lost and rejected...oh, it hurts!
By izathewzia
@izathewzia (5134)
Philippines
September 21, 2007 5:39pm CST
This is actually one of the title of my blogs at Yuwie. I wrote it upon seeing those potential friends of mine deleted me from their friends' list or rejected my request to add me up.
I can not fully explain how it feels. But a 'thug' in my heart. Maybe I am hurt but not that much. But just like in any other sites perhaps, if it normally happening, then I must accept it.
I am presently working on increasing my referrals and friends in different on-line programs I am busy engaged with. So, this happening is one of those 'hurtful' experience that I need to be strong in encountering.
How do you deal with this kind of experience anyways? Need some ideas here. Thanks!
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10 responses
@Jemina (5770)
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22 Sep 07
I have been rejected several times at yuwie but I don't mind. They are people I don't know personally and I guess they just want to be connected with their real friends.
You must understand that people want some privacy even online. Don't take it personally, there are thousands of them out there who would be more than happy to be in your circle of friend.
By the way, if you want to add me my username is the same. See you there.
@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
23 Sep 07
Yah, it is what I must consider also. They ae not really that sociable. That all they wanted was to be with people they personally knew and perhaps real friends. Thanks for the invites!
@Stiletto (4579)
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22 Sep 07
There are only 2 reasons I reject a friends request on Yuwie. Either there is something weird about their profile (I've had a couple of "swingers" asking to be my friend!) or else when I look at their profile all I can see is a load of stuff about referrals - how to get more, how many they've got, how to make money on Yuwie (yawn). I just find that very tedious and it's unlikely I would accept a friends request from someone that did that. I like to have friends that talk about interesting stuff - not just about how much money they make.
I wouldn't take it personally though - if people don't know you and if you don't fall into either of the above categories then they are just making a fairly random decision which doesn't reflect personally on you.
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@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
23 Sep 07
I see. Thanks for giving me an idea why some rejects invites to add up.
@sanell (2112)
• United States
22 Sep 07
It can be very difficult at times, I think that there are a lot of websites out there that you can make money at which is great, but again, there are so many that it can be tough to keep up with those new ones, when you know that promoting them could be so lucrative. Then you have those stingy folks, who want true realtionships from everyone, and their expectations can be much higher than the average person (Like myself) ZBecuse they have time on their hands, unlike some of us more busier people (I do stay home but I take care of a 3 and 1 year old and both are quite active) I have a signon with Yuwie and I swear it is all I can do to get on line there even just one time per month. It can be very difficult so kudos to you for being as active as you are with all your many sites, I hope soon I can be better at doing that. I just have a lot on my plate right now it is just not even funny. I love mylot though and I cherish all my friends here, I would never reject you!!
Hugs
Sanell
@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
23 Sep 07
Okay, just make the best of your time. thanks for replying.
@MomOfAngel (138)
• United States
24 Sep 07
Well, I have had a lot of friend requests that I have made and about 80% of them have not been answered.
I just go with the flow though, it doesn't hurt my feelings.
@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
24 Sep 07
Yah, that's it, just go with the flow. Thanks for replying.
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
23 Sep 07
Yeah it hurts, but I am use to it by now.
On myspace I had someone go as far as block me because I questioned her with what she was doing.
And I do have high standards and on Yuwie someone left a questionable comment and I deleted it and then they deleted me. Oh well, I think it is their loss and I just go on..
So if someone rejected or deleted you, forget them and go on..:)
@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
24 Sep 07
Yah, maybe I can just go on and search for other people who are willing to accpet and makes me their friend..without deleting me afterwards.
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@wondericequeen (7876)
• Hong Kong
22 Sep 07
That's weird! I notice that some of my friends there are not really active but I won't think of deleting them, you know? I hope they could come back and enjoy the Yuwie site. I am sorry it has happened to you. If you want to have one more friends, you are welcome to add me there. My ID is wondericequeen! Don't let that get you down, I am sure you will have more wonderful friends there instead.
@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
22 Sep 07
I won't do it either. I won't delete or reject someone who could be a friend. I will perhaps block some who will cause me problems.
@barbaraeyre (326)
• United States
22 Sep 07
I don't take it personally either. It isn't going to make or break my career online if someone doesn't want me on their friend's list. You can still view their profile pages and rate their profile to add to your page view count.
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@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
22 Sep 07
Yah, it sounds better. I will still view their pages once I have a chance so it will add up to paid page views. Thanks for the idea!
@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
15 Jul 08
It is not a "big deal" when people rejected or deleted me on online list.. I son't care whether they want/like me to be their friends.. This is just an online friends, and sometimes not all in our friends list are really our friends.. Sometimes, (we like it or not to admit) we make a referrals and invite friends to be part of this site because it add points in us.. We gain something from them.. But if it is in real life situation, when someone rejected us or course it is really hurt and difficult to accept but then again, here on online only few people that we know and most of them are strangers... Hope you wont get mad with what I've said.. 
@aussieblonk (236)
• Australia
17 Jul 08
I have over 800 friends on my list in yuwie, I have maybe rejected two requests from people with private profiles, and deleted one person after they bad mouthed me.
Most people I speak with, and i'm there EVERY day, are reluctant to delete, quick to add, and friendlier than any site i have encountered.
It must be said that some members take it very seriously, therefore if they add you and your inactive, well obviously there is no benefit for them.
If you comment, rate, and action regularly, they will always respond.
2 of my friends have over 20,000 on their list, they could not reply to each one very often, but it shows they have been keen to add members......stick with yuwie!!
