Spicing up a relationship

United States
September 19, 2007 2:49am CST
Des anyone have suggestions on how to spice up a relationship on a small budget with little time? I love my boyfriend, but I feel like our relationship is a little dull because I go to school full-time, work part-time, and raise three girls. I see him on the weekends, but not usually for very long. He works as an independent contrator who is on call. When we first met, neither of us was so busy. He wants me to move in with him after I graduate so we can see each other more. Does anyone have ideas on how to spend more time learning about each other when time is such a factor?
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
19 Sep 07
Well hopefully you didn't split and you'll read this. Here's a few things you may want to try. Like what the last responder said, take a bath together. A shower can work, but a bath is much more relaxing. Go out to the park and have a picnic. It doesn't have to be complex but a picnic out on a warm sunny day is fine. Stargaze. It doesn't have to be advanced, just go out at night and look up at the stars. You can even do this from your place or his place, outside on the porch or deck. Bring a favorite drink, maybe tea. Look at the stars and talk to each other. I think you'll be surprised what conversations could pop up. Kidnap him! If you can, keep the kids with a sitter and plan a good time to do this stunt. Pick him up from work or home and take him out somewhere. A nearby town is fine, or if thats not possible just go to somewhere you really want to go with your boyfriend Work on a project together. For common ground, maybe it can be something not so "gender favored". I'll say baking. Bake some bread, cookies or a cake and do it together. Its a lot of time to prepare the item and a lot of conversation time between the two of you. Plus you get a tasty product at the end. Homemade candlelight dinner. Its a common and cozy setting, plus you get time to catch up with each other. I hope all of this can help you at least in some capacity.
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• United States
19 Sep 07
Actually, these are some good ideas. I want to kidnap him, but it is hard to schedule time. I think that soon I will have put us first for a change. It will be his birthday in October and I want to plan something special. He is real indecisive, so I can't ask him what he wants to do because he will just say he wants to do what I want. He already told me that much. I have thought of some of these suggestions becfore, but I thought he may think they are dumb. Now I am encouraged to try it anyway because hearing these ideas from people I don't know has given me a new confidence that I am heading in the right direction. He doesn't know how to cook, but he loves to eat! I bet he will be game for a couple of new adventures.
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
19 Sep 07
It sounds like you have quite a loving person there. Here's wishing you both the best with your relationship. :) And if it really works and it comes down to the ultimate step http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1262085.aspx I've got him (or maybe you) covered on that :)
• United States
20 Sep 07
I know exactly where you are coming from. I own a business, and my husband works long hours and then comes home to help with my business. We also have a small child, so we rarely get to spend time together. I have found that we "grow" as a couple much more if when we do spend time together we don't talk about work or any other stresses. If we just concentrate on each other and cherish the small amount of time we do get together 30 minutes feels like hours, and we grow together rather than complain about the time we have to spend apart. As far as "spicing things up" be spontaneous! Men love a surprise every now and then. If you know you are going to have an hour one Saturday surprise him in the bedroom. Do something he would never picture you doing or expect from you. You may only be with him for an hour, but he will think about that hour for months!!!