September 19, 2007 10:19pm CST
Is smoking is one of the way to release the pressure?? But i hate the person who smokes!!Since i was young, i have saw many people smoke, then i also hate that guy also..but my bf is a smoker, i have ask him to quit it. He told me he will do it slowly, so i really hope he can stop it that for his own health. So do u meet this before, how you presuade the smoker quit smoking?? Pls teach me!!!
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26 Sep 07
i have a suitor before who is a chain smoker. thats the only bad side he has. he dont have any other forms of addiction or bad habits, just smoking. i have asthma so i cant tolerate his behaviour, so i asked him to quit smoking so we can be together but instead he stop courting me. so i guess he chose smoking over me.. :( now he is suffering from a lung cancer at such an early age. im so sorry for him and he even told me that i was right all along. now he's stil under medication and i hope he will get well... :)
20 Sep 07
how to write a comment while im a smoke also.hmmm yes i can put it in this way that smoking does relieve a bit of our pressures,but in the end even i myself thinks that smokes isnt cool. Well it is just a bad habit. Know what smokers like me whom is heavy,once we got up from bed, 1 stick, go bathroom 1 stick..and so on. Smokers have a lot of reasons though they promise that they will give up gradually,well i was there before in your bf place and my ex used to nag nag nag. But did i give up? No. i didnt and i have smoke for more than 14 years,which 1 to 2 pack a day. Its about commitment whether your bf wanna quit or not. You may put some restriction on him..if he wanna smoke..make him buy from you. Hehe..sell him at a higher price. And spot check him not to buy from others. Hmmm..i believe this is the best way to force him out from taking another stick :)
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20 Sep 07
People who smoke make the choice to do so and nothing a non smoker can say or do will make them stop. It is a legal activity and it is a choice they freely made. I do not smoke and I wish the whole world would quit but I know that I can't impose my views on others. You can tell your boyfriend you love him and are very concerned about his future health and would like him to quit but the rest is up to him. He has to be ready to do it and committed to doing it. My father quit after more than 40 years and it was really tough - and too late. But it can be done if the person wants to do it. But if they aren't ready to quit or don't want to, you either have to live with it or leave the person if it really bothers you. Hating people who smoke is sad. I don't like that people smoke and endanger themselves and others but I certainly don't hate them. I am lucky to be surrounded by non smokers and can't think of anyone close to me who smokes but I don't hate anyone who does. I just hope they will quit before they end up with problems from it. I saw what smoking can do and it isn't pretty AT ALL. But, in your case, all you can do is to tell your boyfriend how you feel. If he doesn't stop then you have to accept him for who he is and maybe ask him to go outside or to not smoke around you (That is what I would do if my sig other smoked). If you really can't stand it, you may not be able to have a relationship with him. Good luck.
20 Sep 07
Wotfpatty, thank for ur comment. I have told him my feeling then he told me that is not an easy things want to quit. But i din't mean i want him quit on the spot, he could quit it slowly as he want to do so. Actually he also know me very dislike people smoke, then sometime he also joke in front of friends that the smoke is so smelly. At this moment, i still can stand it because he wont smoke in front of me as he promise to me. So i just wait the time that he can quit it and say goodbye to it.