Another bad day
By brendakaya
@brendakaya (2332)
United States
September 20, 2007 6:52pm CST
I cam home from work, to another dead cat. This makes 7 cats, that my mother in law has run over in my driveway, in the past 6 or 7 years, that I know of. Of course, she doesn't acknowledge it, or say she's sorry, she just treats it like it's no big deal. In fact, if you say anything to her, she flat out lies and denys it. I don't know what to do. I'm just about to the point, of laying heavy blocks in my driveway, or something, every morning before I go to work, just to keep her away. If my pets aren't even safe in their own driveway, where would they be safe. My life would be so much easier, if I could get away from my husband and his mom. They are nothing but downers to me. Does anybody else have this problem? If so, how do you deal with it. Talking to her, doesn't do any good, and my husband thinks it's ok, because she's old. I think he needs to take her drivers license away, if she can't drive. She's knocked my sons mailbox down, at least 3 times in the past year.
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
21 Sep 07
OMG really brendie?? she'd killed a total of 7 cats?? that's awful. how old is she anyway? i've never had this kind of problem but i think you should convince your husband to take your mother-in-law's license. who knows, it might not be a cat she'd run over in the future, it might be a person! its dangerous to still let oldies to drive.
if you want to go away from your husband and mother-in-law, then why do you keep staying with them?
i hope everything goes okay with you brendie. be cool. ^__^ things will get better in the end.
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@brendakaya (2332)
• United States
21 Sep 07
She's 80, or will be in MArch. I agree, she shouldn't be driving. My husband knows that she's a bad driver, but he won't do anything, because he don't want to make her mad. I stay here, because I have too many pets to find a place to move to, and I own this, and I hate to give it up. I wish they'd leave. She lives in a trailor on our property.
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
22 Sep 07
oh i see. and 80-year old shouldnt be dricing anymore! is your husband a mama's boy?? ^__^;; why is he afraid to talk to her mother? even if she gets angry what could she possibly do to him? or she has health problems?
you've got a real problem brendie and i dont have any ideas to solve them except to talk with your in-law and husband. i know how can a house member be a pain in the azz. although we dont have oldies in our house, except for my mother which is only 62 and still working, i get my dose of headache from my nieces and nephew. ^__^;;
praying for the best for you brendle boop! ^__^
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@thefortunes (2367)
• Netherlands
21 Sep 07
Brendakaya, this is really a terrible situation, and I am so sorry that your mother in law has killed so many innocent cats. And I can understand perfectly what you are going through. Of course, your husband is the one to talk to her, but if he doesn't, and she doesn't listen to you and denies her wrong doings, there is very little you could do.
Are you sure the police will do nothing if you press charges? Maybe than your husband will finally do something? Or at least tell him you will do it and see his reaction?
Good luck and let us know how this situation evolves ;)
TheFortunes
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@brendakaya (2332)
• United States
21 Sep 07
I'm sure they won't do anything, I'm sure they'd just say it was an accident. It's on private property, and all. I think I may put up some "no trespassing" signs, and put her name on them. I'm just so tired of her carelessness.
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@prettygirl_80650 (306)
• United States
21 Sep 07
i would ask that she not park in the driveway any longer she can park on the street. My mother in law is the same way she doesnt like animals and complains when she hears out dog barking in the background. I have told her if you dont like coming over here because of the animals then dont my husband can meet you some where you dont have to deal with them
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@brendakaya (2332)
• United States
21 Sep 07
I agree. My mother in law doesn't need to be driving up my driveway, anyway. My husband goes down there, several times a day. My son, said she did it, just by turning around in my driveway. Sounds like she backed over her, (my cat)repeatedly. I am so disgusted with her.
@oneneaner (76)
• United States
21 Sep 07
Yikes. The whole cat thing sounds almost passive aggressive. Could there be something else going on?
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@brendakaya (2332)
• United States
21 Sep 07
She's just careless, she don't pay attention to where she's going. She just backs up, she doesn't even look to see if there's anything behind her. I don't think she does it on purpose.
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@texasclassygal (5305)
• United States
21 Sep 07
Oh that is crazy, does the woman not have a heart, what is she thinking? I would put lots of blocks, bricks and anything else in my driveway with such a crazy driver in my family, you need to protect what animals you have left there is no telling how many she kills just driving down the road ... what state are you in??
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@texasclassygal (5305)
• United States
22 Sep 07
Nothing against YOU, but I am glad your MIL is not my neighbor .. our dogs are forever digging out or crawling over the fence for freedom and most times run away a pretty good distance, I always feel blessed that they are never run over, probably couldn't say that in your neighborhood.
Be well, my friend!
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@brendakaya (2332)
• United States
23 Sep 07
I truly understand. She drove up here, again today, and I almost freaked out.
@brendakaya (2332)
• United States
22 Sep 07
I am in Ohio. Yes, I was just telling my son, Josh, that I am either gonna put some nails or boards with nails, down there where she's turning around, and maybe the old hag will get a flat tire and stay out of there. Yes, she's probably ran over alot of animals just driving down the road. As many of mine as she's run over, in my driveway, and yard.
@rosie_123 (6113)
•
21 Sep 07
Oh Brenda - I'm so sorry. I know how much you love your cats. About your Mother-in-law, - well I don't know how old she is, but in some countries she would be legaly obliged to have a re-test annually over a certain age to check her eyesight and reactions, and if they were not up-to-scratch, her licence would be revoked. About the jusband - well you know my views - I would just leave if he made me that unhappy, - and expecially now I know about her as well. Sometimes money isn't everything - peace of mind is ore important, and I would walk out and find a bedsit somewhere with my remaining cats and see him in hell! Better be poor and content, than hang on living your life in such a sad and bitter situation. Take care.
