How to avoid a nasty relative!

@Mirita (2668)
United States
September 20, 2007 1:47pm CST
Well, my husband's niece is very disrespectful with my husband and he hasn't had any contact with her for years because of her negative personality. The problem is that his sister is coming from the Philippines and wants to see him. She will be staying with her daughter.My husband loves his sister very much and wishes to see her ,but feels that she is a terrible mother for not teaching good manners to her kids. At the same time, he doesn't wish to see his niece since he doesn't want any family problems. Do you think his sister should force her daughter to start treating her uncle with respect. I don't think that I would allow my sons to treat my family in a bad way.
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@terrych (1227)
• United States
20 Sep 07
How old is the niece? I think in this case your husband have to think about what is more important for him. and in the worse case scenario he can go out with his sister!
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
21 Sep 07
Well, the niece is 36 years old. His sister is 11 years older than him. He is the baby of his family and his sister took care of him when he was small. The niece doesn't want the mom to have a relationship with my husband ,so she might do whatever it takes to prevent them to see eachother.
@terrych (1227)
• United States
21 Sep 07
If she is 36, she should be have as an adult, and let your husband and his sister get together and have a good time. If she still try to heve them apart, I think you should try ti ignore her behavior and do what you want, because if your husband does not see his sister, then you got in the ugly game your niece is playing! My best advice is do no let her to interfere between your husband and his sister! And pray for your niece, she really need it!
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• United States
20 Sep 07
I would never allow my son to disrespect a relative or in fact anyone who is older than him or in an authority position. I think a child should be diciplined for being rude or disrespectful!
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
21 Sep 07
Yes, my two boys always respect any person in an authority position. The excuse that his sister always gives to my husband is that she is only a plain housewife.
@jillbeth (2710)
• United States
20 Sep 07
It would be nice if the sister would explain to her daughter that she SHOULD treat him respectfully, and explain that it upsets her to see her daughter treat her brother this way. If the girl has any respect at all for her mother she should comply. We all make mistakes as parents and do the best we know how at the time. For whatever reason she lets her children disrespect others, your husband shouldn't let it keep him from seeing his sister. Could you invite the sister to your house without the niece, or take her out to dinner or some other public place without the niece? If he doesn't see his sister very often, perhaps he could just turn a deaf ear to what the niece says and act like it doesn't bother him even though it does. Let it be her problem, not his. I know it will be hard, but sometimes we have to learn to just put up with difficult people.
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
21 Sep 07
I know sometimes we have to learn to deal with difficult people. I feel bad for my husband because is a very difficult situation for him.