurities and are trying to make someone else feel bad so they won't.
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@dpurchas (91)
• United States
19 Sep 07
I am really with you on this one. I have weight problems genetically in my family and I have been fighting that battle since I was in grade school. In my case, I really want to be a little slimmer, but mostly because of health issues. Not because of how others view me. Luckily in my world, not many say anything about my weight. It is about who I am and what I do in their lives. Society is way to wound up about the perfect hard body. It makes me self conscious sometimes, but I really like food and I can't see eating rabbit food to appease someone elses view of what I should look like. Life is too short to not enjoy it to the fullest. You go!
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@devilsangel (1817)
• United States
19 Sep 07
lol@rabbit food, I so understand what ya mean. I've pretty much figured out that diets are not healthy for people. A diet is a quick fix to stuff and as soon as you get off your diet your weight will come back. I think if people truely want to lose weight for the right reasons and be healthy its a lifestyle change that is needed. Keep a certian activity level, eat, but eat healthy, and above all be happy with yourself. Stress is the number one cause of weight gain and it henders a persons ability to lose weight if they are trying. So stay chill and relax, after that life is a bit more enjoyable.
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@rosie_123 (6113)
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19 Sep 07
Well at the end of the day the only person that really matters is yourself. If you are happy with yourself and your own body, and comfortable with your own skin, then that is all that matters. As another poster pointed out earlier here, the only person who may have a right to say anything is your Doctor, if he'she feels your weight is a health issue, as most of us know that being overweight does mean extra problrems for heart disease, blood pressure, diabetes and some cancers. But other than that, it is purely a matter for yourself and no one else.
@ailema4ever (2668)
• Finland
19 Sep 07
I'm sorry to hear that, Devilsangel. It is clear to me that those people are the ones who have weight issues, not you. Confidence and contentment come from the inside, not the outside. It's sick that people trying to make you feel bad about your weight. They're a pitiful bunch. :-(((((
I'm glad that you're happy with who you are 'coz I don't think that those people who commented on your harshly are happy with who they are. You should pity them. Only people who have issues will make other people feel bad by trying to bring them down.
I hope you can limit yourself to meeting those negative people and surround yourself with more positive people. And I hope later on those negative people will understand what's truly the problem: their own issues, not you!!!!!!!!