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
21 Sep 07
If it was me, personally I'd call the police and turn her in. But then I've been told I'm mean that way. Short of keeping your cats inside when your away...I don't know what else to tell you. Since you say your husband thinks it's ok since she's old, I wonder if he'd feel that way if it was a child or you that she ran into or over? She really sounds like she shouldn't be driving at all.
**AT PEACE WITHIN**
~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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@brendakaya (2332)
• United States
22 Sep 07
I think he's blind to the fact, that she would hit a child. But he says, I know she didn't hit it on purpose, she don't even see me half the time". Funny, he still seems ok with her driving, and she can't see him. He's 6 foot tall, and 260 pounds.
@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
21 Sep 07
I am very sorry to hear about your cats...It doesn't sound to me like she is a very capable driver...She needs to be re-tested before she kills a person....I don't understand why she would be doing this...I have never had this happen so I am not going to be very good help...I would put something in your driveway to keep her out. Does she live with you? Sorry that this is happening...Your husband needs to wake up and deal with his mother...Take care...
@brendakaya (2332)
• United States
21 Sep 07
She doesn't live with me, but she lives in a trailor on our land. I agree, she's not a capable driver. SHe's almost 80, and wasn't a very good driver, when she was younger, either. She don't pay attention, especially when she's backing up.
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@restlesslimbs (174)
• United States
24 Sep 07
This is sad and disturbing. Even if she isn't doing this on purpose, it's terrible that she has killed at least six cats that way. I send my condolences and I hope no more of your cats are lost to this woman's poor driving.
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@luvcatzzz (207)
• United States
24 Sep 07
WTF?! are you SERIOUS?! dear god woman, take her keys away, report her to the DMV, do SOMETHING! holy crap, this is NUTS! the first one she killed she would NOT BE WELCOME at my house anymore!
and she's probably gonna not only kill your cats but people out on the roadways! she's a menace!
and if your husband won't step up, you need to get rid of 'em both. you go girl.. and i do mean GOOOO! crickey you don't need viral people like that in your life. seriously.
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@brendakaya (2332)
• United States
24 Sep 07
Thank you. I feel the same way. She's definitely a menace. My husband left a little while ago, to renew his license, and I stayed home today from work, and she didn't know that. lol I know she saw him leave, and she puled up here, to nose around, and saw I was here, and turned around and left. I am going out in a minute, to make sure everybody's ok. If not, I'm really going on the warpath. I've never been really crazy about her, she's not the loveable kind, but this last cat, was the straw that broke the camels' back. I can't tolerate her for one minute, and I can't stand her son, either. If I could afford to move, I'd be out in a second.
@3lilangels (4639)
• United States
24 Sep 07
wow thats so sad and horrible to hear,those poor cats i feel for them,and my heart goes out to them and you.i definatly think your husbands needs to get his mothers license taking away before she does it again.hubby needs a reality check so his mother dont do something again to someone or something.older people should get the driving test at a certain age retested forsure.hope all is well hon and a great big hug to you.xoxo.pattie
@applecartronnie (1984)
• India
21 Sep 07
GOD BLESS you my dear friend. every thing will be fixed alright by GOD MOST KIND soon.
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@budsr03 (2350)
• Canada
24 Sep 07
How anyone could hurt or maim an animal and feel nothing is beyond my thinking! No apoligy, no concern, not a tear spent is complete selfishness and heartless! The least i would do is disable her vehicle over and over again if i had to! Take care Brenda.
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@brendakaya (2332)
• United States
24 Sep 07
Thank you, Bud. I agree. But this is an old woman, who can talk to her chickens like they are pets, and then murder them.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
22 Sep 07
This is horrible, I really don't know what to say. I know you're having so many problems with your mother-in-law and husband...uh, to put it mildly to begin with....Isn't there someway just to ditch these two..SERIOUSLY--I was reading further down, and I know just packing up and saying the hell with it is out of the question, but why don't you just throw these two losers out...I really hope you don't take my words here the wrong way, but it sounds like you life isn't a picnic to begin with, and then to have to cope with your mother-in-law killing your cats, and your husband not giving a shat--too much!!
You have no idea how much I just wanted to pack up and leave when my mother was alive...talk about a downer person, and she caused so many major problems in our lives, yet, she too, never acknowledged any wrong doing--I just didn't have the money to leave I too, was in a stuck situation--
and yes, your mother-in-law's license should be taken away--how do you know next time, she doesn't accidentally run into a child on one of her drives?
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@brendakaya (2332)
• United States
23 Sep 07
Without a divorce, I can't really make him get out, and she has a life estate on her part of the property, but she has no reason, or right to come up on this one. If I could kick them out, they'd be gone.
lol
@KATRINKA (1624)
• United States
23 Sep 07
Oh my gosh! I don't know what to say! I'm so sorry! This woman sounds like she has a lot of problems, not knowing how to drive being the least of them. I wish there were something more I could do or say. It doesn't sound like a good home situation. If you can leave, leave. Life is too short. I'll be thinking of you...
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@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
22 Sep 07
well at least its not you that runs them over. My friend has killed 3 cats (her own) so far (they average stay at the house is about 3 months).
I dont know what you can do to prevent this from happening poor things maybe you can tell her to park the car outside the house or something Whell today is cats and 2morow can be a person if she is so bad at driving.
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